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Unsolved Homicides May Destabilize Survivors

Posted on March 25, 2024 - by Lori Grande

Unsolved Homicides Destabilize Many Lives Homicide is a complicated loss, and its reflection resides in a constant state of metamorphosis with each new experience that follows in its wake. In order to even scratch the surface of resolution of such a loss, we are propelled to find something in the horrific event to transform, to make anew within ourselves. My brother’s unsolved homicide created a process of on-going destabilization for many years. Over time, that destabilization turned into an awareness of what is survivable and what can be transformed, even without a resolution. I found my greatest power in self-definition […]

Grief and Joy Merge in Love

Posted on March 25, 2024 - by Judy Lipson

Grief is Love, Joy is Love What words come to mind when we think of love? I think of emotion, devotion, adoration, and respect. Each person may have their own unique definition of love. I want to speak about love in grief and love in joy, two powerful feelings, and how I came to realize love is the connection to both. For years, the dichotomy in my brain never allowed me to witness the symmetry of grief and joy, and find a place in my heart for both. Grief is Deep Losing my cherished sisters Margie and Jane forever changed […]

Love is Stronger than Death

Posted on March 25, 2024 - by Harriet Hodgson

I was a member of the church choir for 20 years. A line from one of the songs we sang keeps rattling around in my mind: “Love is stronger than death.” Though I sang the line fervently at the time, I doubted its truth. Years later, I lived this line and found it was true. In 2007, four family members died in a row: my daughter (mother of my fraternal twin grandkids), father-in-law, brother, and the twins’ father. My daughter and father-in-law died the same weekend. I didn’t want to look at their photos on the obit page of the […]

Writing through Grief

Posted on March 25, 2024 - by Ilana Estelle

I write about grief to help me through the ‘grieving process’ after the loss of my twin. I hope it helps you too. Grief is complex; it’s based around individual experiences that people go through in response to loss. WRITING HELPS ME Writing helps me through the grieving process after the loss of my twin. It allows me to express how I feel, myself. The act of putting thoughts into words, I find is cathartic and healing. GRIEF IS NOT LINEAR It is important to be aware that grief is not a linear process. It does not have a defined […]

Cleaning Out the Closet of a Deceased Loved One

Posted on March 13, 2024 - by Rachel Kodanaz

Cleaning Out the Closet With the longer days of summer upon us, it might be the right time to tackle the organizing of your spouse/partner’s personal belonging. “Cleaning out your closets” presents a significant challenge for most widows – the overwhelming thought of going through your deceased loved ones belongings and trying to decide what do with the items is by far one of the hardest pieces of widowhood. When referring to “cleaning out the closets,” it is not just the bedroom; it includes the home office, the work office, the garage, the basement and the pile of papers that […]

How I Surrendered to the Grief of Losing My Husband

Posted on March 9, 2024 - by Jennifer Hawkins

The Grief of Losing My Husband On February 4, 2009, I woke up to find that my husband had died in his sleep from an undetected heart condition. He was forty-nine years old. I was thirty-nine. It was the biggest shock of my life. The first two hours were a blur of emotion, pain, fear, shock, and denial. The next two and a half years have been a lesson in living life much more openly, deeply, and presently. In the immediate aftermath of his death, I discovered I had two choices. I could either surrender to what had happened, or […]

Twins: Connected in Life and Death

Posted on March 8, 2024 - by Linda Pountney

Twins: Connected in Life and Death As a twin myself, the death of actor and identical twin Jon Hager was especially fascinating. Jon and Jim Hager co-starred in the old TV show, “Hee-Haw,” back in the 1970s. Jim died of a heart attack last year at just 66 years of age; Jon died at 67 on Jan. 9. It had been reported that Jon was depressed after his brother’s death; the cause of Jon’s death has not yet been determined. These nearly back-to-back deaths don’t surprise me. When the twin bond is broken, it leaves a bereft and broken twin. […]

Signs and Dreams from our Children

Posted on March 7, 2024 - by Louise Lagerman

Signs and Dreams from our Children Dreams and signs of our children. Do they really exist? Are dreams and signs a technique our deceased children use to contact us to let us know they are fine and indeed do live on? I believe with my whole heart they do. I am very fortunate and blessed. Because of my Grief Support website, I am privileged to hear about numerous dreams and signs deceased children have shown their parents and grandparents. Although they vary in context, they all have the same theme of our deceased children communicating to us that they still […]

Widower Ponders What to do With the Ring

Posted on March 6, 2024 - by Richard Ballo

What Do I Do with the Ring? Eight months after my wife Lisa died of cancer, I sat in our bedroom staring at my gold wedding band, the symbol of our love and marriage that I still wore. I didn’t want to let go. I didn’t want my marriage to end after only 8 years, and the thought of removing my ring plagued me with guilt. Yet, I knew that I had to remove my ring. I had to admit that at age 40, I was a widower with two young sons to raise. My ring is a symbol of […]

Knowing About Grief Helps with Grieving

Posted on March 4, 2024 - by Bradie Hansen

Knowing About Grief Helps with Grieving My father died almost two weeks ago after two weeks in the ICU. For most of that time, he was on a ventilator. My dad had lymphoma, and he was already in the hospital due to issues connected with an infection in his lungs and the effects the cancer. Still, no one guessed that his situation would escalate and culminate the way it did, landing him in the ICU. And no one expected him to die. Yet, here we are, a week out from my father’s wake and burial. I miss him terribly. I’m […]