Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone! I’ve listed for you some things you can do on this special day in memory of your child.

Children always loved this holiday for its sweet cards, candy, stuffed animals and going out to eat. And I’m sure you will miss those moments when your child surprised you with that perfect gift. So this year enjoy yourself by sharing this holiday with loved ones who are with you and honor those only in your memory.

A small gift for everyone

You can make the day really special for all those who work for you but get little else other than wages. Be it your newspaper boy, your plumber, your doctor, your housemaid, the postman or the pizza delivery man – you can present each of them, or just the ones visible on that day, with a small token gift like a white rose or a little chocolate box. The smile you get in return will make the gesture worthwhile.

Share a treat with your colleagues

If you work in an office, it would be nice to show your thoughtfulness to colleagues on this day. Cook a nice dish and bring it to the office. If cooking is not one of your strengths, you can buy a Valentine cake and unwrap it during a break or lunchtime to share with your co-workers. It will help you celebrate the occasion with those whom you work with all year long. It could also strengthen your workplace relationships.

Make a Valentine’s Day craft

It is also a great time to bring out the creative person hidden in yourself. A beautiful Valentine’s Day craft, made all by yourself, can serve as a great home decoration item for your family to enjoy or even a nice gift for a loved one. You can use materials easily available around the home, just as your child would have done for you.

Charity begins on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is the time for love and charitable activities. Take time to visit a local hospital, a charitable center, or old age home and spend some time with ailed or old people who have none to care for them. Take a bouquet of yellow roses along and gift a flower to each of those you visit. It will produce a good feeling and this would surely be mutual. Make sure the hospital knows you are coming.

My Wish for You on this Valentine’s Day

• May love catch you by the throat and force your lips to break into a smile.

• May the files of logic be corrupted in your brain by a bug called LOVE.

• May you unleash a storm of affection on your loved ones.• May chocolates, candies and lovely treats bombard your family members, friends and dear ones.

• May you always have wonderful memories of your child who could not be with you physically on this day but will always be with you in your heart.

Sandy Fox 2012


Sandy Fox

Sandy Fox has won four finalist awards for her recent book "Creating a New Normal...After the Death of a Child" with over 80 coping articles and a huge resource section. One award is from USA Book News in the Health/Death and Dying Category for 2010. The second award is from ForeWord Reviews in the Health Category for 2010. The third is from Royal Dragonfly Book Awards. The most recent finalist award is for the self-help category of the 2011 Indie Book Awards. She is also the author of another grief book, "I Have No Intention of Saying Good-bye." “I Have No Intention of Saying Good-bye” tells the stories of 25 sets of parents and how they moved on with their lives after the death of their child, offering hope and survival techniques. Sandy has headed two national bereavement conferences for childless parents and spoken for many years at Compassionate Friends National conferences, POMC and across the U.S. to a variety of bereavement groups. She also writes articles for the Open to Hope site, EZ articles, and Journey through grief newsletter in addition to her own weekly blog: www.survivinggrief.blogspot.com. Sandy can be contacted at sfoxaz@hotmail.com to set up any speaking engagements or to ask any questions related to surviving the death of a child. Sandy was a guest on the radio show “Healing the Grieving Heart“ discussing: “I have no intention of Saying Good-Bye: Coping Techniques for the Now Childless.” To hear Sandy being interviewed on this show by Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley, click on the following link: www.voiceamericapd.com/health/010157/horsley010407.mp3

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