My Boyfriend Was Killed 5 Days Ago

My boyfriend was killed 5 days ago and I feel like I died with him. I am not sure how to deal with it and I feel like noone really understands what I?m going through. I just want to thank the person that created this website and say that I am sure that I will spend alot of time here.


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  • Jamie says:

    dear nikki- I am so sorry. This site is amazing it was started by Scott’s mom and sister through compassionate friends. Their conversations with their guests on grief are important to me. I check in here often as I process my daughter Leah’s life/death and wonder who I am now? It helps.

  • Debra Reagan says:

    I am so very sorry about the loss of your boyfriend. Tell us a little more about this special guy.

    I have never experienced the death of a boyfriend, but I have had the lost of my son. It sounds as though you might be having nautral feelings of isolation. Besides this online group, I hope you can find a person of whom you can share this loss. I have found that talking and sharing is the best medicine. Make sure you also drink plenty of water, eat healty food and take walks.

    Sometimes it also helps to write about our thoughts and to make collages of our pictures. Be kind to yourself.

  • Melba says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Please share more of your story. I lost my son, my only child, in April 2007. He had a girlfriend he had dated for about 5 years and I was surprised how little support was geared to her dealing with the loss. It is a different relationship and needs such special care. It is good that you are reaching out and you will find that others will be there for you. My sons girlfriend and I have been holding each other together. It has been one place where there is no holding back and no judging on how we are feeling. Friends are important but finding others who can relate to your loss are important too. Take care of yourself

  • Kimberly says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Nikki. I know that this can’t be easy for you. I’m currently in a realationship with a man now that lost his girlfriend to an accident 8 years ago. Now that we are in the moving process and starting to living together, a lot of memories have been coming back to him. A lot of guilt I could imagine too. He says that just having someone that he can talk about it with helps. I don’t have a lot of experience with grieving but I am trying to educate myself so that I can try to relate with what he feels. Any advice would be a big help.