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What Do Men Bereaved by Suicide Need?

Posted on January 19, 2014 - by Franklin Cook

What Do Men Bereaved by Suicide Need? Men have a chance to answer that question themselves in an anonymous, confidential survey that is available online until Jan. 31, 2014. If you are a man 19 or older who has lost a family member, friend, or colleague to suicide, please go directly to the survey at http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/MenBereavement. And whether or not you are someone who fills out the survey, please consider sharing the link with men you know who have lost a loved one to suicide — as well as on appropriate email lists. The survey was designed by the leaders […]

Phases of Recovery from Child-Loss

Posted on January 16, 2014 - by admin

The death of a loved one is far worse than any physical pain that we can imagine. I wrote a book called An Angel is Born. The book was inspired by the death of my sister’s child, who passed away in 2011. The theme of the book is parents who lose their children before their own death. I would like to share with you some of the phases of recovery that I’ve experienced with her parents. At this point, their lives take on a different dimension. Time for them is like a cog of slow grinding gears. Time flows for […]

My Grief Process: Pain an ‘Exquisite Form of Love’

Posted on January 10, 2014 - by Elizabeth Wagele

The complete version of this was written by J. J. a year after the deaths of her daughter and granddaughter. It was published in Elizabeth Wagele’s book, The Enneagram of Death and excerpted in The Career Within You blog on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-career-within-you/201301/healing-after-terrible-loss I write to make sense of the year since the untimely death of my daughter and my 11-year-old granddaughter in a single car accident. I’ve known for a long time that life is a preparation for death. Still, I get confused and long for someone in my wandering to show me a clear path. I know the […]

Moving Forward After a Suicide

Posted on January 10, 2014 - by Lisa Khuraibet

Today is January 10. It is a date that holds significance; it is the day my father died by suicide. It will be 25 years since his passing and yet, this year feels particularly difficult for me. Perhaps it is the realization that I lost him when I was a young woman or that I could have easily gone that way as I was going through my own divorce. I’m not sure what it is. It could just be the haunting memory of it. I remember when I got the phone call. My mother’s friend called. I did not believe […]

Looking for Hope in the New Year

Posted on January 9, 2014 - by Maria Kubitz

For many, welcoming in the New Year is a celebration of optimism and hope. Many see it as a fresh start and a chance to take steps to improve both their lives and perhaps themselves. Of course, this isn’t a view shared by all. For the newly bereaved, the New Year can be an incredibly painful milestone. Thinking back to the first New Year after the death of my daughter four years ago, I was blindsided by how painful it was for me. She died on September 30, so I had been preoccupied with overwhelming anxiety over how I was […]

What Does God Think About Suicide Victims?

Posted on January 7, 2014 - by Max Lucado

Suicide victims battled life’s rawest contests. They often faced a mental illness or illnesses and felt the peril of mental fatigue. What you and I take for granted, they coveted. Optimism. Hope. Confidence that all will be well. Their clouds had no silver linings; their storms had no rainbows. Didn’t we wonder, Why couldn’t he snap out of this slump . . . shrug off this case of the blues . . . buck up and move forward? Of course, had the struggle been a physical one, we wouldn’t have asked those questions. Of cancer patients we don’t ask, “Why […]

Winter Grief, Spring Healing

Posted on January 3, 2014 - by John Pete

This time of year can be especially difficult for many who are grieving a personal losses. The December holidays have come and gone, and the days are long and dreary for many. It sometimes feels as if the warmth of Spring may never get here, but instead of waiting for light at then end of the long dark tunnel of Winter, you can create a beacon of light for yourself! You have the power to inspire renewal and hope within yourself at times when you may need it most. Many of us enjoy special gardens and other projects that foster healing while also honoring our loved ones. And the long […]

New Year’s Resolutions for the Caregiver

Posted on January 2, 2014 - by Carol O'Dell

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New Year’s Resolutions After a Spouse-Loss

Posted on January 1, 2014 - by Laurie Spector & Ruth Spector Webster

Give yourself a big pat on the back! You’ve just survived the holidays, one of the toughest times for anyone grieving a loss. Now you’re probably looking ahead and wondering how you’ll ever make it through the next twelve months. Here are five suggestions to help gently ease you along the bumpy road of bereavement: 1. Remember to keep any resolutions realistic. You’re not your usual self while you’re grieving, so be gentle with yourself. 2. Set at least one small, “bite-size” goal every day, such as tackling a couple of tasks. Be sure to reward yourself after each effort. […]

Good-bye to Good-byes

Posted on December 30, 2013 - by Max Lucado

Good-bye. No one wants to say it. Not the spouse of an astronaut. Not the mom of a soon-to-be preschooler. Not the father of the bride. Not the husband in the convalescent home. Not the wife in the funeral home. Especially not her. Death is the most difficult good-bye of all. I write these words freshly reminded of the ache of saying good-bye. Our church has had five funerals in the last seven days, from the memorial for a baby to the burial of a ninety-four-year-old friend. The sorrow took its toll on me. I found myself moping about, sad. […]