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My Loved One Died and the Grief Hurts

Posted on May 13, 2020 - by Larry Patten

This is an excerpt from Larry Patten’s A Companion for the Hospice Journey which is available on Amazon or though his website Hospice Matters. He has died. She has died. You are numb. You can’t concentrate. You can’t imagine eating again or you graze junk food throughout the day. You can’t sleep, always feeling tired. Or you sleep too much, but can’t shake the never-ending exhaustion. Friends express kind words, though you barely comprehend anything said. Of course, there are others who say oddly hurtful words. Their clichés become arrows piercing your heart. (If God needed another angel or […]

Happiness After Loss is a Choice

Posted on May 11, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

Are you afraid you will never be happy again after experiencing a loss? Many people feel that way after losing a loved one or they feel guilty at the thought of pondering their happiness. Today, on our Facebook Live discussion, Heidi and I are joined by Chelsea Hanson, a grief expert and educator experienced with significant loss, including her parents, two babies, and her Father-in-Law. She is the author of “The Sudden Loss Survival Guide” and “Shine On: Healing Tools to Inspire and Empower You to Live Life.” Chelsea is also the Founder of With Sympathy Gifts and Keepsakes, which […]

What’s in a Name?

Posted on May 9, 2020 - by Judy Lipson

Being pregnant with my first child several years after losing my sister Jane, there was no question in my mind of wanting to name the child for my late sister. How would my parents feel? Out of respect to their grief with great trepidation, I asked the question about having a grandchild sharing the name of their deceased daughter. Thankfully I received the green light. The pregnancy progressed and my deepest desire for a girl to be able to use the name of my treasured sister not divulged to a living sole, kept quiet in my own thoughts. Should the […]

Sacred ‘Force’ Brings Contact Between Mother and Deceased Daughter

Posted on May 8, 2020 - by Lois Schaffer

I have always appreciated connections, family and friends alike. After the death of my daughter, those connections became even more important. Sharing stories about her are cathartic and a means to keep her alive. Her death was traumatic. While I cannot negate the loss of anyone, it is that much more devastating when it is the loss of a child. Her death was sudden and senseless. She was a single working mother and a victim of gun violence. As a lifelong gun safety advocate, the shock of this event was unfathomable then as it is now, eleven years later. […]

When Grief and Coronavirus Collide

Posted on May 6, 2020 - by Mary Jane Hurley Brant

When Grief and the Coronavirus (COVID-19) collide, we feel like we’ll collapse. The Coronavirus is not only serious, it’s a pandemic. Like grief, COVID-19 is powerful, persistent and painful. The virus makes us fearful and our grief has made us more vulnerable. It’s a rough combination. Today, let’s consider what this fear-reality looks like to our brains; how it makes our bodies feel; and the way it affects our emotions. First, what is fear when coupled with grief? How does it look and feel? Unlike fruit on a tree, fear is not visible. Fear is more like a threat, an […]

5 Truths About Grief That Will Make The Process Easier To Manage

Posted on May 4, 2020 - by Nat Juchems

Dealing with loss is an unimaginable process, something that, unfortunately, you have to experience to understand. But, this isn’t to say that there is one universal grieving process. Grief is individual and therefore will affect each person in their own unique way. While we can conclude that loss is an inevitable part of life, nothing can prepare you for the reality of losing a loved one. There are many books and movies that deal with grief that may provide you with some insight into loss, but you can never be ready for this experience. Although grief may feel like an […]

COVID-19 Reminiscences: Two Lost Sisters

Posted on May 4, 2020 - by Judy Lipson

We have been sheltered in place for over a month with an abundance of time to think. Not always a prescription for those of us who have lost loved ones coupled with the repeated stories of daily multiple deaths. I have chosen to distance myself from the news and focus on being grateful that my family and now extended family are all safe and healthy. With time on our hands, although challenging, the best practice for me best is to produce a schedule into a non-scheduled existence, finding projects and activities to fill up the days which seem to be […]

Grief From Darkness to Light

Posted on May 4, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

Grief impacts all of us in different ways. But, one of the best ways to visualize it is to see grief and the movement through grief to healing is going from darkness into light. With the dark, foreboding feeling that COVID-19 has caused everyone, including those already dealing with grief, it is important to talk about how we can deal with this sense of loss and be open to hope again. On our Facebook Live discussion today, Heidi and I were joined by Dr. Joanne Cacciatore, the founder of the MISS Foundation and the Selah Carefarm. She is a professor at Arizona […]

Handling Emotions During COVID-19

Posted on April 27, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

Are you wondering what to say or how to respond to others during this stressful time? Sheltering in place for this extended amount of time can create some uncomfortable interactions for both those inside and outside of the home. Today’s Facebook Live included Dr. Jill Harrington who discussed techniques to decrease stress and moderate responses to difficult situations and conversations during COVID-19. Increased Stress Everyone has experienced more stress during COVID-19. If you are a parent, you are worried about ensuring the kids are entertained, healthy, and busy with their online school work all while you are trying to navigate […]

End of Life Issues During COVID-19

Posted on April 24, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

Do you have a family member who has recently died? Due to visitation restrictions, sheltering in, and social distancing, bereaved families are experiencing isolation and loneliness. Barbara Karnes, RN, author, and educator, shared her thoughts on end of life care and self care during these stressful times as part of a recent podcast. Barbara’s experiences with hospice care can help provide a unique perspective on what’s happening during COVID-19. Hospice Care in the Age of COVID-19 Hospice care already comes with many obstacles, but COVID-19 has only added to those through the shelter-in-place mandate. Families are left with guilt, shame, […]