Those of us who were strong were rendered helpless. Those who were numb couldn’t get out of bed. Those who were vulnerable became suicidal. This was our ‘new normal’. Our child was gone and now we were losing ourselves. And as if the loss of our child wasn’t bad enough…we all know that it was… for many there were more losses, like after shocks following an earthquake. Some lost their marriage, some had to move from their home because reminders inside and out were too painful. Some lost work, or took unpaid leave from work. As a result they lost income, and then made terrible financial decisions in order to survive. The work, the people, the requirements, the meaninglessness, the commute or the tone of someone’s voice was something we just couldn’t tolerate any longer. Not when one of the most important people in our lives…is gone.
Those of us who were strong were rendered helpless. Those who were numb couldn’t get out of bed. Those who were vulnerable became suicidal. This was our ‘new normal’. Our child was gone and now we were losing ourselves. And as if the loss of our child wasn’t bad enough…we all know that it was… for many there were more losses, like after shocks following an earthquake. Some lost their marriage, some had to move from their home because reminders inside and out were too painful. Some lost work, or took unpaid leave from work. As a result they lost income, and then made terrible financial decisions in order to survive. The work, the people, the requirements, the meaninglessness, the commute or the tone of someone’s voice was something we just couldn’t tolerate any longer. Not when one of the most important people in our lives…is gone.