Deb Kosmer, a bereaved parent, author, poet, health care professional, and blogger, entered a post on Facebook about the practice of writing through grief. She said letters make words, words make sentences, sentences make pages, pages make chapters, and chapters make books.
I think one more line is needed: “Words create a new life.”
Experience made me add this line. Four family members died in 2007, including my daughter, the mother of my twin grandchildren. Each loss was painful, but my daughter’s death was the most painful. I didn’t think I would survive.
Turning to Writing
Because I’m a writer, I turned to my occupation for solace. A week after my daughter died, I sat down at the computer, and poured out my soul in words. While I was writing articles, I searched for ways to help myself. I looked for memorable quotes, words that would sustain me.
This search led to a book of quotations for women. But I didn’t stop there. I started writing affirmations in my mind. Indeed, they flooded my mind. So many affirmations came into my consciousness I created a book of them.
‘You Will Survive’
This leads me back to Deb Kosmer’s Facebook post. Today, I am able to see the grief healing steps I took. Many of the steps were unconscious, my mind’s way of saying “You will survive.” I am so glad I expressed my grief with words.
My heartfelt words, and the resources I used, led to a new life. Writing about your grief can do the same for you. If you are feeling lost, I ask you to write. Put your ideas and feelings into words. Keep doing it. As time passes, your words will reveal feelings, problems, and possible solutions to these problems.
In time, your heartfelt words will lead you out of the darkness into the light.
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