Should we grieve?
The Bible says we should cry at birth and rejoice at death. So should we grieve?
Webster’s Dictionary gives grief the following definition, “Deep and poignant distress caused by or as by bereavement.” It also calls it suffering. So should we grieve?
First, let me say I believe there is a difference in sadness and grief. The above definition calls grief distress and suffering. To me this is much more than sadness. According to the dictionary sadness and sorrow are associated with grief. But I know from my experience when my mom died, I was very sad. At times I am still sad when I think of her being gone, but I am not depressed, or hurt. Usually these thoughts of sadness just lead me into happy memories of when I had mom with me, and thoughts of her being happy and well in heaven (being a Christian).
But what of those who grieve for months, or even years, unable to function well because of the loss of a loved one? Is this good, or even normal? I think not!
I believe there should be a time of sadness and heavy heartedness right after the loss of a loved one, but in the long run we hurt ourselves and those around us when our grief continues to reduce our function for too long a time. Also long term grief can lead to all kinds of health problems, from depression to pain of all kinds. It is important to help those who are still suffering from loss after a month or two.
How can we help? There are many ways to help those who are suffering from deep grief without resorting to therapy or drugs. First we can be there for them. We can help them remember the good times they had with their loved one. Keep coming back to the good memories, as these are the healing memories. Let them know, especially in a death, that the loved one will always be with them in the wonderful memories they left behind.
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James Einert

James Einert

James Einert, ND, CH In 1995 I started on a quest to learn all I could about natural health. I studied for almost 3 years and received my degree as a Naturopathic Doctor from the Clayton School Of Natural Health. I had practices in Ft. Smith, Conway and Clarksville, Arkansas over the next 4 or 5 years. I have helped many people using natural health practices to regain their health, but there were many who needed more help mentally and emotionally, some of who were seeing therapist, but were just unable to get help for their deep-seated emotional troubles. So I sought to find a way to help these people as well. As a result of that search, I found the techniques I use in the "Grief Recovery That Works!" coaching plan. Since about 1999 I have known there was a wonderful technique for removing the pain of grieving. That was when I first discovered the Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT for short. EFT is a way to tap on accupressure/accupuncture points that will change your emotions. It will disarm your troubling emotions and set you on a path to true freedom. I have studied and worked with EFT since that time, but other obligations in my life kept me from really getting serious about helping others to benefit from my knowledge. Now things are different. I have much more time to work on helping others with my knowledge of EFT. Neuro-Linguistic Programming is something you may or may not have heard of, but it is most often thought of as a form of mind control or persuasion. But the great thing about NLP is that it has the same powers to affect your emotions as EFT, but it is somewhat slower and not as good for going deep into the emotions. But when combined with EFT, NLP makes EFT work much better and quicker, so instead of having to live with your debilitating grief for months, maybe even years, you can be over the pain and depression of grief in just a couple of hours!!! Stop the grieving and get on with your life!!! I am also a Certified Hypnotist and have created a very successful stop smoking program by combining Hypnosis and EFT. I also work with other health problems both physical and emotional.

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