Kelli Tucker: Helping People After the Death of a Loved One

At the latest National Alliance for Grieving Children conference, Kelli Tucker talks with Dr. Gloria Horsley about how to help those who are bereaved. Tucker works with Roberta’s House in Baltimore, the only grief center in the city. She got a job offer via email from Roberta’s House, interviewed, and was hired as the volunteer coordinator. She’s had plenty of losses herself, including her brother who was killed by a drunk driver. He was a police officer working on New Year’s Eve when he was struck and killed.

Years before that, her mother died of breast cancer. She considers the job divine intervention. She didn’t even know she was grieving—she just thought she was going a little crazy. At Roberta’s House, she found out her feelings were a normal part of grief. It was her light at the end of the tunnel and completely turned her life around.

Divine Intervention

She recommends prayer and to understand that there’s always hope. Your journey is your journey, and everyone goes through a different one. Everyone will have different ups and downs, but it’s all normal and part of the grief experience. When you come out the other end, you’re more willing to help other people. In fact, you want to in order to help them minimize pain.

While Roberta’s House is unique in Baltimore, you can find various grief resources and centers around the country as well as online. Nobody should go through grief alone, and it’s nearly impossible to do so. Just because your support system doesn’t look like you imagined doesn’t mean it’s not authentic. Many times, it takes being around those who are empathetic towards your situation, and that might not be your friends and family.


Gloria Horsley

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Dr. Gloria Horsley is an internationally known grief expert, psychotherapist, and bereaved parent. She started "Open to Hope" to help the millions in the world with grief. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Nurse Specialist, and has worked in the field of family therapy for over 20 years. Dr. Horsley hosts the syndicated internet radio show, The Grief Blog which is one of the top ranked shows on Health Voice America. She serves the Compassionate Friends in a number of roles including as a Board of Directors, chapter leader, workshop facilitator, and frequently serves as media spokesperson. Dr. Horsley is often called on to present seminars throughout the country. She has made appearances on numerous television and radio programs including "The Today Show," "Montel Williams," and "Sallie Jessie Raphael." In addition, she has authored a number of articles and written several books including Teen Grief Relief with Dr. Heidi Horlsey, and The In-Law Survival Guide.


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  • teresa says:

    My partner lost his wife of many years 4 years ago.wev been together two partner cannot get a hard erection to have sex.he gets very nasty and frustraed what can i do

  • Nancy says:

    I am in great need of help. In less than 2 years, I have gone through 4 deaths, with my mother’s death being the devastating one, divorce, abandonment, rejection, financially concerned, no friends or family, physical pain and I presently fractured my spine and am in need of a total right ankle replacement. I live alone and finally am verbal about asking for help. I’ve begged for help to so many people for the last 2 years and no one helps or seems to care. I have lost the will to live.