As the weather turns, many of us dread the thought of the upcoming holidays. Perhaps it marks another year without our dearly missed loved one. It forces social gatherings upon us and maybe even uncomfortable discussions regarding our lost loved ones. This year, my Dad’s birthday actually falls on Thanksgiving. I lost him to cancer in 2008 and my Thanksgivings haven’t been the same since.
I realized this last year that I have to accept they are not going to be the same. It was time for me to let go of my expectation that my Dad will be there at the table as in the past and accept that, if I’m lucky, he might be there in spirit instead.
It is true that family is the foundation of the holidays and although things have changed it is important to be grateful for those who are left sitting around the table and to celebrate precious memories of the ones who may be there in spirit.
It is important to cherish the heavenly memories of your loved ones from seasons past especially during the holidays! Family traditions bring comfort and sooth aching souls. At first, it might seem like you are just going through the motions, feeling numb, but eventually your mind, body and spirit will come together. This unity will embrace the custom and add your own sense of vitality to it.
Would you like to honor your child’s life in a new way? If so, you can gift yourself and your family a virtual memorial at the website, Valley of Life, http://www.valleyoflife.com/?story/. This interactive site offers support and a forum to privately or publicly create a life story. Allow this process to unlock your pain and comfort your heart; share your photos and precious memories with a virtual community eager to welcome you and celebrate your loved ones life.
Awaken your heart with the joy reminiscent of past festivities you’ve shared. Allow this warmth to linger within and then convey these feelings into the universe regardless of your beliefs of the afterlife. What feels right in the moment is honorable and this tribute, old or new, will continue to keep your connection with them alive during the holidays and all year long!Tags: belongings, funerals, money, Depression, signs and connections
I’m so glad that I’ve found this website. I’m having a hard time this holiday season. My mum died in March of this year and I’ve been more upset than normal as of late. I find that writing about it on my Year Ache website helps me but it also brings all the emotions to the fore.I’m trying to carry on like my Mum would want me to but it’s tough.
Such a short time since your mom died. Holidays are tough especially the first one. Make a list of thing that you enjoy and try to do one of them each day. Remember anticipation of the day is often far worse than the day. Fondly Dr. Gloria