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Dealing With a House Full of Memories

Posted on July 22, 2008 - by admin

Barbara, Asheville, N.C., asks My mother died recently at age 85. I’m the only surviving child. She left a huge house full of “stuff.” I just can’t bring myself to do what’s needed to clean it out and sell the house. Is this normal? What can I do to get over the hump? Drs. Gloria and Heidi respond: First of all, we want to say how sorry we are to hear about your mother’s death. As you say, you are the only surviving child, so we assume that you have also suffered sibling loss. It is difficult to say goodbye […]

What Not to Say to a Suicide Survivor

Posted on July 18, 2008 - by Abel Keogh

Suicide survivor Carol Loehr shares what others often say when they learn that her son died by suicide. She advocates for educating people about the neurological illnesses that cause suicide.

Scrapbooks Memorialize Loved Ones

Posted on July 7, 2008 - by Diana Gardner-Williams

Writer Diana Gardner-Williams found a way to reconnect with the memory of a deceased loved one: “scrapbooking.” It gives grieving people an outlet by allowing them to preserve their loved one?s legacy in a positive, productive and personal manner.

When a Sibling Dies by Suicide

Posted on July 1, 2008 - by Michelle L. Rusk

Writer Michelle Linn-Gust shares her journey of coming to terms with the suicide of her sister

After Miscarriage, Husband Wonders When It’s Time to Try Again

Posted on June 26, 2008 - by admin

Dear Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi, My wife, who is 35, miscarried after two months. It has been four months and she is still talking about the baby and is stressed about getting pregnant again. Is this normal? I just think we should get on with it and try again. We aren’t getting any younger. Sincerely, Ron from Ft. Lauderdale Gloria and Heidi respond: Dear Ron: We are so sorry to hear about both your loss and your wife’s loss. Miscarriage is often unacknowledged by society, yet it is a very real and painful loss. We are always impressed when […]

Poem: I Used to Live in May

Posted on June 25, 2008 - by admin

I USED TO LIVE IN MAY
I used to live in May
brilliance,warmth and
laughter filled my days
I used to live in May
Then you died and went away
Now darkness,cold,and crying fill my days
I used to live in May
Come back,Come back I say .
For when you were here
I used to live in May.
written by Louise Lagerman

How Should You Celebrate the Anniversary of a Loved One’s Passing?

Posted on June 23, 2008 - by Carol O'Dell

Anniversaries that mark the day our loved one’s passed away can be tough days.
You think about it weeks leading up to it–dread the day.
Your body seems to remember even before your mind.
Athletes call this muscle memory–
“Muscle memory can best be described as a type of movement with which the muscles become familiar over time. For […]

Poem: Mom’s Thoughts

Posted on June 23, 2008 - by admin

by Amiee Kate Helms
A few of your possessions left to hold,
But the treasures true,
They lie down deep?
Deep within my heart and soul?.
Deep inside of Me?..
I see your face and you smile at me,
You tease to make me laugh?
I hear your songs? And your music
resonates among my soul?
While your words, ?I love you, Mom?
Echo? in every […]

Poem: Oh the Lies I Have Told!

Posted on June 19, 2008 - by admin

No one knows the pain
That lies behind these smiling eyes
No one sees the tears that are
Buried deep within my heart.
?
Oh the lies I have told!
I am just fine I say.
When the truth is
I can hardly find my way.
?
While in my heart the pain
Grows and grows and grows
With the emptiness of loss
That no one really knows.
?
Over […]

Death of a Boyfriend Creates Crisis

Posted on June 18, 2008 - by Jerry White

Six months is just pen point on a timeline of 52 years!!!! Yet those six months seemed like the beginning and the end of my life. Life began for me six months ago when I met Tom. Then my life ?ended? when he died. Six months out of a possible 25 years of enjoying earthly […]