I’ll be honest…I’ve been struggling what to say and write today. It’s because today is a day

of celebration for so many, yet for so many others, this day comes packed with a punch to the gut and heart.

Mother’s Day is about Sunday brunch, flowers, cards and family gatherings. It’s a day that’s filled with the celebration of life, love, happiness, gratitude, hugs and joy.

But for some of you…it’s just another day living with a broken heart.

There are so many different reasons (way too many for me to list in this blog) why this one day of the year comes with heartache instead of happiness. But, regardless of the reason, Mother’s Day can stir up so many different emotions, even for those of you that have lost a child, so I can totally understand if it’s a day you would rather skip.

The problem is…it’s so tough to completely ignore a day that gets so much attention.

It’s okay to wish that your circumstances could be different.

Here’s the thing…you don’t have to pretend you’re happy if today is filled with sorrow and pain.

That’s your right, and you get to have a bad day even though other people may not understand that.

If you’re grieving today…it’s most likely because you’re missing someone that mattered. Your broken heart makes perfect sense. You don’t owe an explanation or apology to anybody. You just owe it to yourself to honor your feelings and your grief.

If you have moments of joy…that’s okay too. Finding a balance is possible and your heart can eventually create space to hold it all.

Sometimes, there are things to celebrate at the same time you’re missing someone you love.

I sincerely hope that your day will somehow be filled with love, compassion, kindness and grace.

Mother’s Day may always be hard but finding a way to be okay with that may be all you have to do today.

Your grief matters…and you’re not alone.

Regardless of your reason for hurting on this Mother’s Day, remember, we’re all just walking each other home.

 

 

Gary Sturgis

Gary Sturgis has become one of the leading voices in the field of grief support. With eight books on grief and loss, including his international bestseller, SURVIVING GRIEF – 365 Days A Year, Gary has been healing broken hearts for many years. With a social media following of over 416,000 on his SURVIVING GRIEF Facebook page, Gary shares different aspects of grief, loss, and healing in the aftermath, which receives over 20 million views a month. With compassion and empathy, Gary Sturgis speaks about grief in an honest and straight forward way and finds it an honor to walk alongside those that are struggling with the feelings and emotions that are part of the process of grieving. People are his priority, and Gary has touched many lives with his immeasurable capacity to listen to the heart cry behind the words. Gary Sturgis lives on the ocean in Plymouth, Massachusetts.

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