Gloria Lintermans

Los Angeles-based Gloria Lintermans is a former internationally syndicated columnist. Her column appeared in English and Spanish language newspapers across the U.S. from Hawaii to New York, and worldwide from Saudi Arabia to South America. Lintermans is the author of THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF: The Journey Through Loss to Life and Laughter, (Champion Press, 2006), THE HEALING POWER OF LOVE: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love (Champion Press, 2006), CHEAP CHIC: A Guide to LA's Resale Boutiques (1990), the "ultimate guide to recycled fashion," and forerunner of RETRO CHIC: A Guide to Fabulous Vintage and Designer Resale Shopping in North America & Online (Really Great Books, Los Angeles, 2002) and THE NEWLY DIVORCED BOOK OF PROTOCOL, (Barricade Books, New York, 1995). A freelance writer, she has also written for national and local magazines. Lintermans has appeared on radio and television talk shows across the country including: the "Donna Mason Show," Raleigh, NC; "Steve Kalk Show," Beaver Falls, PA; "Morning Drive with John Dawson," Albany, GA; "Tim Quinn Show," Bridgeport, CT, "What You Should Know About," Philadelphia, PA; "Memphis in the Morning," Memphis, TN; "Kent Slocum Show," Grand Rapids, MI; "The Michael Jackson Show," Los Angeles, CA, among others. She has hosted her own "Looking Great with Gloria Lintermans" cable television and radio shows and is a popular lecturer and commentator. Lintermans is a member of The Authors Guild, Inc., the National Society of Newspaper Columnists and A.F.T.R.A. (American Federation of Television & Radio Artists). Lintermans lives in Los Angeles. Gloria appeared on the radio show “Healing the Grieving Heart” with Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley to discuss “The Healing Power of Grief.” To hear Gloria being interviewed on this show, click on the following link: www.voiceamericapd.com/health/010157/horsley022808.mp3

Articles:

Father’s Day Approaches as a Father Dies

By Gloria Lintermans — My father is dying of cancer. He will be gone before Father’s Day, having spent 93 years in a world of snow-balling change. A huge person in my life, I don’t know how to say good-bye. Experience doesn’t help. My mother died two years ago, my husband almost seven. Loss, I guess, is something we never get “right”. Of one thing I am sure, while we think we can prepare for loss, truly this preparation can be only intellectual; we fool ourselves if we think we can prepare emotionally. There is much I have learned and […]

Widow Feels Rage About ‘God’s Plan’

Question from Chris: I lost my husband, Fred, on 1/5/09 after 35 years and 35 days of marriage. I am still, almost 3 months later, so devastated. We have 3 sons and I have a job. So I can stay busy. But the nights and weekends are hell. I take care of my 80-year-old father who is on dialysis (my husband and I did this together for the past 8 years). I would tell my husband we will have time together after my father goes. Now I will be left alone with no one to comfort and console me. I […]

Grieving Loss in the LGBT Community

By Gloria Lintermans & Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. — The pain of grieving is there for all losses, whether spouse or lover. A partnership transcends labels and roles and one’s partner is primary when a strong bond exists. Regardless of how the relationship is named, the pain of loss requires healing. In life, we may be exposed to mini losses several times before a major loss presents itself. We deal with it and even understand it to a small degree. Yet, we are not schooled in loss or prepared for it in life, so when we experience a larger loss […]

Managing the Holidays: Tips For the Bereaved

By Gloria Lintermans & Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. — The holidays can be a particularly difficult time for those of us who have lost a loved one. We are used to being with our family members during this time, and now an important person is missing. The following are suggestions for managing the holidays. 1. MAKE PLANS – There may be an inclination to isolate during the holidays. But making plans for the holidays helps us cope with change and gives us some much-needed structure. Too much free time can stimulate loneliness and despair. When we make plans, we often […]

The Predictable Path of Grief

Writer Gloria Lintermans explains the five time sequences of grief, and answers the question: When will I get through this?

LOVE: When Your Widowed Parent Re-Marries…An Adult Child’s Perspective

Chances are that you grew up in a two-parent family, a mom and a dad. Went to a local school, away to college, perhaps married, and maybe even had children of your own. If you are like many of us, then tragedy struck, and your mother (or father) passed away, leaving your surviving parent a widower. He, or she, has mourned the loss and, in time, while still embracing the memories of your departed parent, met someone new and fell in love, ready once again to enjoy a full life, perhaps to even re-marry, and you find yourself exchanging parenting […]

LOSS: When Half Of A Whole Feels Like Zero…Excerpted from The Healing Power Of Grief

The mental fog that had sheltered me emotionally during those first four months after my husband?s death is slowly, and painfully, beginning to clear. Coincidently, this occurs just as the world around me appears to need me to get out and on with my life. And so, I?m finding that this is an important time in my mourning because with my newfound awareness comes the need to take a stand, to ?own? my grieving

LOSS: The Time Sequences of Grief: Moving Through Loss

The loss of a spouse is one of the most difficult loses we experience as your entire day-to-day life is turned upside-down. The grieving process following this loss is divided into five time sequences of grief. One to four months would be called SHOCK, five to eight months of mourning is DENIAL, nine to twelve months is ANGER, thirteen to seventeen months is DEPRESSION, eighteen to twenty four months is INTEGRATION, ADJUSTMENT and TRANSITION.

LOSS: Healing After Loss

Loss is a fact of life. Yet, following loss, their needs to be a healthy healing, a healing that allows life not only to simply continue, but with joy and determination. What are the elements that make up healing? Whether suffering from a divorce, loss of a child, loss of a parent or loss of a spouse, we go through certain stages and reactions. Not only is it different for each person, it is different with each loss. Based on the