The holidays are almost here. Very shortly, some of us will prepare a list of things so we can get ready for the season. It may look like this…

Christmas cards? Check!

Hanukkah candles? Check!

Gifts for children, spouse and parent? Check, check, check!

Though Hanukkah and Christmas are joyous occasions for most, they can be very anxious, trying times if you are spending your first (or another) holiday without a special loved one. Saddened with loss, you may struggle to participate in the season’s festivities. One way that can help you through this period, or any period for that matter, is music. Like other people have done, you can purchase a brand new music CD with the specific intent of listening to it when the season gets too crazy or you are not feeling well. Since music is an important part of the holiday rituals, you can let it be a companion to lift your spirits. Listening to a special CD that offers you comfort, inspiration and motivation when you need it, is truly holiday healing.

The advantage to purchasing a new product as opposed to listening to one you already own is that the music will be unfamiliar to you and thus personal associations with it won’t exist. You will be cultivating a new friendship. And the music you buy can be anything you like. There is no ‘right music’. The only criteria is that the music brings pleasure and offers relief when you listen to it.

Music can also be a wonderful gift for someone else: someone who possibly is experiencing grief due to the same loss as you. If there is no ‘check’ next to their name this holiday, why not purchase a music CD for them? Giving the gift of music to a person in need of healing is a sensitive, thoughtful act of compassion. It expresses your genuine concern for the individual and your relationship. It can also be a bond during this life-changing event for the both of you.

Besides popular artists, there is music specifically for bereavement. Healing music comes in a palette of colorful sounds; everything from vocal selections to recordings that feature a solo instrument such as guitar or piano to albums containing the instruments of the orchestra.

Healing music can relax the mind and slow down the body. The result can be reduced muscle tension, anxiety and stress. It can even ease depression and assist in sleeping. Music can be an important ally to help those suffering with bereavement, particularly at the holidays.

Regarding purchasing music, I often tell people about a company called, cdbaby. I am very familiar with them as they are one of the distributors of my music. cdbaby has the distinction of being the world’s largest seller of on line music by independent musicians. These are talented musicians with quality recordings. To get to their site, just Google:

No matter what type of music you like, cdbaby will carry it. If you are looking for healing music, click on GENRES on the front page of the website. Select New Age and you’ll then find sub-categories that include ambient, healing, meditation, relaxation and spiritual. Choose one that interests you and peruse the CDs. Click on any album and you can read about it, view the cover art and listen to samples. You’ll also find information explaining what the music is intended for and reviews by previous purchasers of the album. If interested, you can purchase the album right there on that page. cdbaby makes it very safe and convenient to shop for good music.

If bereavement will be part of your holiday, I hope you will remember what you have instinctively known your whole life: music is indispensable. We keep turning to it for an emotional experience, which often leads us to feel better. Music makes any occasion lighter and brighter. During this difficult time, give yourself some holiday healing; give yourself some music!

Tony Falzano is an author, college professor and an award winning songwriter. He also presents seminars and writes articles on music and the enormous health benefits it has to offer. His articles have appeared in national print publications and web sites including Open to Hope, where he has been a featured writer. Reach him at


Tony Falzano

Tony Falzano is an author, college professor and songwriter who resides in Rochester, New York. He writes and speaks on the enormous health benefits that music has to offer. His articles on the power in music to heal can be found in all the major grief publications. In addition, his presentations such as, “Composing Grief” has been highly regarded in grief and hospice organizations throughout western New York. Furthermore, Tony is an award winning songwriter whose career expands 40 years. He composes music to assist people to feel calm, centered and relaxed. His music CD, “Just a Touch Away”, along with his first album, "In Abba’s Arms", have been listened to by many grieving a loss. Both CDs contain beautifully orchestrated, melodic, instrumental music designed to be a companion to those searching for healing and hope. You are invited to view, read and listen to both albums. Please visit

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