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The Story Of Gana: What Animals Teach About Grief

Posted on September 3, 2008 - by Norman Fried

By Norman Fried Last week, the internet and newspapers across Europe and America posted pictures of an 11-year-old gorilla named Gana clutching the corpse of her 3-month-old baby Claudio for days before surrendering his lifeless body to zookeepers. As Gana persisted in cradling her baby, questions by primatologists, psychologists and other social scientists arose. Do animals have a cognitive appreciation of their own mortality? Do they grieve as adult humans do? Or are they simply confused? In her September 2nd article in The New York Times, Natalie Angier presents data by scientists that suggest another theory: that elaborate displays of […]

Do You Feel Trapped by Caregiving?

Posted on September 2, 2008 - by Carol O'Dell

If you’re a family caregiver, you can feel like you’re under house arrest for a crime you didn’t commit. It’s not that you don’t want to care for your loved one, it’s just that you didn’t realize it would wind up feeling like that’s all you do. If you’re not careful, resentments can mushroom. This season of caregiving–when you can no longer leave your loved one “home alone” can be a difficult adjustment for a caregiver–especially if you didn’t realize it was coming. Maybe you thought you had more time to prepare. For some, their loved one has dementia/Alzheimer’s and […]

Saying Goodbye to Dad

Posted on September 2, 2008 - by Thomas Attig

By Thomas Attig I remember my last visit before Dad died in 1969. Mom called me at graduate school to tell me that he was quite ill (he’d suffered a stroke four years earlier) and had been admitted to the hospital again. She made it clear that if I came, it would be my last visit. Though incredibly weak, Dad, as usual, was glad to see me. Our conversation was minimal. Quiet time predominated. He seemed surprised at my visit, since I had visited him at home not long before. Yet, he acted not so surprised. It was as if […]

A Spiritual Journey

Posted on September 2, 2008 - by John Pete

A wise person once said that ‘grieving is not the same as loving.’ And I believe that once we truly understand and accept that, we can begin to heal. (John Pete, GC-C) I was recently asked what I believed the difference was between spirituality and religion. I view religion as a set of beliefs grounded in traditions that can be learned and practiced. And I view spirituality as the internal force that connects our ability to feel with our ability to reason, and which often drives us to explore our existence and purpose. Death is a part of our journey, […]

His Death Shattered Me — How Spouse Loss Affects Us Physically

Posted on August 29, 2008 - by Beverly Chantalle McManus

When Steve died several years ago, I felt so lost… He’d been diagnosed six month earlier, but for each of those days, I kept expecting (and praying) that a miracle would happen, that he’d bounce back as he’d always done when he’d encountered acute health crises earlier, and that soon we’d be back on our path, living our dreams. His death shattered me — I felt as if I’d been jolted with thousands of amps of electricity, as if all the connections in my brain had been disconnected. My body felt like it was falling apart. I was convinced that […]

Showing Humanness: How Healthcare Professionals Can Help Families with Ill Children

Posted on August 29, 2008 - by David Browning

By David Browning How can healthcare professionals be most helpful when they encounter families in which a child is terminally ill? The modernist approach to medicine places practitioners, especially physicians, firmly in the position of expert. This approach may be quite useful and necessary from the standpoint of making available specialized professional expertise. But it can be counterproductive when the patients and families seek to engage on a human-to-human level. This human-to-human form of contact is best facilitated by the stance of learner, in which the practitioner gets to know the children and families by honoring their expertise in telling […]

Gratitude as the Antidote to Grief

Posted on August 27, 2008 - by Joanne Cacciatore

Writer Joanne Cacciatore shows how the search for goodness and gratitude can help those suffering in the aftermath of loss.

Dealing With the Death of a Boyfriend

Posted on August 25, 2008 - by admin

A website visitor has this question for author Comfort Shields: Q: I saw that the author C. Comfort Shields will be on your radio program next week. I am grateful for this and can’t wait to tune in. I spent years searching for a book specifically written about surviving a partner’s (in my case, it was my boyfriend, too) suicide and can’t begin to tell you the relief that Shields’ book, Surviving Ben’s Suicide, has brought me since reading it a couple months ago. In Ms. Shields’ memoir, she talked about how cruel people often were when she told them […]

Life Is About Adapting to Change

Posted on August 24, 2008 - by Abel Keogh

The one thing that certain in this life, aside death and taxes, is change. Businesses have to change to survive. Markets, attitudes, tastes, and buying habits of customers are constantly in flux. If a business doesn’t adapt to shifting market conditions and offer its customers what they want, it goes out of business. At halftime, football teams must adapt their offence and defense based on what they’ve seen from the opposing team or else they’ll lose the game. Our own lives are constantly in flux. Every day brings changes we have to deal with. Most of the changes we deal […]

Do Men Really Cry Less Than Women?

Posted on August 22, 2008 - by Bob Baugher

Grief therapist Bob Baugher suggests that we not judge a man’s grief by how much — or even whether — he cries.