My greatest wish and hope for bereaved parents and grandparents is that someday we will be able to find light again in our lives. The light will never burn as brightly as it did when our children still walked this earth. But maybe someday we will be able to see our way out of the darkness and turn the light switch on once again.
I was thinking today about grief and child-loss, and it occurred to me that losing a child can happen as fast as turning off a light switch. Here we are going on with our daily lives living day by day. Some are happy days, some are not so happy days, but all the time thinking our lives will always be this way. Then, as quickly as turning off a light switch, our lives are forever changed.
That is how fast our lives changed when we lost our child. We were thrust into darkness, not knowing where we were going. We fumbled around in the dark, trying to find some light again but not knowing if we ever will.
People who have not experienced child-loss have a hard time imagining how fast our lives forever changed. They just do not understand how many emotions we all go through. I guess it would be to hard for them to understand. Their lives are just moving along and forward as they always have. Some happy days some sad days.
Louise Lagerman 2011