If you are reading this article, let me first say that I am so sorry for your loss. No one understands the wounds of loss better than another bereaved parent. Nothing is more devastating than attending your own child’s funeral and I’m sorry to be welcoming you to this club.
That said, let me share with you the one piece of good news that may allow you to breathe again: What you lose in the flesh you can find in the spirit, for spirit is eternal and death comes only to the body. I know this, not because of religious belief or doctrine, but because of direct experience with my son Danny, who passed on July 1, 2008 from an overdose.
Since that harrowing day when my husband and I found Danny in his apartment, Danny has made his presence known to me in so many ways, that I’d have to be in denial NOT to accept that it is truly him!
I do believe that we have all been blind-sided into believing that only the physical world is real and that what is real must be seen with our eyes. As a result of this “single vision” perspective, we are prevented from acknowledging the vast and beautiful realm of spirit, which is where our children are now and where we will be one day. It’s a travesty, because so much pain and suffering grow out of from this limited perspective.
We have much to explore and learn and once you have a child-in-spirit, the need to learn becomes critical. “Where is my child and is he or she okay” is what I call the parental mantra and it never stops running through our hearts and minds, and so we are set on a path to learn as much as we can about the realm of spirit. I would recommend to those of you who wish to make a connection to a loved one-in-spirit to purchase a copy of my own book, “Lost and Found—A Mother Connects-Up With Her Child In Spirit” for it will lead you in that direction.
The other thing I recommend is registering your deceased child for prayer with The Prayer Registry. The Prayer Registry is a free service for all bereaved parents. When you register your child with TPR, his or her name is printed on The Prayer Registry Calendars and every year on the passing date of your child, he or she (as well as you and your family), will receive prayers from the entire Prayer Team, which is made up bereaved parents who care about each other and each other’s children. In this way, we make sure that no one in this situation goes through an anniversary date alone, but instead with the support of many.
Each member of The Prayer Team receives an email every night to let them know who is being held-in-prayer the next day and in this way we are able to stay united and focused on our intention to send prayer to the children. Being a part of TPR gives each of us support and strength on the hardest day of the year, the anniversary day of our child’s passing. Beyond that is the gift of energy and love that goes directly to our children-in-spirit!
To registry your child for prayer send their full name and passing date to Sheri at: firstname.lastname@example.org. I will take care of the rest and get back to you to let you know how you can find your child’s name on the calendar, as well as how we work as a group. All bereaved parents are welcome to join us! Note that there are 2 r’s right in a row in TPR email address.
Once you become a member of TPR you become eligible for discount readings with a wonderfully gifted medium who does her readings over the phone and on Skype to anywhere in the world. TPR also provides a few scholarship readings for those who cannot afford the discounted price.
Lastly, I would like to let you know about “The Grieving Parents Handbook” which is available at my website: sheriperl.com as a free download. This little book was written by me and a group of bereaved mothers who wish to lend a hand to others coping with loss.
I know that this is a terrible time for you and my heart goes out to you, knowing only too well how I felt, and sometimes still feel. However, I also want to tell you that I no longer doubt that Danny walks by my side and shares my life with me. It’s not the same, of course, because I can’t see him, but I do have an ongoing relationship with him and I believe that anyone who desires this, can do the same.
What has been lost, can be found and as far as I am concerned, finding in the spirit what you have lost in the flesh is the only real solace!