I was thinking today about grief and child-loss, and it occurred to me that losing a child can happen as fast as turning off a light switch. Here we are going on with our daily lives living day by day. Some are happy days, some are not so happy days, but all the time thinking our lives will always be this way. Then, as quickly as turning off a light switch, our lives are forever changed.
That is how fast our lives changed when we lost our child. We were thrust into darkness, not knowing where we were going. We fumbled around in the dark, trying to find some light again but not knowing if we ever will.
People who have not experienced child-loss have a hard time imagining how fast our lives forever changed. They just do not understand how many emotions we all go through. I guess it would be to hard for them to understand. Their lives are just moving along and forward as they always have. Some happy days some sad days.
My greatest wish and hope for bereaved parents and grandparents is that someday we will be able to find light again in our lives. The light will never burn as brightly as it did when our children still walked this earth. But maybe someday we will be able to see our way out of the darkness and turn the light switch on once again.
Louise Lagerman 2011
Thank you for sharing this Louise. The grieving process can be long and difficult and whilst the loss of a child in the family is a defining moment in our lives, there is always light ahead (whether we can see it or not). I trust that you will find what you need to find your new direction in life, so that your days are filled with light once again. Much love to you and your family.
Thank you a lot for sharing this. I think the loss of a child is nothing anyone could imagine. I relly hope that you will find back in life and i am sure that someday there will be light again for you. I wish you and your familiy the best and a lot of strength.
Thank you Louise, you express yourself so well. My daughter died 9 months ago and I am experiencing the most agonising pain. Every day I wake up to another day without her and some days I feel I can’t go on but I do. I found this the other day written by Daphne Du Maurier entitled “The enduring nature of love”
Look on each day that comes as a challenge, as a test of courage. The pain will come in waves, some days worse than others, for no apparent reason. Accept the pain. Little by little, you will find new strength, new vision, born of the very pain and loneliness which seem, at first, impossible to master.