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  • Coping With the Loss of a Teen by Suicide

    January 10, 2018

    At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Carolyn Zahnow about The Shore Grief Center and tips she has to find healing after suicide loss. Carolyn lost her son, Cameron, in 2005 when he was 18 years old.  In the video below, Carolyn shares advice on how to cope with […]

  • Be Selfish to Heal More Quickly

    January 8, 2018

    I didn’t believe that my son would die.  The death of a child is a tragic and horrific event that happens to someone else, not to me.  Until it did.  The grieving process sucked the very life out of me.  My grief strained me emotionally as I experienced a roller-coaster of emotions like anger, depression, […]

  • How Spouses Can Talk About Grief After a Child Dies

    January 4, 2018

    At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with An Hooghe about loss and the relationship with spouses after a child dies. An is a clinical psychologist who does research on bereaved parents who have lost a child. This research includes how the parents cope and how they talk to each […]

  • Lalie Gomez: Organ and Tissue Donation

    January 2, 2018

    During the 2015 Association of Death Education and Counseling conference, Open to Hope’s Dr. Gloria Horsley interviewed Lalie Gomez—a woman with extensive experience in organ and tissue donation. Both Gomez’s mother and daughter were donors. “In 2003, my daughter passed away in a motorcycle accident and at the time we had never discussed organ donation.” […]

  • Keep the Door to Your Soul Open

    December 17, 2017

    I was given a pocket size daily devotional after Mack died called “Healing After Loss” written by Martha Whitmore Hickman, who was also a bereaved parent. I carried it in my purse for two years until the binding weakened, the cover fell off, and each page was dotted with notes and stained with my tears. One of the daily reflections […]

  • Wendy Lichtenthal: Helping Parents After the Loss of a Child

    October 13, 2017

    Dr. Wendy Lichtenthal is a researcher at the Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center in New York City, and many of her interests focus on grieving. She spoke with Dr. Gloria Horsley during the Association for Death Education and Counseling 2015 conference about how parents can heal after losing a child. “We are doing an intervention […]

  • Jill Harrington: Loss of a Young Adult

    September 28, 2017

    Dr. Jill Harrington is a social worker, clinician and researcher at the Center for the Study of Traumatic Stress who specializes in grief after losing a young adult. “Some in the military and some in the civilian world,” explains Dr. Harrington, who chatted with Dr. Heidi Horsley during the Association for Death Education and Counseling […]

  • Fay Green: The Compassionate Friends

    September 18, 2017

    Fay Green is a leader at The Compassionate Friends organization in San Antonio, Texas, and recently talked with Open to Hope’s Dr. Gloria Horsley at the Association of Death Education and Counseling conference. Green’s latest project focuses on “group processing,” saying that it helps those who have lost someone “recognize that they’re not alone in […]

  • An Evolution of Feeling: How Grief Changes Over Time

    July 26, 2017

      I’ve noticed that, as a rule, we don’t particularly care to talk about how old we are, so I was amused when a friend did some arithmetic based on some of my recollections and determined that I am 70. We had been discussing worry and he wondered if I worry less now that I […]

  • Gardening Through Grief

    July 24, 2017

      I think back to the summer of 2011, when our oldest son died suddenly in August.  From that moment on, my life forever changed.  All the plans I had made were now in the background as I searched for normalcy. Even daily routines were put on hold, as I grappled with just doing the […]

  • ‘His Life Was Brief’: Grieving the Death of an Infant

    July 23, 2017

    The first time I saw my son, he was lying in a NICU incubator with a small, clear tube protruding from his mouth to help him breathe.  The adhesive that kept the ventilator tube in place covered most of his tiny face.  His eyes were closed, taped shut to keep out the bright light.  He […]

  • Son’s Death Like the Loss of a Limb

    June 26, 2017

    Grief? I can only explain it one way to those who ask how I am. To anyone who dares ask if I am getting over it. My son’s death was like having a leg cut off, the edge where it was hacked off remaining raw and exposed, scabbing over at times, just waiting for someone to […]

  • Welcomed Tears

    June 26, 2017

    I have met many people since my son David died 8 years ago who have struggled with the death of a loved one. We have all have had different challenges in moving forward with our lives afterward. It is especially difficult when the person who has died was taken early in their life, when they […]

  • My Summer of Grief Led to New Normal

    June 26, 2017

    Our daughter died on July 19, 2005.  The shock of her suicide and my own gut-wrenching grief that day is painful to remember.  No one in our family knew what to do or how to react.  It was like falling out of a boat in the dark at high tide.  We couldn’t “swim”.  We couldn’t […]

  • A Letter to Grieving Mothers

    June 25, 2017

    Why did this have to happen?  It is the first question you ask.  It is the question you will ask yourself day after day as you grieve the loss of your child.  Welcome to the club.  It is a club that none of us join freely but once you enter, you are in and cannot […]

  • Five Signs You May Be Carrying Hidden Grief

    June 13, 2017

      When my son Justin died in 1993 at the age of 16, I was emotionally crippled for at least a year, unable to return to my former life in advertising or relate to people in familiar ways. Over time, I reassembled the tattered scraps of my life into a new tapestry, and I took […]

  • An Absent Connection: Eight Years After a Child-Loss

    May 4, 2017

    This October it will be 8 years since my 10-year-old son David was tripped up during a football practice, and suffered an acute subdural hematoma which took him forever from our lives. He is always in my thoughts. Every day his smile and love runs through my day. Every benchmark of growing up his little […]

  • The Switch Stays On: Attachment After a Loss

    May 3, 2017

    How we start out in life has consequences for the rest of our lives. The connections we make, or don’t make, to whoever parents us, sets the stage for all our future relationships. The more our parents are dependable, nurturing and sensitive to our needs, the more we are set up to be part of […]

  • Webinar: What a Father Learned From the Death of his Son

    April 21, 2017

    Dr. Gloria Horsley interviews Pastor Dennis Apple about “Where is God?” after a loss—and in many cases, especially on holidays like Easter. Apple lost his son, Denny, when Denny was only 18 years old. He died of a sudden illness in 1991. Today, Apple counsels others who are grieving the loss of a loved one. […]

  • Webinar: Healing After a Fatal Car Accident

    April 19, 2017

    The Compassionate Friends, the Open to Hope Foundation, and Carl McDonald, the National Law Enforcement Initiatives Manager for MADD, offer a special webinar on grieving after losing a child due to a driving under the influence (DUI) incident. Drs. Heidi and Gloria Horsley, the hosts, lost a loved one to a DUI crash—Gloria’s son and […]

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  • Episode 118: Men and Grief with R. Glenn Kelly,  Ron Villano and Anna Huckabee Tull

    January 8, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview R. Glenn Kelly, who lost his only child, Jonathan, to a congenital heart defect and Ron Villano whose son, Michael died in an automobile accident. Both men are motivational speakers and authors. R. Glenn is the author of Sometimes I Cry in the Shower […]

  • Episode 116: Child Loss: Keeping Memories Alive with Michael and Maya Luria and Becky Belanger

    January 8, 2018

    On this show Dr.Gloria Horsley and Dr.Heidi Horsley interview Michael and Maya Luria, co-founders of the Bald Beauties Project, a non-profit that benefits children and young adults with cancer. Becky Belanger joins them, to talk about how the Bald Beauty project helped her, when her 3 and 1/2 yr. old daughter was dying of pediatric […]

  • Episode 115: Spiritual Experience and the Afterlife

    January 8, 2018

    On this show Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley interview bereaved parents Elizabeth Boisson, Irene Vouvalides and Ernie Jackson regarding their view of the afterlife and how their experiences have helped them to cope with their losses. Their organization, “Helping Parents Heal,” founded by Elizabeth Boisson, offers bereaved parents an open discussion of spiritual and […]

  • Episode 113: Laura Sullivan LMFT and Lani Ciotek-Is My Grief Complicated?

    November 17, 2017

    On this show Dr. Heidi and Dr. Gloria Horsley discuss with bereaved parents Laura Sullivan and Lani Ciotek the death of their sons and what they do to celebrate their lives. Laura lost her son Kyle shortly after graduation from High School and Lani’s son Terrance was a physician and father of two. Laura is […]

  • Episode 112: Kim Perlmutter and Sarah Cornwell: Gardening Through Grief

    November 17, 2017

    On this show Dr. Heidi Horsley and Dr. Gloria Horsley interview landscape designer Kim Perlmutter, bereaved parent of Joey and owner of “Inviting Spaces By Kim” and Sarah Cornwell, Executive Director of Gamble Garden located in Palo Alto, California regarding how gardening as well as just enjoying the gardens can heal the broken heart. A […]

  • Episode 110: Finding the Gifts in Grief with Bar Scott and Julie Lange Growth

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview singer-songwriter Bar Scott author of The Present Giver an account of Scott’s search for meaning and hope after her son Forest is diagnosed with terminal cancer and Julie Lange Groth bereaved mother of Justin and author of Healing What Grieves You and Life Between the […]

  • Episode 109: Dealing With the Death of a Difficult Child

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley speak with Marcia Alig, past president of The Compassionate Friends board, and long time volunteer, about the challenges of dealing with the death of a difficult child.  The second guests, Bobbie Comforto LCSW and Anne Kane Ph.D., founders of the Grief Channel, share insights and […]

  • Episode 108 :Supporting Suicide Survivors with Marilyn Koenig and Dr. Patrick Arbore

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Marilyn Koenig bereaved parent, co-founder and Executive Director of Friends for Survival and Dr. Patrick Arbore founder of The Friendship Line regarding their work in prevention and support of suicide survivors. A video is shown of The Friendship Line. Alan Pedersen Executive Director of The […]

  • Episode 107: Carol Kearns and Deborah Kennedy-Putting Death Into Perspective

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi interview Dr. Carol Kearns, bereaved mother of Kristen and author of Sugar Cookies and a Nightmare and expert in grief in the workplace and Deborah Kennedy bereaved daughter and author of Nature Speaks:  Art and Poetry For The Earth regarding death and renewal as part of […]

  • Episode 104: Honoring our Children

    May 16, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Gabrielle Doucet, author of Let Go & Let Love; Survivors of Suicide Loss Healing Handbook, and Judy Pedersen along with bereaved parent Daniel Abut from Hearts of Hope foundation regarding loss and how they have honored deceased family members.