What is a peaceful heart?  To make peace with loss you must cultivate peace in your heart. This is a challenge when your heart is broken. But it is achievable. We are meant to make peace with loss.

A peaceful heart:

1.      Seeks simplicity, where life is not driven by either deprivation or accumulation.

2.      Lets go of anxieties and false beliefs that we cling to as life preservers but that are actually fear preservers.

3.      Knows that the things let go will cost little, that peace is incompatible with a need to cling.

4.      Looks within itself, without judgment. Therein lies a deeper understanding.

5.      Makes peace with uncertainty; knows that it does not know all.

Excerpted from Finding Peace When Your Heart Is In Pieces: A Step-by-Step Guide to the Other Side of Grief, Loss, and Pain: Coleman, Paul: 0045079573383: Amazon.com: Books

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Paul Coleman

Dr. Paul Coleman is a psychologist in private practice for over thirty years and the author of a dozen books including his most recent “Finding Peace When Your Heart Is in Pieces” (ADAMS MEDIA, 2014). He has appeared on national television shows such as “OPRAH” and “TODAY” and has appeared on dozens of national radio shows including NPR and WABC. Dr. Coleman specializes in the treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder as well helping people through grief and other life transitions. For fun, Paul enjoys acting and has appeared in over forty community theater stage productions. He recently appeared as a grief counselor in the HBO series “I Know This Much Is True” starring Mark Ruffalo. He has written several stage plays—as yet unpublished—but has had readings of his plays performed in New York City and Austin, Texas. Paul and his wife have three children and four grandchildren.

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