The concept of finding meaning in life while living with tragedy sparked something in me and opened me up to the possibility there could be some gifts and blessings that might arise from our trauma of losing Patrick. In the beginning, it can feel wrong to give ourselves permission to feel anything other than total despair and heartbreak over the loss of our loved one. We think we must stay in the sadness to honor our love.
Rediscovering joy and acknowledging the gifts does not mean we love them any less. On the contrary, they want us to rise up somehow and experience happiness, laughter, and fun again. They want us to soak up the goodness when it shows up in our lives.
I learned that I can feel deep sadness while at the same time immersing myself in the gifts. The two can co-exist simultaneously. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.
By encouraging you to focus on the gifts that have and will come from your loss, my intention is to offer you another dimension for your grief experience. If you can broaden your view to notice the gifts that represent hope and healing, you may find that your heart feels a little lighter; there’s a gentle reprieve from your pain, even for a moment.
Identifying the blessings is a way to soften the piercingly sharp edges of the pain. Some days this felt impossible for me, but slowly I began to see them. I started to realize that from an unimaginable loss, beautiful gifts were available to us.
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