Grief is a highly individual and complex emotional experience that manifests differently in each of us. People may express their grief through a variety of emotions and behaviours.

Some common ways grief can manifest include:


Grief can often involve a deep sense of sadness with memories that can leave many people tearful.


People can often feel angry at their situation, at themselves around their loss. Through grief, they may also direct their anger at others.

Guilt around loss can be something individuals grapple with. Some individuals may also feel remorse, questioning if they should or could have done things differently. It’s easy to look back and ruminate over how things could have been.


Grief may resurface at any time and can be a lifelong process throughout a person’s life. It can make you feel anxious about a lot of things you didn’t think were issues. The intensity and duration of grief can vary from person to person. It may depend on factors such as the individual’s support system, the nature of the loss and their previous experiences around grief.


Grief can have a profound impact on mental and physical health. It is not uncommon for individuals experiencing grief to struggle with insomnia due to depression and anxiety, and other mental health challenges. Self-care should be a priority. Professional help from a counsellor or therapist can provide valuable support during the grieving process.

It is important to note, grief is not just limited to the loss of a loved one or pet. People can grieve the loss of a job; a relationship, their health, or any other significant transition or change in their life. Understanding and compassion are key when supporting someone through grief.

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Ilana Estelle

Ilana was born with a disability she didn’t know she had until the age of 46, when something her mum said caused her to look further into her disability and sight of her medical notes revealed that she had been diagnosed with cerebral palsy at the age of 2. That discovery turned out to be a unique and life-changing experience that has forced Ilana to stand back and look at her life’s experiences differently. On receipt of her diagnosis, Ilana set up her website, The CP Diary and uses her experiences to explore her emotional and physical health, with an inspiring message advocating positivity, resilience and change. Ilana likes to spend her days writing and blogging about anything that contributes to her health and wellbeing. She is an animal advocate and is passionate about environmental issues. When she is not writing or tending to her blog, Ilana enjoys days out exploring the Yorkshire countryside. Ilana lives with her husband in Yorkshire. Her grown up son and daughter both live in London.

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