Judy Marquette lost her son on Easter eight years ago. For her, this time of year is especially difficult. Spring sets in and new life is gifted in abundance. It is a time when families gather to enjoy one another and, depending on religious beliefs, offer tribute to the remembrance and sacrifice of Jesus Christ.
Given her life-altering loss, Judy’s outlook is remarkable. She has renewed and strengthened her faith in God and learned to live again with purpose in the aftermath. She has channeled her sorrow into the creative outlet of music.
I interviewed her recently, and this is some of what she had to say. “On Easter Sunday, 2003, my life changed dramatically. I was notified my son, Steve, had just been killed in a tragic car accident on his way home. This defined my most devastating and life-changing turning point — the beginning of my journey through the storm of grief.”
Judy continued, “The burial of one’s child is a wrenching alteration of expectations. I lost a part of me, not just my son. I also lost innocence about life – a security in believing this could never happen to me . I suddenly became vulnerable to pain, to the concept of my own mortality and more importantly vulnerable to the mortality of my loved ones.”
Judy described Steve’s passion, “He lived every moment of his 24 years, because he cherished every day, every minute, and every person with a depth that few could understand.”
She found healing through faith, support and music. Judy shared, “It’s the message of Jesus Christ, available through the universal language of music that provided me with peace, comfort, and harmony. Messages in songs helped me express and feel love, acknowledge pain, embrace loss, see glimmers of hope, build a deeper relationship with my Lord, and eventually find strength and healing on this painful journey.”
Have a great Easter!
Kathryn WilliamsTags: signs and connections
My dear daughter Julie passed away one year ago today, 4-25-10 It was especially difficult getting through the Easter weekend without breaking down at every thought of my daughter. She left on an early Sunday morning in her father’s and my arms, other family around all telling her to go to Jesus, let him take her home. She had fought valiantly for 7 weeks and I still can’t believe she didn’t pull through. We miss her very, very much. We love and miss you Julie.
Jo, God bless you and your family. Keep communicating to your daughter, I believe she is still in your lives, in a new way, in spirit now. May you find peace knowing she is now an angel surrounding you all with the white light of her love!
A friend of mine sent this to me and I thank you for stating that Easter is still a time of grief for you. I was awaken at about 5 o’clock in the morning to police officers telling me my 27 year old son had a fatal motorcycle accident on his way home from work, he was working part time as a server while going to MMI in Orlando(I live in IN and he was attending school in FL. I know that Easter is a floating holiday, and last year (2011) it was on 4/24/11 the date of his death. But today, Easter, brings back the memories of that horrible time….I lost not just a son, but a best friend, Monty was different than most boys, he loved garage saleing with me and going to the auctions, and wouldn’t have it if I was going to dinner and didn’t take him, lol….My oldest son (only had 2, now just 1), thinks my mourning during this time is stupid and doesn’t understand its the time that reminds me, not the actual date…God has guided me and many friends and the pastor from the church has helped me deal with this loss…I just wanted you to know that I thank you for sharing this story…God Bless and continue to be strong and an inspiration to others 🙂