By Luellen Hoffman —
His cell phone call came to me at 7:00 am and I knew right away something was wrong. My son had just driven up to Detroit with his girlfriend to attend the NCAA Final Four basketball games and was driving back Tuesday morning when they hit bad weather — snow and ice on the Penn Turnpike.
His girlfriend was driving the car and they weren’t speeding, 64 mph when they hit ice and she lost control of the car. My son had been asleep, in the passenger seat, when he awoke to her screams and the car veering out of control. He grabbed the steering wheel and yelled to her, “Hold on, hold on.”
The car, a 1997 BMW Z3 convertible flipped over twice, skidded on two wheels on the right side and then centered back on all four wheels to hit a cement road barrier on the driver’s side before finally coming to a stop. They were shaken up, but, thankfully, all right.
I remember when my son was ten or eleven years old, he played on a youth football team. I would go and watch his games with my friend Maggie, another mom who sat with me. During the games she would yell out, “Hold on, your friends will come.” She said this because the boys were too little or light-weight to actually tackle anyone. When they tried to tackle another player, they would drag behind, slowing the player down enough so others on their team would catch up and pile on to bring the opponent down.
Over the years, I have often thought about this phrase and I am reminded of it many times, especially when I feel scared or overwhelmed because the events I am experiencing in life.
My husband’s sudden death was such an event, and the best way to describe it is like being in a crazy car crash with life spinning out of control. If you are experiencing this, because you lost a friend or loved one, remember these words, “Hold on,” because it’s true.
If you just “hold on,” your world will get back into control and your friends will come and help you. Don’t worry about the overwhelming odds you are facing right now, just remember to “Hold on!”
Luellen Hoffman is an adjunct professor at George Mason University in Fairfax, Virginia and has a successful career in the Washington, DC area. She has won top awards and recognitions from, VNU/Nielsen Business Media for her outstanding people and communication skills.
Hoffman is a feature writer of a children’s column with a Chicago based magazine for over fifteen years. She also created an equestrian scholarship at Dartmouth College in 2002. Her husband Michael died unexpectedly in 1994 which led her to write this book and share her experience of a Special Dream in hope of reaching out to others who may be have had this same unique experience. She has two sons, enjoys art, music and sports.
Luellen appeared on the radio show “Healing the Grieving Heart” with Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley to discuss Continuing Bonds Through Albums and Stories.Tags: grief, hope