Deb Kosmer

Deb has worked at Affinity Visiting Nurses Hospice for ten years, the first two as a hospice social worker and the last eight as Bereavement Support Coordinator supporting families before and after the death of their loved ones. She provides supportive counseling, developed and facilitates a variety of grief support groups, including a well-attended group for men only as well as other educational events. Deb received her Bachelor’s degree in Social Work from UW-Oshkosh and her Master’s degree in Social Work from UW Milwaukee. She received her certification in Thanatolgy through ADEC. Her writing has appeared in New Leaf Magazine, We Need Not Walk Alone, Living with Loss, Grief Digest, numerous hospice publications and EAP publications. Some of her poetry on death and dying will be included in a college textbook for social workers in end of life soon. New Leaf has also used some of her poetry for a line of sympathy and anniversary of death cards. On a personal level, Deb's 14-year-old son died after being struck by a car. Her 31-year-old sister had died in a car accident eight months earlier, and her 56-year-old father died from a heart attack exactly three years before. These three unexpected deaths within three years started Deb on a journey she never wanted to be on and she learned first-hand the importance of having the help and support of others. In the years since, she has experienced other losses, the most recent being the unexpected death of her 44-year-old step-daughter who died from complications three months after a routine surgery. Deb's passions are writing, reading, education, nature, and family. She is currently working on a book of her grief poetry. She recently moved with her husband to Waypost Camp, Hatley WI. Her husband accepted a job there as Property Manager and his position allows them to live on-site with acres of woods and a lake. She anticipates the quiet beauty to be a strong catalyst for writing. Deb can be reached at debrakosmer@gmail.com.

Articles:

Twelve Things to Remember about the Holidays and Grief, 23 Oct 2013

Time Stops After a Loved One Dies, 22 Nov 2012

Anger is Natural Emotion in Grief, 05 Jul 2012

Grief is Feeling Alone in Your Own Skin, 24 Jun 2012

When Our Closest Loved One Has Died, 01 Jun 2012

Poem: Mother’s Day, 02 May 2012

Grief Support Group Helps after Child-Loss, 26 Apr 2012

Shoes Bring Memories Years After Child’s Death, 20 Apr 2012

How Grief and Winter’s End are Similar, 16 Apr 2012

The Feelings of Grief, 11 Apr 2012

Stumbling Blocks or Stepping Stones, 04 Apr 2012

Allowing Others to Support You After a Death, 20 Mar 2012

Even Now, We Miss Him, 16 Mar 2012

‘I Don’t Wear Hats’, 06 Mar 2012

Vehicles of Healing, 28 Feb 2012

Grieving Men, Raising Boys, 18 Feb 2012

Grief, Healing and Time, 15 Feb 2012

If Only, 10 Feb 2012

A Winter’s Day in Grief, 29 Jan 2012

From ‘I’m Tired’ to ‘I’m Glad’, 30 Dec 2011

This Holiday Season, Complete These Sentences…, 24 Nov 2011

Is There a Place at Holiday Table for the Griever?, 06 Nov 2011

Like Trees in Fall, We Must Let Go, 24 Oct 2011

Self-Forgiveness is a Key to Healing, 14 Oct 2011

Learning to Fly Again, 07 Oct 2011

Autumn Arrives, Good Things Will Follow, 20 Sep 2011

‘Our Loved One Has Died and We’re Still Here’, 17 Aug 2011

What Grief Is, What it Isn’t, 06 Aug 2011

The ‘Elephant’ That is Grief, 19 Jul 2011

What Can One Do with an Empty Cup?, 14 Jul 2011

Playing Hide-and-Seek with Grief, 25 Jun 2011

‘New Person’ Must Emerge from Loss, 17 Jun 2011

In Grief, Words Matter, 05 Jun 2011

The End of Winter Sometimes Comes Slowly, 26 May 2011

Hospice Employee Experiences the Other Side, 18 May 2011

Easter Surprise Helps Mom Heal from Child-Loss, 23 Apr 2011

Workplace Grief: Listening to the Griever, 17 Mar 2011