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Does Grief End? Mom Holds On While Letting Go

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Beth Seyda

After my infant son, Dylan, died I started jotting down various things and scenes I recalled from our experience.  I wanted to write about these memories not only to capture the details of Dylan’s life and death as a personal keepsake, but I also wanted to send it to our health care team.  I wanted them to learn from our experience.  Writing our story felt good, it was therapeutic for me. I wanted to share the parental aspects as well as the medical.  Writing allowed me to release all this “stuff”. Afterward, I felt different.  For a while I was […]

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How Does Early Death of Sister Affect Adult Siblings?

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by admin

Question from TK: My sister and I lost an infant sister in an accident when we were 2 and 5, respectively. Now, 40 years later, I’m struggling to understand how our sister’s death affected us. Outwardly, we are successful with loving spouses and children. Yet there is still a void. Sometimes I think it’s silly to wonder how an event that happened at the edge of our memories could affect our lives today – but when I think of how different our lives would be now if our sister hadn’t died, perhaps it’s a wonder it has not impacted our […]

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Should Daughter Protect Elderly Father From Bad Woman?

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by admin

Karen writes in with a question: Our mother passed away two years ago, and we have recently found out that our dad is dating again. My brothers and I do have an issue with him dating, but we have an issue with the character of person choice to date. How should my brothers and I handle our senior citizen father dating an acquaintance of his son’s that the entire family knows is a drug addict and a prostitute? Dr. Gloria Horsley, founder of Open to Hope, responds: Dear Karen, First let me say how sorry I am to hear of […]

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Does Grief End? Signs From Our Son in Heaven

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Guy Dusseault

Our son Billy crossed over to heaven on June 26, 2004, four days before his 29th birthday. Billy was killed instantly while riding his ATV at night, hitting a tree. My first goal was to try to survive the next day and make sure that my wife Jo-Anne and our other son, Robert, were OK. Beyond that, my goal was to find a way to make a connection with our son, Billy, in heaven. I had tried on my own in different ways for a few months without any success. That all changed when my wife Jo-Anne asked me if I […]

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The Physical Aspects of Loss

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Kirsti Dyer

People experience many losses in their lifetime. The most common loss is the death of a loved one, but people experience other losses e.g. loss of a relationship, loss of a job or loss of health. Most of these losses result in some type of a grief response. Grief is the entire body’s response to the loss–mind, body and spirit. A person grieving a loss may feel grief in many different ways–physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially and intellectually. He or she may experience a variety of body complaints that include: Fatigue Problems sleeping (insomnia) General aches and pain Backaches Stomach pains […]

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Does Grief End? Hearing the ‘Voice’ of My Father

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Sheena Matos

When I was fifteen years old, my daddy passed away of a massive heart attack. I was at school and got called to the office to hear the most horrifying news of my life on the telephone. The voice on the other end was a lady co-worker of his; she told me he had dropped while at work. After falling to my knees, I broke into tears. I soon collected myself enough to call my momma and give her the news. Arriving at the hospital and seeing him on life support felt as if I were in a dream. How […]

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Does Grief End? The Last Bag of Clothes

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Mary Bart

Mom died one year ago. When she died, we sorted through all of her clothes and divided them into two categories.  The first category was the clothes that I wanted to keep, either because I was going to wear them or because they had a special meaning for me. The second group was the clothes that we planned to give away to people who needed them. We made three bags of these. My family members dropped off two of the bags at the second-hand clothing store. I promised that I would take the final bag and drop it off … […]

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Does Grief End? Rediscovering Laughter

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Lisa Buell

I heard the sound coming from somewhere close, swelling from the deepest part of my being. I was almost startled when I felt it resonate through my body, felt the vibration, lungs rising and falling to keep up with the demand of my spirit.  How long had it been since I had felt laughter? The noise was both familiar and startling.  The overwhelming sense of loss that guarded the gate to my soul must have been on a lunch break.  Loss and I had made an agreement after my daughter died that I could never be happy again.  But now, […]

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Does Grief End? Giving Up on Having it My Way

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Jenny Hander

I knew I had turned the corner on grief the moment I lost it all; the moment I let my hopes, my dreams, my world, fall apart. For six months, I refused to accept that my infant twin daughter was gone.  I couldn’t see how life would be possible without my daughter.  I had always envisioned a grand way of living and was convinced that living an extraordinary life was no longer an option for me after my daughter’s death.  I felt I deserved something better, something more than a life of grief.  So, as a woman of faith, I […]

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Does Grief End? Belly Laughs and Crème Brule

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Harriet Hodgson

“Mom, we didn’t move into the pub,” my daughter laughed, “we went there to cool off and eat.”  No wonder my memory was hazy.  My husband and I were still recovering from the loss of our elder daughter, my father-in-law, my brother, and our former son-in-law.  Four deaths in nine months were overwhelming. The pub topic came up during a family dinner at a French restaurant.  We were reminiscing about a trip we and our younger daughter had taken to London and the Isle of Man.  I told the story about calling the hotel desk clerk to report the lack […]

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