As Americans, we are again shocked and disturbed by the Boston Marathon bombing.    It is unfathomable that such violence could be planned to disturb the annual patriots event in the city that is the very cradle of liberty.

My heart goes out to those who have suffered losses and injury, as a bereaved parent I feel their pain.  Families must grieve a loss while the world focuses on the “why” and “how.”  It has been such a short time since the Newtown massacre, which makes for a very frightening world especially for those who have suffered past trauma.  Here are a few suggestions to help you through these tough times.

  • Hang out with positive people who can help you put things into perspective.  Some people are naturally more fearful than others.
  • Ask for hugs.  Physical connection has been shown to decrease tension.
  • Express gratitude.  Thinking of three things a day that you are grateful for can improve your mood.
  • Drink water.  It is important to keep yourself hydrated and to avoid alcohol when under stress.
  • Exercise.  Yoga, walking and just stretching are great mood changers. Twenty minutes of walking a day can reduce the risk of a stroke by 50 percent.
  • Rent a funny movie.  Laughter is a great mood changer.
  • Take a news break.  The 24 hour news stream can make you feel that there is danger around every corner.
  • Visit and lean on our hope until you find your own.

Remind your friends and family that these events, though high profile and traumatic, are isolated incidents and that it is a safe world with many kind and caring people.

Dr. Gloria Horsley

Gloria Horsley

Dr. Gloria Horsley is an internationally known grief expert, psychotherapist, and bereaved parent. She started "Open to Hope" to help the millions in the world with grief. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Nurse Specialist, and has worked in the field of family therapy for over 20 years. Dr. Horsley hosts the syndicated internet radio show, The Grief Blog which is one of the top ranked shows on Health Voice America. She serves the Compassionate Friends in a number of roles including as a Board of Directors, chapter leader, workshop facilitator, and frequently serves as media spokesperson. Dr. Horsley is often called on to present seminars throughout the country. She has made appearances on numerous television and radio programs including "The Today Show," "Montel Williams," and "Sallie Jessie Raphael." In addition, she has authored a number of articles and written several books including Teen Grief Relief with Dr. Heidi Horlsey, and The In-Law Survival Guide.

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