Sometimes, it’s hard to put things into perspective becuase we are always so consumed about what we are feeling and how it affects us in our lives, that we don’t take the time to think that maybe somebody has it just a little bit harder than you.
I was in a charity golf outing this weekend honoring one of our beloved family members, who I have written about earlier, who passed away from a 2 year battle with leukemia in March. Ironically, the golf outing was on 9-11 and it couldn’t have been more fitting since he was a police officer. That day to me, is a day to honor all heroes, who make a difference in our lives daily. 100% of the proceeds went to support the family.
What a great day to honor a great man. In the back of my mind I always think of my Dad as he was the father of two very small children. Thankfully since the golf outing was in the same city as his wife and children, we paid them a visit after. His kids are 6 and 2, and these are happy kids. The 6 year old understands it but he has got so much cool stuff going on like starting school, playing baseball games, etc. It was great he wanted to show me all the cool stuff in his room and what each stuffed animal’s name was, danced in the kitchen, and ate pizza. I thought to myself, “Geez why can’t more adults be like that?” He understands to a point the sadness and the fact that his Dad is never coming back. It’s tough at times, but the carefree part of life is something we all wish we could get back.
I enjoyed that visit immensely because it taught me to keep everything in perspective. There are going to be tough days when all you can think about is the loss of your loved one. There are also going to be days you feel like dancing and playing around. Both are great days for that person is never far from your thoughts and heart.
A question I have for you is: What are you doing today to honor your Dad or loved one?
Always a friend to listen,
Eric Tomei-author I Miss My Dad
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Tags: grief, hope
