At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Stephanie Rose about men and miscarriage and the unacknowledged loss.

Men sometimes respond differently to miscarriages. Stephanie explains more about this in the video below.

Here are some key takeaways from the video:

• Stephanie’s research suggests that men can experience an array of emotions after their wife has had a miscarriage, but those emotions often brushed under the rug.
• When a man’s wife experiences a miscarriage, the man always gets asked “how is your wife doing?” vs. “how are you feeling?” A man’s feelings in this situation are not often considered, the focus is always on the woman.
• Stephanie’s goal with her research is to help men have an outlet where they can talk to her.
• Stephanie will be conducting interviews where men are welcomed to share their experience with her and be the focus of attention.
• After a man’s wife has had a miscarriage, Stephanie explains that it’s important to ask him how he’s doing. It’s a simple gesture that would be well received.
• There’s not a lot of information out there about men respond to miscarriage, but the research Stephanie has conducted so far shows that men do grieve after a miscarriage. With that said, Stephanie feels it’s important to continue exploring what the experience is like for them.

For more video interviews, please see the Open To Hope YouTube channel.

You can also view our response to a husband’s question of “when is it time to try again after miscarriage?“