Time heals all wounds.

The message has been passed down for centuries, used in memes, mimes, and has come out of many mouths from those who wish to offer another person encouragement and support.

For some of us, this expression is a beacon of hope that keeps us clinging to life, maybe even getting out of bed or putting one proverbial foot in front of the other, day in and day out.

For others, it is a razor-sharp knife that taunts our every, excruciatingly eternal, waking moment. Time… Minutes. Hours. Days. Months. Years… How can something as abstract as Time possibly cure anything?

Your pain lingers. Your tears flow. Your heart aches for what was, fears what is, and cannot begin to imagine what might be.

Time. PUH!, you say. The ticking hands on a clock cannot repair my broken relationships; they cannot bring back the dead, fill the financial void since losing my job, cure the physical or mental conditions from which I suffer, or replace everything I lost to disaster.

True, Neighbor. It is all true.

That said, I’d like to share something I have learned about Time in the three decades since my son died from unexpected delivery complications. It is not Time that heals our wounds, but We—You and Me and Them, all of us who grieve a loss—it is We who heal our own wounds with Time.

How much time? How long will I feel this way? When will the pain stop?

These are but a few of the pleas we shout to the rooftops; we beg of our counselors, family, and friends; and questions that rattle endlessly within our heads and our hearts.

Your time, Neighbor. In your own time.

Time is what affords you experiences, conversations, and AHA! moments that will help you find resolution in each of the conflicts that comprise your grief…questions and uncertainties that may encompass every part of your being, impacting the facets that are your academic, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual Self.

I can honestly stand before you and say that I no longer mourn my son’s death; I celebrate his life. Time, itself did not do that. I did. I was relentless in my pursuit of obtaining answers to my countless questions and I ultimately found a way to accept what I learned, even when the answer was, “Sometimes there are no known reasons.” I sought out counselors who were a good fit for me and friends who were not afraid to listen to me talk about my pain.

There were times when I nourished my body by eating and bathing and there were hours on end where I stayed in bed, and many more where I made myself sick on buckets of peanut butter cup ice cream.

In one epiphany I realized that I am truly not alone in my grief, for commonalities exist no matter the type of loss. In another moment that Time afforded me, I unraveled conflict surrounding religion and my spiritual beliefs, and on several more occasions I expanded upon that healing. One day I came to accept that we change every minute of every day, and on another day, I acknowledged that as we evolve, not everyone in our circle will continue to align with our needs and desires. In a glorious instant, as I sat slumped on the floor next to the toilet, I realized that my bulimia was not only hurting my body, it was one maladaptive and dysfunctional way I was trying to control the life around me that seemed completely out of control.

And in yet another beautiful moment, I came to know this little nugget about Time: It is not Time that heals our wounds, Neighbor, it is You and Me who heal ourselves through the gifts that come in Time. Your Time. My Time.










Annah Elizabeth

Annah Elizabeth is The Five Facets founder and creator of The Five Facets Philosophy on Healing™, a groundbreaking guide that helps us live our best personal, professional, and philanthropic lives, even in the face of extreme adversity. She is a School of Nursing guest lecturer, a Continuing Ed instructor, and has experience working with all age groups. She is a published author; a TEDx, community, and keynote speaker; a personal coach, energy healer, and workshop facilitator. Her writings and work have been featured in numerous online magazines, radio programs, and national live events. Annah’s wellness solutions empower the grieving with tips, strategies, and resources that support them in both the active grief phase and on to their ultimate transition beyond bereavement. Motivated by personal tragedies including the death of her firstborn, miscarriages, infidelity, and severe depression—Annah Elizabeth set out to uncover the secrets that allow us to triumph over tragedy. Her programs include academic and alternative modalities, all designed to meet the unique and preferred needs of each individual. She is certified at the Master Instructor-Teacher levels in Integrated Energy Therapy® and Reiki and is a certified Medical Reiki Master. The strength of Annah's voice lies in a hope that transports us all into the realm of possibility and peace. She lives in upstate New York with her husband and numerous pets, but that is just geography for Annah feels at home wherever her life and her work lead her. She is the proud mother of four, charming and witty children in varying states of independence; three here on Earth and one in Heaven. She enjoys those precious moments catching up with her children, empowering and helping others heal worlds of hurt, hugs, nature, numbers, reading, and meeting and working with new people. She believes we are all neighbors and that a stranger is merely a friend you haven’t yet met. Learn more and join her networking neighborhoods via her Website, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Website: http://www.thefivefacetsofhealing.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuhmhXfYx8sqyDTC_FRqSKw Facebook: http://fb.me/AnnahElizabethHealGrief Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefivefacetsofhealing/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheFiveFacets LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annah-elizabeth-244b2ab0 Every day millions of people are asking the question, “How am I going to survive this?” Motivated by personal tragedy, the death of her firstborn (and other big & little life grievances), Annah Elizabeth set out to uncover the secrets that allow some people to triumph over tragedy. She has spent more than twenty years studying how we recover from mayhem and mishap. She is passionate about the power within each of us to heal our heartaches and to triumph over tragedy. She shares her insights and discoveries through writing and from the stage. Through her explorations of loss, grief, and healing, Annah not only discovered that the answers are as universal as the mystery itself, she unearthed essential grief event recovery tools which she assembled into The Five Facets Philosophy on Healing, a three-part, groundbreaking program that acts as a roadmap to help us make the transition from grief to healing. She presented her talk, “The Power of ‘What if’” at TEDx Nacogdoches. Her writings have been featured in numerous online magazines. She’s been a guest speaker on several BlogTalk Radio programs, the most recent being the world renowned Grief Diaries show. The strength of Annah's voice lies in a hope that transports all of us into the realm of possibility and peace, to that place where we can live our best personal, professional, and philanthropic lives, even in the face of adversity... She lives in upstate New York with her husband, numerous pets, and three, charming and witty young adult/college-aged children in varying states of independence. She loves connecting and invites you to join her at The Five Facets, www.thefivefacets.com, on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest ,Google+, and at [email protected]

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