Deb Kosmer

Deb has worked at Affinity Visiting Nurses Hospice for ten years, the first two as a hospice social worker and the last eight as Bereavement Support Coordinator supporting families before and after the death of their loved ones. She provides supportive counseling, developed and facilitates a variety of grief support groups, including a well-attended group for men only as well as other educational events. Deb received her Bachelor’s degree in Social Work from UW-Oshkosh and her Master’s degree in Social Work from UW Milwaukee. She received her certification in Thanatology through ADEC. Her writing has appeared in New Leaf Magazine, We Need Not Walk Alone, Living with Loss, Grief Digest, numerous hospice publications and EAP publications. Some of her poetry on death and dying will be included in a college textbook for social workers in end of life soon. New Leaf has also used some of her poetry for a line of sympathy and anniversary of death cards. On a personal level, Deb's 14-year-old son died after being struck by a car. Her 31-year-old sister had died in a car accident eight months earlier, and her 56-year-old father died from a heart attack exactly three years before. These three unexpected deaths within three years started Deb on a journey she never wanted to be on and she learned first-hand the importance of having the help and support of others. In the years since, she has experienced other losses, the most recent being the unexpected death of her 44-year-old step-daughter who died from complications three months after routine surgery. Deb's passions are writing, reading, education, nature, and family. She is currently working on a book of her grief poetry. She recently moved with her husband to Waypost Camp, Hatley WI. Her husband accepted a job there as Property Manager and his position allows them to live on-site with acres of woods and a lake. She anticipates the quiet beauty to be a strong catalyst for writing.

Articles:

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This Holiday Season, Complete These Sentences…

When someone we love dies, most of us always wish for two things: one, that the death never happened, that our loved one had never gotten sick and died, or […]

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Is There a Place at Holiday Table for the Griever?

It’s that time of year again. The holiday season, a time of rejoicing, celebration. First there’s Thanksgiving, followed by Christmas, Hanukah, and New Years. But what if I’m not thankful and […]

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Like Trees in Fall, We Must Let Go

I walk through the crunchy leaves that blanket the ground while others float down landing on me. I hesitate to brush them off. They are, after all, part of the […]

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Self-Forgiveness is a Key to Healing

Guilt is one of those emotions people don’t talk much about, maybe because shame is so often a part of it. Yet when someone we love dies, most of us […]

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Learning to Fly Again

When someone we love dies, we have to fly on anyway. But what if we have forgotten how to fly?   The death of someone we love grounds us. It […]

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Autumn Arrives, Good Things Will Follow

Outside, the temperatures are changing and we pull out fall clothing.  Soon we will need even more warmth, and our winter wardrobe will appear. For some of us, it may […]

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‘Our Loved One Has Died and We’re Still Here’

GRIEF sometimes comes like a thief in the night. At other times, it’s more like a slow moving train.  Either way, Grief hurts.  When someone we love dies, it creates […]

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What Grief Is, What it Isn’t

Grief doesn’t wait for an invitation. It doesn’t go away because you want it to. It always overstays its welcome. It isn’t logical or easily explained. It doesn’t respond to […]

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The ‘Elephant’ That is Grief

Last night I dreamt someone let an elephant into our home. I couldn’t get him out of the house but I tricked him into the basement by opening the door […]

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What Can One Do with an Empty Cup?

I feel like I have nothing left to give. I feel like everything has been taken from me.  I don’t even know where or how to begin again. Everything and […]

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