While grieving we go through many firsts as important dates come up on the calendar. Whether it’s the first anniversary, birthday or holiday, it’s good to have coping strategies in place to rely on to help us cope. The holidays can be a particularly difficult time. While we are used to being with our family [...]
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Father’s Day Approaches as a Father Dies
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May 28, 2009
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By Gloria Lintermans – My father is dying of cancer. He will be gone before Father’s Day, having spent 93 years in a world of snow-balling change. A huge person in my life, I don’t know how to say good-bye. Experience doesn’t help. My mother died two years ago, my husband almost seven. Loss, I [...]
Widow Feels Rage About ‘God’s Plan’
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March 26, 2009
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Question from Chris: I lost my husband, Fred, on 1/5/09 after 35 years and 35 days of marriage. I am still, almost 3 months later, so devastated. We have 3 sons and I have a job. So I can stay busy. But the nights and weekends are hell. I take care of my 80-year-old father [...]
Grieving Loss in the LGBT Community
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December 17, 2008
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By Gloria Lintermans & Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. – The pain of grieving is there for all losses, whether spouse or lover. A partnership transcends labels and roles and one’s partner is primary when a strong bond exists. Regardless of how the relationship is named, the pain of loss requires healing. In life, we may [...]
Managing the Holidays: Tips For the Bereaved
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September 29, 2008
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By Gloria Lintermans & Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. – The holidays can be a particularly difficult time for those of us who have lost a loved one. We are used to being with our family members during this time, and now an important person is missing. The following are suggestions for managing the holidays. 1. [...]
The Predictable Path of Grief
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May 6, 2008
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Writer Gloria Lintermans explains the five time sequences of grief, and answers the question: When will I get through this?
LOVE: When Your Widowed Parent Re-Marries…An Adult Child’s Perspective
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February 11, 2007
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Chances are that you grew up in a two-parent family, a mom and a dad. Went to a local school, away to college, perhaps married, and maybe even had children of your own. If you are like many of us, then tragedy struck, and your mother (or father) passed away, leaving your surviving parent a [...]
LOSS and LOVE: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love
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February 7, 2007
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The unimaginable has happened; you are a widow or widower. Mourning your loss has been the focus of your life for the past year or two. Finally, as you begin to surface from your profound grief, with a deep breath and lot or a little trepidation you find yourself falling in love again. Is this [...]
LOSS: When the Heart Heals…A Widow’s Story
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January 24, 2007
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At this point, widowed for about 18 months, I met Hal the night I attended my last bereavement support group meeting. I was instantly attracted to his energy. We seemed to have a lot in common, both professionally and emotionally. I gave him my business card with the knowing feeling that he would call, but [...]
LOSS and LOVE: Love Revisited…Helpful Do’s & Don’ts for the Widow/Widower Embracing New Love
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January 20, 2007
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Is it possible to mourn the loss of a beloved spouse and, while still grieving, to not only meet someone special, but fall in love and begin to build a new relationship Is it possible to mourn the loss of a beloved spouse and, while still grieving, to not only meet someone special, but fall [...]
LOSS: When Half Of A Whole Feels Like Zero…Excerpted from The Healing Power Of Grief
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January 17, 2007
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The mental fog that had sheltered me emotionally during those first four months after my husband?s death is slowly, and painfully, beginning to clear. Coincidently, this occurs just as the world around me appears to need me to get out and on with my life. And so, I?m finding that this is an important time [...]
LOSS: The Time Sequences of Grief: Moving Through Loss
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January 13, 2007
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The loss of a spouse is one of the most difficult loses we experience as your entire day-to-day life is turned upside-down. The grieving process following this loss is divided into five time sequences of grief. One to four months would be called SHOCK, five to eight months of mourning is DENIAL, nine to twelve [...]
LOSS: Healing After Loss
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January 5, 2007
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Loss is a fact of life. Yet, following loss, their needs to be a healthy healing, a healing that allows life not only to simply continue, but with joy and determination. What are the elements that make up healing? Whether suffering from a divorce, loss of a child, loss of a parent or loss of [...]
