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Noticing and Grieving Go Together

Posted on July 1, 2009 - by admin

by Chris Mulligan Learning to “notice” during my first year of grief was more important than anything else in helping me survive my grief. It also provided me a major life lesson. I realized that noticing was the vehicle through which I have come to accept my life experiences as well as be able to move through them and learn from them. All the major events in my life – those that caused the most pain and eventually precipitated the most growth – have also caused me to reflect upon and recognize that the suffering was present for a reason. […]

Woman Grieves Over Death of a Baby 35 Years Ago

Posted on July 1, 2009 - by Monica Novak

From Open to Hope: Ask The Authors, December 10, 2008 Tammy writes in with a question: My friend who is 52 is grieving over a baby she lost when she was 17. She has 2 other children, both adults now. But she is suddenly feeling this loss, feeling like she was supposed to have 3 children. Is it possible to grieve this far from the death? Doris Jeanette, Psy.D., author of Opening the Heart, an emotional guide into feelings and emotions. responds: It is not only possible, but helpful, to grieve any loss that has not been fully experienced. It does not matter how […]

The Value of Music For Resolving Grief

Posted on July 1, 2009 - by Tony Falzano

By Tony Falzano — This is the 3rd in a series of four articles on music and how it acts as a healing agent for those grieving a loss. In previous articles, we discussed the health benefits of listening to music. We also examined how music can direct our attention from our uneasy surroundings as well as divert us away from pain. This month, we’ll look at another way music accompanies us through the grief process. It’s no secret that many therapists, clergy and medical professionals believe one of the best things we can do while grieving a loss is […]

Learning from Others

Posted on June 28, 2009 - by Sandy Fox

by Sandy Fox My daughter died 15 years ago. Her dreams, hopes for the future…everything gone. My hopes for her: a family, a bright career, a wonderful marriage…all gone. Each year I think what her life would have been like now. She would have had children to love and share with her husband; she probably would have had a career in the advertising or public relations field. Or perhaps she would have preferred staying home and just be a mother. They would have traveled eventually, seen the world, learned from the experiences and been better people for it. Perhaps my […]

Will You Overcome Grief or Will Grief Overcome You?

Posted on June 28, 2009 - by Jack Cain

By Jack Cain Someone has died, or you have experienced some other devastating loss, and grief has virtually taken over your life. It arrives in towering waves that engulf and own you, all at once. I can tell you this because I lived it. Three people in my family died in a 20-month period, of unrelated causes. My son, Adam, committed suicide at age 27; then my wife, Lenore, died of ovarian cancer, after having survived breast cancer four years previously; my daughter, Stephanie, died at age 34 of congestive heart failure, less than three months after the death of […]

Celebrity Deaths Create ‘Spectacular’ Grief

Posted on June 27, 2009 - by Mitch Carmody

By Mitch Carmody — When I hear of the death of a high profile individual, it always turns my head. But do I mourn?? Do I lament? Do I cry in public?? In most cases, I do not. I am far enough detached from the individual that I do not personally lament the loss. The loss does not profoundly affect my life; I can deal with it intellectually and move on with my day. How else could one read the paper or watch the evening news and not be heartbroken every night? Every day is so full of death and […]

Celebrating the Celebrity – Recognizing Our Own Power

Posted on June 27, 2009 - by Anne Hamilton

By Anne Hamilton, M.F.A. I was saddened by the news of Michael Jackson’s sudden death on June 25th. We were kids together. We grew up together. We both sang and danced little routines, and had dreams of becoming a star. Of course, his dreams came true and he became an international star – but he took me along for the ride somehow, anyway. This is why I feel sad and have taken some moments to grieve. I grieve first for my own lack of success, in a way, and also that his genius was lost way too soon. Michael Jackson […]

Learn to Die and You Will Learn to Live

Posted on June 27, 2009 - by Stan Goldberg

By Stan Goldberg — My life is tethered to a number that few people have ever heard of: a Gleason score of 7. It’s a measure of prostate cancer severity that ranges from a forgettable 1 to a terminal 9. My lucky 7 places me on the cusp of living and dying. Not a particularly comfortable neighborhood to take up residence, but one in which I’m forced to live. During the operation to remove the prostate, my surgeon found that the cancer spread beyond the prostate gland and into one of the lymph nodes. Three weeks after the operation we […]

Helping Grandchildren with Pet Loss

Posted on June 26, 2009 - by Marty Tousley

By – Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FT, DCC Question: I very sadly had to euthanize my wonderful dog of 8 years last night. She has been with me with so many other losses and helped me through. Now here I am and at a loss without her. I am having a terrible time but am contacting you to help with my two grandchildren, who are ages 6 and 3. They live across the street and have grown up with our Great Dane Suzanna, and I am at a loss as to what to say to them that they will understand. They […]

Common Myths and Misconceptions about the Loss of a Cherished Pet

Posted on June 26, 2009 - by Cori Bussolari

by – Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT COMMON MYTHS ABOUT THE LOSS OF PETS: There is nothing special about the relationship between animals and humans. Your relationship with a companion animal can be just as special and loving as those you have with any other family member or close friend. Loving an animal is different from loving a human being, because a pet loves you in a way that people cannot: profoundly, boundlessly and unconditionally. Losing an animal is less painful and less significant than losing a human loved one. Pain over the loss of a beloved companion animal is as […]