Open to Hope Articles

Articles Home

9 Ways to Prepare for Coronavirus Losses

Posted on April 6, 2020 - by Stan Goldberg

Anger will do little to prepare us for the losses the coronavirus creates. The Tibetans have a saying, “You can throw hot coals at your enemies but you will burn your hands.” While anger can find an outlet for the immorality of national leaders on November 3rd, I and millions of others will need something more than a vote against Trump for the grief we will experience. There is little comfort in righteous indignation. I found solace through lessons about living and loss from patients I served for ten years in hospice. Here are nine I found useful. Hopefully, you […]

Food for the Journey

Posted on April 6, 2020 - by Charles W. Sidoti

The phrase “food for the journey” is traditionally associated, in Catholicism, with reception of the Eucharist by the dying and their final journey from this life to eternal life through death. This concept can be traced back to the days of Roman temple worship to the belief that the final meal of a dying person provided them with strength to cross over the River Styx, an ancient mythological river that is believed to separate the living from the dead. With Jesus having left us the Eucharistic meal in his memory, the early Christians adapted a similar custom in regard to […]

Grief in the Absence of Physical Presence

Posted on April 6, 2020 - by Greg Adams

Physical presence means so much. Phone calls are good. Video connections can be better. But there is nothing like experiencing physical presence with the potential or reality of a hand on the shoulder, a hand in another’s hand, and a body-to-body hug. But now we live in a strange and stressful time of necessary physical distancing with the COVID-19 pandemic. In these days and weeks (and months?) when we feel frightened and worried, the gifts and resources of presence are limited and restricted. We connect by phone, text, social media, and video—and thank goodness for these options—but we know they […]

What’s the Difference When Grieving For a Child?

Posted on April 6, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

The loss of any loved one is a terrible blow that hurts our hearts and leaves us inconsolable. However, when a parent loses a child, it’s a different type of grief that can be one of the toughest to overcome. I personally believe that you never “overcome”grieving for a child. But, that the sting can become less and you can learn to tolerate the pain somewhat better as time – like many years – goes by. Grieving For a Child The baring of this pain also depends on the cause. A child dying in unbearable pain is different than a […]

Caregivers Dealing with the Coronavirus

Posted on March 31, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

During yesterday’s Facebook Live discussion, Heidi and I were joined by Dr. Ken Druck, a psychologist and best-selling author who has helped so many families and individuals during traumatic events like 9/11, Sandy Hook, and Columbine. He also lost his daughter, so he understands the scope of grief and grieving. Our discussion focused on how caregivers can deal with the Coronavirus as well as how all of us deal with what the situation has done in terms of creating a “living loss.” Caregivers and the Coronavirus For caregivers like Heidi who is a therapist, wife, and mother — and now […]

Is God Big Enough to Accept Our Anger?

Posted on March 30, 2020 - by Neal Raisman

Excerpt from Standing on One Leg by Neal Raisman which is available through the author at iduhpres@hotmail.com The first time we went to Compassionate Friends, a self-help grief group for parents who had lost children, was on Suffolk County on Long Island. A faculty member at the college told me about it. Compassionate Friends had helped his wife and him when their son/stepson died. We needed help, so we went. We had talked to the rabbi at our temple but he was too into the role of rabbi as platitude to help us. We really did not need a sad […]

How Many Children Do I Have Now?

Posted on March 27, 2020 - by Neal Raisman

Excerpt from Standing on One Leg by Neal Raisman which is available through the author at iduhpres@hotmail.com How many children do you have? Do I have? Did I have? How do I answer that? How do I stop the rising sadness as I think. I had two. Now. One? No two. He always exists/ Even if he doesn’t. He is here. No. I don’t know where he is. Is he anywhere? I have one. Shana. But I had two Shana and Issac. So what is the answer? How can I respond without denying him or the truth. I have one […]

Grieving the World We’ve Lost

Posted on March 25, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

Today’s Facebook Live discussion focused on the idea that grief doesn’t just come from the loss of a loved one. The recent events surrounding the coronavirus (COVID-19) have led us all to actually grieve the loss of the world. Nothing is the same since this pandemic took over the globe. And, it’s forever changed how we see ourselves and maybe how we greet each other and interact. Joining us on the show today to discuss grief and the Coronavirus is David Kessler, bereaved dad and renowned grief expert. He is the co-author, with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, of “On Grief and Grieving: Finding […]

Signs of ‘God-incidences’

Posted on March 24, 2020 - by Christine Duminiak

This is an excerpt from After-Death Communications: God’s Gift of Love, which is available at Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/After-Death-Communications-Gods-Gift-Love/dp/194432870X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1500389497&sr=8-1&keywords=after-death+communications+god%27s+gift+of+love “Godincidences–Many of the signs we receive from our loved ones will seem like amazingly lucky and meaningful coincidences, or synchronicities, but from my experiences and countless others who I have interviewed, I believe these coincidences are really orchestrated from above. We like to refer to them as Godincidences.”.

Coronavirus and Finding Ways to Cope with Anxiety and Loss

Posted on March 23, 2020 - by Gloria Horsley

Today, I hosted a Facebook Live session with my daughter, Heidi, to discuss the impact of the coronavirus. Tambre Leighn, an Open To Hope author, certified coach, Funder of Well Beyond Ordinary, and behavioral change expert, also joined us. Contracting the Coronavirus Our session started with the news that my daughter, Heidi, took a coronavirus test this weekend and learned last night that she has tested positive. After starting to develop symptoms last week, she took action and got tested. Now, she is self-quarantining for the next 14 days, using protective gear and self-isolation to protect her husband and children. […]