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After Loss of a child

We know the pain can be unbearable. Read stories and find community. You need not be alone in your journey.

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  • How I Transformed Grief into Growth

    July 17, 2018

    On a balmy summer evening in 2011, my beloved 26-year-old son David was killed instantly in a motorcycle accident and my life was forever changed. Suddenly plunged into a crazy altered reality, I wandered helplessly through disbelief, confusion, anguish, and searing pain. For a long time I felt stuck in my misery, since death is […]

  • When Others Want to Know Why You Aren’t ‘Over’ the Death of Your Child

    July 17, 2018

    Lately, the question I have been getting the most is, “How do I get the people around me to understand why I am still grieving the death of my child so deeply?” We already feel like we are going crazy, and having family and friends tell us we “should be past this by now” may […]

  • For Grieving Moms: When Others Respond in Hurtful Ways

    May 16, 2018

      Fix-It Friends People feel helpless in the face of your loss of a child. They have an intense need to say something to lessen your pain.   They cannot understand that this pain refuses any comfort and must be processed over time to ease. They try to help by saying things that negate your pain, […]

  • How to Release Guilt After Loss of a Child

    May 10, 2018

    After the loss of a child, a mother’s guilt is inevitable. There may be things she wishes she had done.  There may also be things she wishes she hadn’t done.  She may have made serious mistakes that carried grave consequences.  She likely feels guilty.  If you feel guilt, too, you know what I mean. In […]

  • The Child-Loss Club

    May 8, 2018

    I am pretty sure that each and every one of you reading this article has heard the saying, “We have all joined a club, and this is a club that no one ever wanted to belong to.” I beg to differ. I just wish I could have joined this club without having lost my beautiful 12-year-old […]

  • I Care and Wish You Comfort and Hope: A Mass Shooting Triggers Mother’s Response

    May 7, 2018

    Valentine’s Day has forever been changed in my mind. No longer will I think of flowers, chocolates and the little hearts that say “I love you.” This year, a 19-year-old boy opened fire at a High school in Florida on Valentine’s Day, killing 17 teenagers. These recent shootings are unfortunately nothing new; in 1999, in Columbine, Colorado, two […]

  • A Book From an Old Soul Who Died Too Young

    March 15, 2018

    Our beautiful 12-year-old daughter Billie was involved in a freak horse accident and died on May 29, 2016. I was just about to turn 50 and up until losing Billie, I would have to have been the happiest person I’ve ever met. I never took my life for granted and can honestly say that I […]

  • How Hope Changes for a Mother of Many Losses

    March 13, 2018

    There was a time, in the early hours and months following my son’s death, where hope was nothing but a desperate desire to wake up from a bad dream. A hope that bordered on denial fed my wildest imagination, where I would wake up to find myself still pregnant or even better yet, to find […]

  • The Fear of Forgetting

    March 11, 2018

    This is the 11th year without my daughter Helen. I still miss her, still love her, and still remember her. But I’m worried. When I try to imagine Helen’s face in my mind, the image isn’t as clear as it used to be, and I don’t think of her as often. I have a fear […]

  • Coping With the Loss of a Teen by Suicide

    January 10, 2018

    At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Carolyn Zahnow about The Shore Grief Center and tips she has to find healing after suicide loss. Carolyn lost her son, Cameron, in 2005 when he was 18 years old.  In the video below, Carolyn shares advice on how to cope with […]

  • Be Selfish to Heal More Quickly

    January 8, 2018

    I didn’t believe that my son would die.  The death of a child is a tragic and horrific event that happens to someone else, not to me.  Until it did.  The grieving process sucked the very life out of me.  My grief strained me emotionally as I experienced a roller-coaster of emotions like anger, depression, […]

  • How Spouses Can Talk About Grief After a Child Dies

    January 4, 2018

    At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with An Hooghe about loss and the relationship with spouses after a child dies. An is a clinical psychologist who does research on bereaved parents who have lost a child. This research includes how the parents cope and how they talk to each […]

  • Lalie Gomez: Organ and Tissue Donation

    January 2, 2018

    During the 2015 Association of Death Education and Counseling conference, Open to Hope’s Dr. Gloria Horsley interviewed Lalie Gomez—a woman with extensive experience in organ and tissue donation. Both Gomez’s mother and daughter were donors. “In 2003, my daughter passed away in a motorcycle accident and at the time we had never discussed organ donation.” […]

  • Keep the Door to Your Soul Open

    December 17, 2017

    I was given a pocket size daily devotional after Mack died called “Healing After Loss” written by Martha Whitmore Hickman, who was also a bereaved parent. I carried it in my purse for two years until the binding weakened, the cover fell off, and each page was dotted with notes and stained with my tears. One of the daily reflections […]

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  • Episode 135: Child Loss: Why and How Did They Die?

    June 27, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Heidi Horsley interview Theresa Lervolino whose daughter, Jessica age 27 was killed in 2010 in an automobile crash.  Theresa will discuss how serving as a chapter leader of The Compassionate Friends has again helped her to find hope. Annah Elizabeth is the author Digging For The Light, and […]

  • Episode 132: Resilience After Loss

    April 12, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley, interview bereaved parents, Glen Lord and Lynda Cheldelin Fell, founders of the International Grief Institute. Glen is past president of the national board of directors of The Compassionate Friends, co-founder of The Grief Toolbox, and executive producer of the Walking Through Grief® series. Lynda Cheldelin […]

  • Episode 131: Redefining Ourselves After Loss

    April 11, 2018

    On this show, Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Christine Duminiak and Dr. Tanya Lord about redefining ourselves after multiple losses.  Christine is an internationally recognized expert on afterlife contacts and signs, and a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist.  She has authored 5 books and co-hosts, Ask the Angels radio show. Tanya lost her […]

  • Episode 129: The Children’s Brain Tumor Foundation: Supporting Research and Hope

    April 10, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley talk with Dr. Gary Jaworski, President of Children’s Brain Tumor Foundation and social worker, Jessica Elder, Bereavement Program Manager, about support, research and the needs of families who have lost a child to a brain tumor. Joining the group is bereaved parent, Sandy Perkins, who […]

  • Episode 128: Coping with the High Profile Death of a Child

    April 10, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley will interview Jamie Bright and Delain Johnson, about coping with the high profile death of a child, and how they coped. Danielle was murdered by her boyfriend.  Delain is Vice President of Bereaved Parents USA, and a licensed counselor, specializing in grief and loss. Her […]

  • Episode 127: Regaining Your Health After Loss

    April 10, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley explore with Basia Mosinski and Glenda Powell how to regain your health after loss. Glenda is Co-Chapter Leader of the Newport Beach Compassionate Friends chapter, and serves in memory of her son Garrison.  Basia is a health and wellness coach. She is Founder and Chapter […]

  • Episode 126: The Healing Power of Peer to Peer Support

    February 26, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley explore with Bob Burt and Debbie Rambis, both bereaved parents, the healing power of peer to peer support. Bob Burt has a Hall of Fame Football coaching career, has served on the Board of Directors for The Compassionate Friends, and speaks on Student Suicide Prevention. […]

  • Episode 125: Creating Healing Communities After Loss

    February 26, 2018

    Debbie Rambis joined The Compassionate Friends in 2011 after the drowning death of her 29 year old son Tony.  She has served in numerous capacities for The Compassionate Friends, and is currently their Executive Director.  Jeannette Maré founded the Ben’s Bells Project after the sudden death of her two-year-old son Ben. Ben’s Bells focuses on […]

  • Episode 124: Recovery and Rediscovery after Loss

    February 26, 2018

    On this show Dr. Heidi Horsley and Dr. Gloria Horsley talk with Pamela Hagens and Dr. Janis Johnston, about Recovery and Rediscovery after Loss.  Pamela Hagens lost her 19 year old son Samuel in 2013. She is a lifetime proponent of health through exercise.  Dr. Janis Johnston is a counseling psychologist, who lost her husband […]

  • Episode 123: On The Road Again-Angels Across The USA Tour

    February 26, 2018

    On this show Dr. Heidi Horsley talks with Alan Pedersen, singer, songwriter and bereaved parent. Alan is the past Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends and is currently on the road with The Angels Across the USA Tour where he will speak and perform in over 100 U.S. cities in 2018. Joining them on the […]

  • Episode 122: How Two Mother’s Survived the Murder of Their Son’s

    February 25, 2018

    On this show Dr. Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen talk with Mary Jane Cronin and Dr. Sue Hamby, about the murders of their son’s, Jeremy and Ross, and how they survived their shocking loss, going on to author books, share their stories and provide counseling and comfort to others. The show closes with singer, songwriter, […]

  • Episode 118: Men and Grief with R. Glenn Kelly,  Ron Villano and Anna Huckabee Tull

    January 8, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview R. Glenn Kelly, who lost his only child, Jonathan, to a congenital heart defect and Ron Villano whose son, Michael died in an automobile accident. Both men are motivational speakers and authors. R. Glenn is the author of Sometimes I Cry in the Shower […]

  • Episode 116: Child Loss: Keeping Memories Alive with Michael and Maya Luria and Becky Belanger

    January 8, 2018

    On this show Dr.Gloria Horsley and Dr.Heidi Horsley interview Michael and Maya Luria, co-founders of the Bald Beauties Project, a non-profit that benefits children and young adults with cancer. Becky Belanger joins them, to talk about how the Bald Beauty project helped her, when her 3 and 1/2 yr. old daughter was dying of pediatric […]

  • Episode 115: Spiritual Experience and the Afterlife

    January 8, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley interview bereaved parents Elizabeth Boisson, Irene Vouvalides and Ernie Jackson regarding their view of the afterlife and how their experiences have helped them to cope with their losses. Their organization, “Helping Parents Heal,” founded by Elizabeth Boisson, offers bereaved parents an open discussion of spiritual and […]

  • Episode 113: Laura Sullivan LMFT and Lani Ciotek-Is My Grief Complicated?

    November 17, 2017

    On this show Dr. Heidi and Dr. Gloria Horsley discuss with bereaved parents Laura Sullivan and Lani Ciotek the death of their sons and what they do to celebrate their lives. Laura lost her son Kyle shortly after graduation from High School and Lani’s son Terrance was a physician and father of two. Laura is […]