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Bereaved Parent Lives Life in Kairos Time

Posted on April 18, 2013 - by Harriet Hodgson

Six years have passed since my daughter died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Three other family members died the same year. As I look back on my bereavement journey, I see spikes of grief – a rush of painful feelings – some expected and some unexpected. I also see that multiple losses and time have changed me. Recently I read an article by Elizabeth Harper Neeld, PhD, published on the Legacy Connect website. The article, “How Long is this Grieving Going to Last,” describes two types of time, chronos and kairos. I hadn’t encountered these words […]

What People Don’t Know About Losing A Pet

Posted on April 17, 2013 - by Stan Popovich

By: Stan Popovich As an author of a managing fear book, I have lost a few pets and it was very tough to get over. Anyone who loses a pet knows how difficult it can be to get over a loss. People tell you that they are sorry for your loss but the grief doesn’t go away. What can you do other than talk to a grief counselor and find ways to manage your grief. I took a different route in dealing with my grief. I interviewed many priests and ministers before I published my managing fear book. I also […]

Boston Deaths and Injuries Disrespect the Miracle of Life

Posted on April 17, 2013 - by Harriet Hodgson

When I first heard about the explosions in Boston I took a deep breath. Two explosions would probably cause some deaths. Now I know an eight year old boy was killed and a father’s adult son lost his legs. This news makes me heartsick and brings back some of the feelings I had after my adult daughter died. A child is always your child, no matter his or her age. Having a child die before you goes against nature’s plan. No parent should have to bury a child, yet some are doing that after the Boston terrorist attack. How can […]

Feeding the Soul through Solitude

Posted on April 17, 2013 - by Donna Miesbach

In my previous article, we talked about how, over time, loneliness can change into solitude. When we are in the throes of grief, solitude may not feel very comforting, and yet it is through solitude that we can find the peace – and yes, the joy – we are seeking. Solitude opens the door to a deeper, more complete way of being. As we befriend that quiet inner space, we become more at home with ourselves and find inner strengths we may not have known were there. And so it is that we find another way of being where we […]

Reacting to the Boston Marathon Bombing

Posted on April 16, 2013 - by Gloria Horsley

As Americans, we are again shocked and disturbed by the Boston Marathon bombing. It is unfathomable that such violence could be planned to disturb the annual patriots event in the city that is the very cradle of liberty. My heart goes out to those who have suffered losses and injury, as a bereaved parent I feel their pain. Families must grieve a loss while the world focuses on the “why” and “how.” It has been such a short time since the Newtown massacre, which makes for a very frightening world especially for those who have suffered past trauma. Here are […]

Suicide Leaves Mark on Those Left Behind

Posted on April 15, 2013 - by Melinda Moore

To the casual observer, Mindy McCready’s recent suicide death reads like a bad country song. To those of us who have lived through some of what she experienced or are witness to in our work, it reads more like a roadmap to sure death. Last fall, in an interview, McCready seemed full of hope, gaining the upper hand in legal maneuverings to maintain custody of her older son. The bottom seemed to drop out when her fiancé and father of her 9-month-old son died by an apparent suicide last month on the porch of the home they shared in Arkansas. […]

When the Mind is Not a Friend

Posted on April 15, 2013 - by Susan Troccolo

In the past year, I’ve lost two women in my family from cancer. I’ve felt the searing loss and pain that these deaths have brought, in part because I am in remission from cancer myself. Twice. Seventeen years apart. Because of that, I know a lot about how my mind works with anxiety and fear. I’ve learned to recognize different voices inside my mind; some voices that contribute to freedom and happiness and some that bind me up in a prison of my own making. Last year, just before my beloved cousin/sister/daughter/friend Jenny died, I recognized that I would need […]

From ‘the Darkest Place,’ Discovery

Posted on April 13, 2013 - by Christine Thiele

I think one of the strangest places that my journey of widowhood has taken me is this place of discovery. Discovery brought forth by the need to survive. This new place is definitely earned. I struggled to survive for so many years. I searched my being for a way to get through each minute, each breath when Dave died. At 39 years old, I was a widow. I was a mom with two little boys looking to me for guidance through this unknown journey of grief. I didn’t have a clue how to survive. It was all trial and error. […]

You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Grief

Posted on April 11, 2013 - by Donna Miesbach

I find it difficult to believe that I was 40 years old before I found out that I had a choice about how I thought and how I felt. Up until then, if “A” happened, I automatically did “B.” Yes, I was living on automatic. Then one day a friend of mine said, “You know, you have a choice. You don’t have to get angry when she does that.” Wow! Talk about a light going on! I’d just never thought about it that way. Since then I’ve learned that what we experience in life is actually what we are thinking […]

To Find Peace, Just Look Up

Posted on April 11, 2013 - by Mary Jane Clayton

Below is an excerpt from the To Do List in my book Brittany’s Rose. Just Look Up I spent many hours looking up at the sky as I drove to and from the hospital to see Brittany. As I did so, I realized why God gave us such a extraordinary roof over our heads. Still, to this day, the sky brings me great comfort. Sometimes, “up” is where we look for hope and inspiration. Other times, it could be we just want to feel the freedom of a wide-open space. No matter what time of day or night, the beauties […]