The process of transitioning from this realm into another is an experience that you, as the living counterpart, have the honor to participate in and witness. Transitions take place through energy portals. A portal can be described as a way in. As your loved one crossed over, they entered a portal into the spiritual realm specific to them. Your grief holds the opposite portal.

Portals exist as gateways and passageways between dimensions that allow Spirits to maneuver in and out of the alternate worlds. These are parallel universes, which exist side by side, and, because these portals have opened, the healing process is very much a parallel process, or in other words, a mirroring process. What happens to you, is happening to them.

The portals have a strong purpose: to facilitate the ease in which you process your grief and the ease in which your counterpart can cross over and transition. Over time, as you heal the separation from your loved one, that grief portal will eventually close.

In addition to grief, you will experience the trauma that comes with the physical separation between you and your loved one. Humans suffer from energetic attachments known as energy chords with people, habits, places, and things. These energy chords keep us bonded together and, when gently separated through a normal process of letting go or surrendering, an energetic release and relief occur naturally, and under normal circumstances. An example of a normal circumstance could be growing apart from a friendship or mutually ending a romantic relationship. Long-term illness or death under natural causes can ease that separation and detachment of energy chords and although cutting the chord may take some time, you do eventually find freedom from those attachments.

This is not the case when you experience the sudden loss of a loved one, especially if the departed are just as surprised as you are of that loss. Sudden and abrupt endings often drag that energy chord and attachment into the spiritual realm as your loved one’s spirit crosses over into their new reality. They take a piece of you with them, and you will feel this pull physically. You will feel a strong desire to ask important questions, to connect with spirituality, to look for answers and comfort in many otherworldly ways. Some of you may find great relief with this information knowing that your loved one still carries a piece of you with them. You are still connected to them energetically, even though there is physical separation.

Eventually, as part of the grieving process, you will learn how to release that energy into a deeper purpose. This releasing process doesn’t make you forget the love and memories but rather allows you to experience freedom in the same way that they now have become free.

Holding consciousness and awareness over grieving will challenge you to open your mind to a different perspective. You will grow to realize that knowledge and intellect is what ultimately frees you from the limited beliefs of the past and will allow you to decide how you want to create your grieving process. This is a choice. You have the power to connect and to experience otherworldly truths that are not always popular. Keep this in mind as you find a gentleness in your resistance, and an openness in your third eye and crown chakra. Continue to be loving and compassionate with yourself, as you are they and they are your counterparts. Connected.

Susan B. Roara

“Grief and the Afterlife: How to Manifest a Happy Ever After”