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friends hurt

Posted on January 6, 2011 - by admin

hello im milad 18 year i always got hurt from my near friends now i afraid off every one that wants to be my friend

Grieving and Growing in the New Year

Posted on January 6, 2011 - by Lauren Muscarella

Here is a list of things that can help those of us who are grieving so we can go into 2011 with optimism and good faith. Stay fit. PrescribingYoga.com: This online resource explores the overlapping worlds of yoga, health, food, and medicine. The creator Christina (@Palmer_CS), a fourth year medical student, talks yoga, nutrition and gives great book recommendations. Zen Habits – Smile, Breathe & Go Slowly: This site features one or two articles a week on simplicity, health & fitness, motivation and inspiration, frugality, family life, happiness, goals, getting great things done, and living in the moment. One of my […]

Memory Loss During Grief

Posted on January 5, 2011 - by Shirley Wiles-Dickinson

In the last 15 months, I have had the privilege of talking and listening to many people on this journey of grief. One thing that seems to be constant with everyone I’ve listened to is the loss of memory. Not the memories created with their loved ones, but simply remembering everyday things. Why did I come into the kitchen? What was I going to do? Where did I put my keys? Those forgetful moments are normal when your mind and heart are grieving. I remember several times I was driving in the car and forgot where I was going! There […]

Carrying Old Memories into a New Year

Posted on January 5, 2011 - by Alice Wisler

Christmas has ended, and the living room still has that unwrapped look. With the festivities now part of future memories, I anticipate the next hurdle: the start of a new year. The TV commercials romanticize champagne toasts illuminated by glowing candles. People make resolutions, hopeful that this brand-new unblemished year will be the one that fuels their successes. For the parent who has lost a child to death, a new year can be daunting. The first New Year’s Day after my son Daniel’s death was scary. I wanted to hold onto 1997. Although it was the year he’d lost his battle […]

‘Steering Toward Happiness’ in a New Year

Posted on January 4, 2011 - by Christine Thiele

Every New Year, I try to sit down, evaluate progress and failure, and write a message of hope for myself, my family and others. This year, as far as I’ve come in the five-plus years since my husband’s death, I still feel I have twice as far to go. I’ve moved from barely breathing to surviving. I hope my next step will be to thrive again. In those early days, the fog was thick, tears flowed continuously and my heart was hopeless. Now, my tears are triggered less often, my mind is clear again, and I have a working plan […]

Be True to Yourself During the Holidays

Posted on January 3, 2011 - by Doris Jeanette

The loss of a loved one around the holidays is especially hard and difficult. Louis LaGrand, one of the world’s leading grief counselors and author of “Love Lives On: Learning from the Extraordinary Encounters of the Bereaved,” offers some specific suggestions to help you cope during the grief process. 1. Expect sadness, and give yourself permission to cry when you feel like it. 2. Do what is comfortable for you and do not please others. 3. Be clear with your family and friends about what you can and cannot do. 4. Honor the deceased in some way. Light a candle, […]

come back Dad

Posted on January 2, 2011 - by admin

im 22years old and on the 29th november 2010 i recieved a phone call from my mum telling me the worst and most life shattering news ” your dads died” at that very moment my life seemed to stop. i miss him every second of every day. nothing seems to matter anymore and i just feel completly lost. i cant handle all these emotions.. one min im crying then i shouting but most of the time im just sitting there silent… does it ever get easier??????

I’m in Shock! But it’s Nothing Personal

Posted on January 2, 2011 - by Stan Goldberg

It was the type of conversation we’ve all heard, and then thought, “I’d never do that!” In a small restaurant north of San Francisco, I heard a woman loudly complaining to a friend about the ingratitude of a relative. “I just don’t understand it,” the woman said. “I tried to be helpful. You know, her husband is in critical condition, and she just about bit my head off when I offered to help. You’d think she’d be more appreciative.” Emotional Shock Often the term “shock” is used to describe changes in a person’s behavior because of a traumatic event. Nineteen […]

A New Year and the Burden of Guilt

Posted on January 1, 2011 - by Marty Tousley

Even if there is no basis in reality for it, we often feel guilty for what we did or didn’t do, said or failed to say, when our loved one was alive. In fact, this feeling of guilt in the aftermath of significant loss is so common as to be universal. Now, the beginning of a new year, is a good time to confront that guilt, understand it, release it, and move forward with good intentions. Guilt is a normal response to the perception that we’ve somehow failed in our duties and obligations or that we’ve done something wrong. It […]

Poem: I Met A Man

Posted on December 30, 2010 - by Douglas Colthurst

I stopped to meet a man today surrounded by his walker. He needed a little more space to stay a stable pace without a falter. ‘Twas to my pride but mostly luck, that I this time did not deny his slow and gnarled like gait through said passage that was mine to take. He had a little hat upon his head. Neatly folded and serenely molded. Cloth it seemed, instead of new, with sideways, tilted, falling off of head. In fact it seemed a shape to me faintly reminiscent of the sea. A simple shape, to be sure. As all […]