When you meet someone new, it’s the heat that won’t break, the dry cleaner down the street that’s too expensive, 

how you take your coffee. 

 

We sat over dinner. 

He sent the dish back— 

too spicy, he said, 

as if it were the dish 

that missed the mark. 

 

They brought something softer. He thanked them, 

moved on. 

 

So did I. 

 

The questions came 

in their usual spacing— 

easy enough 

to keep things level. 

 

He asks it 

and reaches for his glass 

before I answer. 

 

How many children? 

 

I feel the ice in my glass, 

condensation dripping onto the table. 

 

A constellation is 

missing a star— 

I could explain the physics, 

or let the sky 

stay beautiful.

Water is puddling beneath my glass. He nods to the waiter. 

 

We continue— 

I don’t move, 

water running off the table 

onto my knee.

 

POEM GUIDE AND REFLECTION 

THE THRESHOLD OF TRUTH 

Theme: Deciding whether to speak about loss. 

This poem centers on a moment when a direct question touches on loss. The speaker pauses between answering fully and maintaining the surface of the interaction. Grief can remain unspoken in ordinary settings. 

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Dan Stern

Daniel Stern is a retired engineer-turned-astronomer, astrophotographer, and poet whose work explores grief, silence, memory, and renewal. His writing lives at the intersection of science and emotion, where careful observation becomes reflection and language reaches toward what cannot be measured. With a lifelong foundation in analytical thinking, Stern brings a quiet precision to his poetry—grounding it in lived experience while allowing space for ambiguity, wonder, and the unspoken. A defining turning point in his life—and in his writing—was the sudden loss of his son at age 40 from an undiagnosed heart condition. This profound grief reshaped not only his personal world but also his creative voice. What began as a private attempt to make sense of loss gradually evolved into a disciplined poetic practice. His work does not seek to resolve grief, but to inhabit it honestly, tracing how love persists, shifts, and continues in the presence of absence. Through this lens, his poetry resonates with those navigating loss, offering recognition rather than instruction. Stern is the author of The Roar of Silence, a collection of 15 poems born from personal loss and the search for meaning in its wake. He also authored Aphelion, a unique volume that pairs his poetry with deep-sky astrophotography, reflecting his dual passions for language and the cosmos. In both works, the vastness of space becomes a quiet counterpart to the inner landscapes he explores. As an astronomer, Stern’s astrophotography has been recognized numerous times by NASA’s Astronomy Picture of the Day (APOD). He has discovered planetary nebulae and, in collaboration with others, contributed to research published in peer-reviewed astrophysics journals. His scientific work informs his poetic sensibility, particularly in its attention to scale, light, and the unseen forces that shape both the universe and human experience. Daniel Stern lives in Delray Beach, Florida, with his wife, Randie, where he continues to write, observe, and explore the enduring dialogue between the measurable and the immeasurable.

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