This is an excerpt from Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss, by Karen Noe, which is available on

One of the easiest ways for your deceased loved ones to reach you is in your dreams. All you need to do is to ask them to come, and they will be there for you. Make sure to also request that they wake you up after they come; if you don’t wake up after the dream, you won’t be able to remember it.

The important thing to do then is to just be patient and wait. For whatever reason, they may not always be able to enter your dreams immediately after your request. However, they will come when the time is right for the both of you.

It is also important to know the difference between a dream that is coming from your own subconscious, and a dream that is a true visitation. A dream that is from your own subconscious may be frightening or feel bad. You may dream of how they suffered or died, or other types of regrets you may have had with them. This type of dream is not from your loved ones; it is from your own mind, trying to resolve everything that had occurred with them. A dream that is a true visitation will be very peaceful, and you will know they were truly there with you. You will also remember this type of dream in detail many years later.

Right after my mother passed away, I longed to hear her voice, so I mentally asked her to give me a chance to hear her again. A few days after my request, I stayed home from work because I was not feeling well. After doing a few things that needed to be done around the house, I went to bed to take a nap. When I was asleep, I dreamt I was in a crowded place, and heard my mother’s voice come over the loud speaker, saying, “I have an important announcement! I have an important announcement!” Then there was a pause, and she continued, “I am here and I’m okay!”

When she was talking, I knew without a doubt it was really her speaking, and asked her, “Mom! Oh my God! Mom, it’s you! I love you so much! Who are you with?”

She responded in a very low voice with a name I could not hear, so I asked her to turn up the volume and tell me again. She then softly answered, “Nannie.”  Nannie is what I called my grandmother, her mother. After she spoke these words, the phone rang and woke me up, so I was able to remember the dream.

My mother would always make it known when she had an important thing to say when she was still here on earth. That’s why I know without a doubt that her important announcement was coming directly from her. After receiving the wonderful gift of her coming to me in that dream, I woke up and felt as if I had won the lottery!

Requirements for Remembering this Type of Dream

Many people tell me that they want to have these types of dreams, but they haven’t had any luck so far. I tell them that I’m sure their loved ones are coming in dreams, but they are not remembering them.

The simple requirements of having and remembering this type of dream are: you must first set the intention of hearing from them; you should accept and not discount the dream as a sign when it does come; and most importantly, you must wake up after the dream.

So remember to ask your loved ones to come to you in a dream, and make sure to wake you up afterwards, or else you won’t remember it.  Then just be patient, and they will come to you in this fashion, when the time is right for the both of you.

How They May Appear

Your loved ones will appear as they would want to be remembered. They usually look as they did when they were healthy, at the age they loved the best. If they were older, they generally come at around the age of 35; if they were very young, they come as the age they would be now. They may also alter whatever they didn’t like about their appearance when they were physically here, as my mom did when she made herself taller. They may or may not speak; as a matter of fact, many of my clients tell me that their deceased loved ones don’t say anything when they come to them in dreams. This is perfectly okay; they just want their living loved ones to know they are there, and no words are necessary.

You may also feel them as they touch or hug you, smell them as they did when they were physically here, hear their voice, or just feel their physical presence around you. These types of dreams are often the most satisfying because these are the ones in which you are able to sense them in the way that you remember them the most.

The bottom line is that it really doesn’t matter how they come to you in a dream; it’s that they do come to you. When it happens, and it will, you will know without a doubt that it was a true visitation from them. You’ll finally be able to breathe a sigh of relief, knowing they really are still able to communicate with you!


Karen Noe

Karen Noe is a renowned New Jersey-based psychic medium, spiritual counselor, and healer with a two-year waiting list. She is the author of "The Rainbow Follows the Storm: How to Obtain Inner Peace by Connecting with Angels and Deceased Loved Ones," "Through the Eyes of Another: A Medium's Guide to Creating Heaven on Earth by Encountering Your Life Review Now," and "Your Life After Their Death: A Medium's Guide to Healing After a Loss." She is the founder of the Angel Quest Center in Ramsey NJ, where she teaches classes, gives readings, and practices alternative healing. You can listen to Karen on The Angel Quest Radio Show by tuning to on the first Saturday of every month at 1.05pm Eastern. P

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