“Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.” – John Green

“I will not say, do not weep, for not all tears are an evil.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.” – Leo Tolstoy

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” – C.S. Lewis

“Grief can destroy you –or focus you.” – Dean Koontz

“Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place.” – Sarah Dessen

“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.” – C.S. Lewis

“Simply touching a difficult memory with some slight willingness to heal begins to soften the holding and tension around it.” – Stephen Levine

“It is foolish to tear one’s hair in grief, as though sorrow would be made less by baldness.” – Cicero

“When it comes to death, we know that laughter and tears are pretty much the same thing.” – Sherman Alexie

Neil Chethik

Neil Chethik is an author, speaker and expert specializing in men's lives and family issues. He is the author of two acclaimed books: VoiceMale: What Husbands Really Think About Their Marriages, Their Wives, Sex, Housework and Commitment (Simon & Schuster 2006), and FatherLoss: How Sons of All Ages Come To Terms With the Deaths of Their Dads (Hyperion 2001). Previously, Neil was a staff reporter for the Tallahassee Democrat and San Jose Mercury News, and writer of VoiceMale, the first syndicated column on men's personal lives. His writings have appeared in hundreds of print and web publications. He is currently Writer-in-Residence at the Carnegie Center for Literacy and Learning in Lexington, Ky., where he lives with his wife, Kelly Flood, and son, Evan. Reach Neil at: Neil@NeilChethik.com 121 Arcadia Park Lexington Ky. 40503 859-361-1659 Neil appeared on the radio show “Healing the Grieving Heart” with Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley to discuss “Men and Loss.” To hear Neil being interviewed on this show, click on the following link: www.voiceamericapd.com/health/010157/horsley121307.mp3

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