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Corporate Department Takes Special Care to Welcome Back Bereaved Mom Co-Worker

Posted on July 7, 2009 - by Monica Novak

By Monica Novak – I received a call one day from Pat, the Share support group facilitator and perinatal bereavement coordinator at the local hospital, telling me that she and I had been invited to speak to one of the departments at a nearby corporation. Diana, the manager who had contacted Pat, told her that one of her employees, a woman named Michelle, had recently delivered her firstborn child, a stillborn daughter, and was about to return to work after a six-week maternity leave. Not only was Michelle an employee, she was a dear friend of Diana’s and everyone else […]

A beautiful sunrise…

Posted on July 6, 2009 - by Eric Tomei

My Dad was always one to get up in the morning and when I say morning, we are talking the 5 AM-5:15AM variety. His routine usually consisted of working at the kitchen table, shaving, and sometimes sitting and admiring the dawn of a new day. I never understood why sitting there seemed so peaceful until I became an adult. Everyone needs that recharge time whether it is in the morning, or at night. It’s different for everybody. It is a couple of moments of peace and solitude during the day and I have learned to cherish it as an adult. […]

Does Grief End? Turning the Corner After Mother’s Death

Posted on July 6, 2009 - by Gemini Adams

By Gemini Adams, MNFSH — It took me a very long time to integrate the loss of my mother. Perhaps this was because she died so prematurely, at just 48 years old. She was still a young person in the eyes of many. As for me, at 21, I was even younger. We had only just learned how to become friends, having battled through the high’s and lows of my teenage years. Just as we had come to see each other as allies, as women sharing similar challenges and interests, she was snatched away. It wasn’t unexpected. Mom died from […]

Lifting the Veil: Gloom Ends at a Wedding

Posted on July 5, 2009 - by Michele Neff Hernandez

By Michele Neff Hernandez — The death of someone instrumental in our lives instantly changes our view of the world. Ordinary things are suddenly fraught with meaning, and insignificant moments become unexpectedly precious. After my husband Phil’s death I remember thinking that grief swooped in and stole my rose-colored glasses, leaving me with a pair of dark shades instead. I was quite certain that rose was no longer my color. This darker world view made every life celebration bittersweet…or sometimes just plain bitter. Movies became minefields, attending weddings became tortuous, walking down the street beside hand-holding couples made me feel […]

A Message of Hope

Posted on July 4, 2009 - by Sandy Fox

by Sandy Fox One mother who I know quite well lost her only child, a daughter, twenty-one years ago. In a recent writing for a bereavement newsletter, she offers hope to those who are just beginning their grief journey. I find that it can be very comforting to those newly bereaved and even those a few years down the road to hear from others on how they have survived and moved forward with their lives. (That is how my book came about.) I am pleased to offer my friend’s honest appraisal of what she felt and did with her life and how we can […]

Grief Book Review: Sea Changes

Posted on July 4, 2009 - by Abel Keogh

By Abel Keogh — Ever since my late wife died, I’ve had a hard time reading fiction where the main character is a widow or widower. Though the authors try hard, most of them don’t do a good job of capturing what it’s like to lose a spouse. Oh sure, most of them do a good job describing the sense of loss and grief that accompanies the death of a spouse, but when it comes to the internal emptiness that comes with it, most of them fall short. So when I learned that Gail Graham’s latest novel, Sea Changes, was […]

Understanding the Griever: How Others Can Help

Posted on July 3, 2009 - by Alice Wisler

When I invited Martha to the gathering at my house, she accepted the invitation cheerfully. Martha was new to the area and so I thought this small potluck I was hosting would be a chance for her to get to know other women in our town. Martha stuck it out till the end, softly responding to each person’s questions about where she had moved from and the details involving her current job. It was not until the last guest left that night that she was able to utter her fears, “Oh, Alice, maybe I shouldn’t have come.” Then she fell […]

I Am Not Cheese

Posted on July 2, 2009 - by Alice Wisler

Recently I heard from one of my high school classmates. He now lives with his family in Nepal. Going to an international school in Japan–where I grew up—-many of my now forty-something-years-old schoolmates lead exotic lives. You can find them scattered over the world doing really interesting things. And then there I am, settled comfortably after a season of traveling, safe now in North Carolina. My friend commented (which was quite nice) on reading in the high school alumni newsletter that my son had died. He was so sorry and went on to say he had just returned from his […]

Being a Successful Single Dad

Posted on July 2, 2009 - by Suzy Yehl Marta

Being a single dad is tough. Even though it is the 21st century and there’s a diversity of family configurations, being a single dad is tough. It can be rewarding and gratifying too. But it’s nonetheless tough. It is tough because one person is on for the all of the responsibilities. There are schedules to organize and adapt to. There are too many days when you are simply too tired to do one more thing. Maybe you don’t feel equipped to handle the challenges, much less calendars. Perhaps you are not convinced your instinct or decision is the correct one. Complicating […]

When Caregiving Takes Its Own Sweet Time, Pace Yourself for the Long Haul

Posted on July 1, 2009 - by Carol O'Dell

I have the privilege of meeting many, many caregivers–and some of them have been at this for a long, long time. Some caregivers are caring for both parents, some a spouse with a chronic disease, others, an adult child who is disabled or challenged. These are the silent heroes. These are the quiet ones who have cared for others for years, even decades. How do they do it? I’ve had many people say, “I couldn’t do what you did–care for your mom with Alzheimer’s.” I didn’t know I could do it either. Most f the time, caregiving felt like I […]