Since my daughter Jeannine’s death over eight years ago, I learned that the only thing I could control was the present. Doing this made it easier to allow the universe to take care of my future. However, I have recently begun to discover the role of the past in enhancing my quality of life in the present and…future.
During a trip to Long Island last year, I was introduced to the power of animal medicine. The lessons that animals teach us is beautifully described in the book, Medicine Cards: The Discovery of Power Through The Ways of Animals, by Jamie Sams. I never had considered the animals as sources of teaching and wisdom while Jeannine was alive. However, since Jeannine’s death, I have learned to embrace non-ordinary phenomenon to provide clarity in a world without her physical presence.
Frankly, my old ways of thinking about and relating to the world no longer applied. I believed that animal medicine would be another unique way to learn lessons about myself, the world and my grief journey. When I got home, I recorded every animal that crossed my path, consulted the Sams book, and wrote the teachings I believed were being conveyed to me. These teachings were always relevant to my present reality.
Earlier last month, there was a stretch of several days where I saw crows everywhere. They were on the side of the road or flying over my car . Another time, two of them walked unceremoniously across my yard while I enjoyed a morning cup of coffee.
Sams states that one of the teachings of crow medicine involves “balancing the past, present and future in the now.” Sams summed this perspective up very eloquently: “Honor the past as your teacher, honor the present as your creation, and honor the future as your inspiration.” I thought I had been living this mantra since Jeannine died, but crow apparently thought I was missing something.
I didn’t fully understand what crow was trying to teach me until I had a recent session with a Holistic Practitioner. During this session, we discussed family and childhood issues. They also surfaced in two previous sessions with her.
I disclosed that my favorite uncle, who had died when I was 14, was prominent in my thoughts lately. It then occurred to me that I needed to honor his past influence on me, in the present.
After disclosing this to her, she suggested that I create a sacred space containing inanimate objects representing my ancestors and Jeannine. I began to use that space, twice a week to acknowledge their qualities that has helped me in the present, and that would help me in the future. Doing this has given me a sense of peace and a belief that Jeannine as well as my ancestors have influenced my grief journey from the beginning.
Once I discovered that crow wanted me to more fully honor my ancestors, in the present and future, he stopped making his presence known to me. However, I suspect that I will continue to embrace the teachings of other animals throughout my grief journey.
Dave Roberts 2011Tags: signs and connections