Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley with the Open to Hope Foundation discuss continuing bonds and closure after loss. At 17 years old, Heidi’s brother Scott was killed in a car accident. Everyone told her and her mother that they would “get over it” eventually and find closure. Know that closure isn’t for love accounts—it’s for bank accounts. You can and should get over the suffering, but getting over the loss can feel like erasing someone from your life. Instead, you can transform your grief into actions that can positively change the world.
The mother-daughter team created the Open to Hope Foundation to show others how to achieve transformation. Many involved with the program have gone on to found their own organizations, including MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving). The Drs. Horsley are proud to have been the catalyst responsible for helping many find ways to turn their loss into something great. It’s also a way to commemorate the life of your loved one.
Supporting and Giving
How can you give back to the world? The Drs. discuss many stories, from creating an organ donation advocacy group to suicide prevention strategies. In the early stages of grief, start by caring for yourself first. Look for ways to share your story and discuss your lost loved one. Grief groups and forums can be a great avenue. Talking about your loved ones can help you put your life into perspective while celebrating the great memories of your loved one.
Honor, remember, and incorporate your love along your journey. It’s a trip that will last a lifetime, but do know that you can bring your loved one along with you. There’s no reason those bonds need to end when a life does. Instead, take them with you on life’s new path.