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  • What Grief Has Taught Me

    Posted on July 9, 2019 - by Lisa Boehm

    My daughter Katie is now in heaven. Everything is new. Everything is different. Everything is devastatingly difficult. I’ve learned to walk, breathe, and exist without letting grief keep me down, […]

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  • Ten Ways To Keep Your Spouse’s Memory Alive

    Posted on July 9, 2019 - by Peggy Bell

    Becoming widowed is a gut-wrenching experience. It brings so much sadness and loneliness to our lives. It takes a huge adjustment to get through those days along the grief journey. […]

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  • Difficult Grief:  Three Steps to Compassion for Yourself and Others

    Posted on June 25, 2019 - by Nina Impala

    Overall humans can be pretty hard on themselves. It seems like I am always telling my clients not be to be so hard on themselves. Watch the self-talk. Imagine yourself […]

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  • Angels Walk Among Us

    Posted on June 24, 2019 - by Herb Knoll

    “Hi, my name is Richard.” Thus began my knowing a giant of a man named Richard Blount (62) as he sat down in the chair beside me. The occasion was […]

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  • Gratitude and Grief – Is it Possible?

    Posted on June 23, 2019 - by Lisa Boehm

    My experience with gratitude began about five minutes after the police and coroner visited our home the night my daughter Katie died. I remember being thankful that she died instantly. […]

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  • Fly On

    Posted on June 22, 2019 - by Rosemary James

    “You found your wings, then you flew away from me,” resonates off the newly painted, lantern-gold bedroom walls. A brighter color to enliven my spirits. We had decided to paint […]

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  • Embracing Helplessness

    Posted on May 15, 2019 - by Greg Adams

    Part of me doesn’t want to write about this—feeling and being helpless. Among the feelings I experience on a regular basis, it is one of the least favorite and possibly […]

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  • Turning Less Into More

    Posted on May 15, 2019 - by Tambre Leighn

    Well, that was unexpected. It seems, even when dozens and dozens of years have passed, grief, and what triggers it, can still surprise me. I’m writing this on Mother’s Day. […]

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  • Boy’s Don’t Cry…right?  WRONG!  And That’s Okay

    Posted on May 8, 2019 - by Herb Knoll

      From the time little boys are first able to walk, in some cases even before they can walk, parents begin shaping the psyche of their sons by telling them, […]

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  • Four Things that Helped Me When my Friend, Sarah, Died

    Posted on April 27, 2019 - by Heidi Gessner

    “If I had a flower or every time I thought of you, I could walk through my garden forever.” — Alfred Tennyson “I have some sad news about my sister […]

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  • The Breath of Life is a Touch from Heaven

    Posted on April 11, 2019 - by Nina Impala

      Our hearts continue beating no matter the sadness and visceral pain we experience when a love one dies. What else can our breathing do? Let me invite you to […]

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  • Celebration Service Brings Mother Solace

    Posted on April 7, 2019 - by Shirley Wiles-Dickinson

    My 40-year-old son, Jeff, passed away very unexpectedly on 12/13/2018. I thought my sister’s death was the worse thing I would ever go through. Then Jeff died. It is difficult […]

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  • Grief Through the Rearview Mirror

    Posted on April 7, 2019 - by Tambre Leighn

    This big, horrible thing happens. You lose the person with whom you chose to partner for the challenging, amazing, and, sometimes, scary thing called life. Each of us has our […]

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  • Well-Dressed Grief

    Posted on March 22, 2019 - by Larry Patten

    He was dressed for success. His suit was charcoal gray, shirt the blue of a perfect spring sky, both complimented by an elegant tie. Since the gentleman had just entered […]

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  • It’s Not Time That Heals Our Wounds

    Posted on March 8, 2019 - by Annah Elizabeth

      Time heals all wounds. The message has been passed down for centuries, used in memes, mimes, and has come out of many mouths from those who wish to offer […]

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  • Finding EMDR to help with Grief

    Posted on February 15, 2019 - by Catherine McNulty

    My favorite quote is from Earl Grollman when he says, “The only cure for grief, is to grieve.”  I spent a good two years lost in the throes of loss […]

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  • Death as Teacher

    Posted on February 11, 2019 - by Greg Adams

      Death is thought of in many ways. As an (or the) enemy or as a sad and tragic reality. Sometimes as an essential part of the natural cycle of […]

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  • Healing Through the Decades After a Child Dies

    Posted on February 10, 2019 - by Stacy Parker

    I am a bereaved parent. For so long, that title has defined me and the person I am now. My first daughter was born in 1995 and had a rare […]

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  • Safety in the Silence

    Posted on February 10, 2019 - by Nina Impala

    Silence can be a very safe and sacred place when one is grieving. Recently, I spoke with a woman who had a very tragic sudden death in her life. She […]

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  • The Wound Time Won’t Heal

    Posted on February 10, 2019 - by Maria Kubitz

    Time heals all wounds. We’ve all heard it. Sounds incredibly hopeful for someone who’s drowning in grief. Except when time doesn’t heal your wound.  Not enough time. It’s been years […]

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  • A Daughter, a Mother and an Unexpected Passing: Darkness Followed by a Bright Moment

    Posted on February 6, 2019 - by Emily Kil

    My wife and I are owners of a company that provides what technically is known as biohazard remediation. We provide cleanup and sanitization services when people are dealing with the […]

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  • Dropping into Memory

    Posted on February 4, 2019 - by Mike Russell

    Anniversaries come and go but some linger like the drops of rain hanging on the humming bird feeder outside.  They don’t want to let go and so they hang on […]

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  • Sometimes Men Need Their Own Sandbox

    Posted on February 4, 2019 - by Herb Knoll

      Something was wrong.  Men who followed the Facebook page, “Widowers Support Network,” just weren’t actively using it as a grief recovery tool. Then, in March of 2018, it hit […]

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  • Jason Stout: Heroic Journey, Outward Bound

    Posted on February 3, 2019 - by Heidi Horsley

    The Executive Director of Open to Hope spoke with Jason Stout of Outward Bound during the 2015 Association of Death and Counseling Conference. When asked about how he got into […]

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  • Open To Hope Inspired by Horsley Family Tragedy

    Posted on January 15, 2019 - by Gloria Horsley

    Dr. Gloria Horsley is the founder of the Open to Hope Foundation. She created the non-profit organization after losing her son, Scott, in 1983. “We thought we would never survive,” […]

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  • Dear Dad Letters: From a Bereaved Son

    Posted on January 7, 2019 - by Gary Jaworski

    Panic Attack Dear Dad, Tonight I went to a play at the Shakespeare Theater with my wife and a friend.  We sat in the middle of the theater.  I have a severe […]

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  • Trauma Treatments During Grief

    Posted on December 30, 2018 - by Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley

    Dr. Gloria Horsley and her daughter, Dr. Heidi Horsley, discuss trauma treatments in their 49th Open to Hope Foundation episode. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk of the Trauma Center at […]

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  • Lessons From One Who Has Helped Many Pass Away

    Posted on December 8, 2018 - by Nina Impala

    Let’s talk about the mysteries of death, because in death there always seems to be so many unanswered questions.  I know with my own mom, who has been gone eight […]

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  • Dear Dad Letters: Nights After Death

    Posted on December 5, 2018 - by Gary Jaworski

    Dreams Dear Dad, I’ve been having this recurring dream.  I am sitting alone in a movie theater, about halfway down the theater.  A movie is playing on the screen, but I can’t […]

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  • Jason Stout: Outward Bound

    Posted on November 28, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

    Many members of Open to Hope have attended Outward Bound’s (aptly named) outdoor sessions, including the Executive Director Gloria’s Horsley’s late son, Scott. Jason Stout has been a part of […]

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  • Candice Courtney: Rituals

    Posted on November 26, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

    “Ritual is so important, it supports us throughout our lives” including when there is a death in the family, says Candice Courtney of Scottsdale, Arizona, the author of Healing Through […]

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  • Darwin Huartson: Hospice

    Posted on November 20, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

    Darwin Huartson is part of the VITAS Innovative Hospice Care team in San Antonio, Texas, and spoke recently with Dr. Gloria Horsley about the role of hospice care—as well as […]

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  • Donna Bacon: Finding Hope and Healing After Multiple Loss

    Posted on November 18, 2018 - by Heidi Horsley

    Dr. Donna Bacon got into the field of grief because of her own personal losses, and she shared a moment with Open to Hope’s executive director Dr. Heidi Horsley. Today, […]

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  • No Choice, Some Choices, and ‘Choosement’

    Posted on October 23, 2018 - by Greg Adams

      A friend was in a horrible car crash about a year and half ago. The car was damaged beyond repair, he was left with lifetime health consequences, and most […]

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  • Don’t the Dead Take their Time Leaving?

    Posted on September 23, 2018 - by Heidi Gessner

    After my father died, I became fascinated about where he went. Someone came to take his body out of our house and to a funeral home. He was cremated and […]

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  • Why Do Therapists Warn the Bereaved that they Will Divorce?

    Posted on September 22, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

    Dr. Gloria Horsley responds: You got me. I have been a therapist for many years and have repeatedly been told that, parents who lose children divorce. Let’s see, Phil and […]

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  • Shame and Grief: Interview with Jeffrey Kauffman

    Posted on September 13, 2018 - by Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley

    At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Jeffrey Kauffman about shame after grief and how complicated grief can be the result of the shame. […]

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  • Willingness in Grief

    Posted on September 11, 2018 - by Nina Impala

    Willingness means the state of being prepared to do something, readiness. But here’s the thing you may not have been ready for a loved one dying. Your mind will ask […]

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  • Grief: A More Peaceful Definition

    Posted on September 11, 2018 - by Mike Russell

    The word “grief” brings the impression of negativity, like when you are supposed to act, feel or think a certain way.  This continues through the time line that is created […]

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  • To The Widow Struggling With Guilt

    Posted on September 3, 2018 - by Kerry Phillips

    On the outside, the world sees you hurting from the loss of your spouse. They don’t know; however, that in addition to the “normal” feelings of grief, you’re also struggling […]

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