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Dr. Bernie Siegel on the Meaning of Elizabeth Edwards’ Death

Posted on December 9, 2010 - by Bernie Siegel

Why do you think people around the country are so moved by Elizabeth Edwards’ death? What does this tell us about public grief? People fear death and often see it as a failure or lost battle. For her to die in the presence of her family shows that these were not issues for her. She lived the message of love which is the only thing of permanence and and which can make us immortal. What do you think the impact will be on her children, especially the younger ones, who are 12 and 10? The effect is up to what […]

Grief has no Time-line

Posted on December 9, 2010 - by Diana Doyle

Yesterday, I read a blog about grief after child loss. It was an interesting article, and it made me wonder about my opinions on grief. I must tell you before you read on, this lady hasn’t had to bury her child, thankfully. The blog read, “Everyone I’ve interviewed about losing a child agrees, it takes five years.” That’s right, after FIVE years, if I am to believe her, I should be through the worst of my grief over Savannah! As soon as I read it, the hair on the back of my neck prickled. I’m afraid I have to disagree. I thought to myself, “Well I must be abnormal!” In […]

Celebrity Deaths Remind Us We Are All Mortal

Posted on December 8, 2010 - by John Pete

Celebrities often appear bigger than life, untouched by the everyday challenges of “regular people.” So, when their lives come to an end, it is a stark reminder that we are all mortal, and no amount of fame and fortune can change that fact. Collectively, we seem to mourn celebrity losses because of the mutual admiration we feel for those whose lives seem to hold so much favor, and are lived out so publicly. Their deaths often bring a much-divided world together despite political, religious, economic and other differences. We look to the legacies of these famous people whose public lives […]

Elizabeth Edwards’ Death Can Help You Feel and Heal

Posted on December 8, 2010 - by Doris Jeanette

Public figures such as Elizabeth Edwards and Princess Diana can help the rest of us feel our emotions and feelings. I noticed when John Lennon died on the streets of NYC that my clients were deeply affected by his death. That is when I began to use the dramatic events in public figures’ lives as a way to help my clients feel their own emotions and feelings. Try it yourself. Pay attention to how you are affected by Elizabeth Edwards’ death. No matter what you feel, allow yourself to fully experience it. Always remember, with feelings and emotions, there is […]

Elizabeth Edwards Helped Others Who Had Suffered Child-Loss

Posted on December 8, 2010 - by Sandy Fox

I had a personal experience with Elizabeth Edwards that I will never forget. She was the keynote speaker at the 2007 Compassionate Friends conference in Oklahoma City, which I attended. I bought her book “Saving Graces,” took it with me to the conference and wanted her to sign it. At the time, she was doing chemo treatments for her breast cancer, and I marveled at her strength and courage to continue with all her speaking engagements and interviews (that night after the conference she flew to Los Angeles to appear on Larry King.) After she gave an eloquent speech to […]

Grief’s Linking Objects – Why Do We Hold On?

Posted on December 8, 2010 - by Harriet Hodgson

After my daughter died, I became acutely aware of the gifts she had given my husband and me. One year, she gave us a step stool for Christmas because she was afraid our rickety one would collapse and injure us. Years ago, she gave me a counted cross stitch pillow for my birthday. Though she was skilled at needlework, I knew the pillow had taken weeks to make. The house is filled with linking objects and, when loss was still new, I cried every time I saw them. Nan Zastrow writes about linking objects in a “Grief Digest” article, “Linking […]

Coping with ‘Shutdown Spells’ in Grief

Posted on December 7, 2010 - by Marty Tousley

Question from a Reader: Since my husband died, I’ve grown used to having mood swings and waking up feeling pretty good one day and deeply depressed the next. I know these are normal grief reactions, and when one of the “rotten” days comes along it helps to tell myself it will pass. But then, even in the middle of a good day, sometimes suddenly the feelings of loss and hurt and abandonment overpower me with a force that’s like a direct hit from a shotgun. And everything I was doing comes to a complete halt and I’m immobilized and can’t […]

Rituals Can Help the Grieving During Holidays

Posted on December 7, 2010 - by Ligia Houben

For some people, the holidays symbolize a time of nostalgic memories, losses, and remembrance. These feelings of loss may bring grief to our souls that at times cannot be expressed or shared with others, especially when one is supposed to be cheerful and happy. If you have recently experienced the loss of a loved one, the holidays may bring a sensation of a void as we miss the person who, physically, is no longer with us. Even though we may not feel like celebrating, we can still remember our loved one in a meaningful manner and a beautiful way to […]

What is this Gnawing Feeling I Have in my Stomach?

Posted on December 6, 2010 - by Clara Hinton

Following the loss of a child, there is a feeling that most parents get that they can’t seem to explain other than it’s a “gnawing feeling.” It’s not an outright ache, nor is it a sharp pain. It’s just a “feeling” that is always there when you are awake. It feels empty and hollow, and food doesn’t seem to fill it or lessen the feeling. Quite often, after multiple visits to the doctor, there is a shrug of the shoulders and you hear the words, “I just don’t know what this could be. Let’s wait it out and see. All […]

Widow Copes with Holidays by Serving Herself, Others

Posted on December 5, 2010 - by Tambre Leighn

Here it comes…and every year, earlier than ever…the dreaded arrival of the holiday television commercials. In my world, retailers hoping to extend the buying season are simply extending the length of time I have to try to ignore the sadness this time of year still stirs up ,even nine years later. I’d love to fast forward from October to January. This way, I would miss the passing of another wedding anniversary, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years without my late husband. Instead, I have had to find workarounds. My first Christmas without Gary, it was easy to opt out of celebrating. Everyone […]