Articles

  • Nancy Gershman: Healing Through the Arts

    October 16, 2017

    Nancy Gershman recently spent two months in Russia, and was surprised that this “Motherland of Suffering” could have so many lessons about hope. She shared her experience with Dr. Gloria Horsley at the 2015 Association for Death Education and Counseling conference. She was teaching master’s students in a psychology program how to visualize a new […]

  • The Bitter Taste of Grief: Art and Healing

    October 10, 2017

    “Take the bitter taste of this night and move on…” This evening when I read this phrase in a New York Times article “Mexico Earthquake, Strongest in a Century, Kills Dozens,”  The reporter, in an interview with bar manager, Alberto Briseño, spoke to the Mexico City earthquake survivor who amidst the chaos, shared words of hopeful […]

  • How to Own Your Winter Grief

    October 9, 2017

    💨 🕶🍲☕🎃🎄☃ Something many of us learn through the course of years, losses and grief is that it’s far better to take control and OWN YOUR WINTERS, rather than to allow your winters own you. The seasons change & winters come (and go) in the midst of grief, ready or not. And long winters days and nights can […]

  • Mark de St. Aubin: Men and Grief

    September 14, 2017

    A member of the University of Utah Social Work Department, Mark de St. Aubin attended the 2015 Association of Death Education and Counseling conference where he spoke with Dr. Gloria Horsley about the unique relationship between men and grief. Having lost both his parents at a young age, St. Aubin explains, “I’ve had to process […]

  • September 11th – 16 Years of Grief

    September 11, 2017

    Sixteen years ago, our resilience as a country was tested when nearly 3,000 people were killed in the Sept. 11th terrorist attacks.  We have come a long way since then, and I have watched as NYC has rebuilt, and bereaved families have once again found hope. I was honored to spend ten years with 9/11 […]

  • A Grandmother’s Pain of Infant Loss

    September 6, 2017

    As part of my connection to Empty Cradle, an organization that supports pregnancy and infant loss in the San Diego area, I spend time facilitating support groups for those who are grieving the loss of their child.  When I joined the organization as a facilitator, my goal was to use my five years of experience […]

  • Coping With the Next Loss Differently: Interview with Dr. William Buckley

    August 28, 2017

    At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Dr. William (Bill) Buckley about how people can cope with a loss in a different manner if they do not feel like they coped well with a previous loss. Many families have already gone through a loss, and with that loss they […]

  • Christina Vasquez: Art Therapy

    August 17, 2017

    Board certified art therapist Christina Vasquez spoke with the executive director of Open to Hope, Dr. Gloria Horsley, during the 2015 annual Association of Death Education and Counseling Conference about the role art can play in the grieving process. She works in New Orleans in a psychiatric hospital as well as in a private practice. […]

  • Sharon Strouse: Collage Therapy to Process Grief

    August 5, 2017

    The author of the book Artful Grief, Sharon Strouse, spoke with Dr. Gloria Horsley during the 2015 Association for Death Education and Counseling conference about collage therapy. “This book came out of the experience of losing my daughter to suicide in 2001. She was an artist herself.” It took a year, even in therapy, before […]

  • Still, but Not Stagnant

    June 26, 2017

    Grief often makes us slow down.  We simply don’t have energy, and we must allow our bodies and souls to rest more.  Yet, this does not have to mean that our being still signifies an absence of growth.  As we practice self-compassion and give ourselves permission to have periods of rest and stillness, we can […]

  • Grieving for Our Fallen Soldiers This Memorial Day

    May 29, 2017

    Memorial Day is on Monday, May 29th. It’s  a day to stop and reflect on all those who have fought for our freedom and country. Across all types of wars and conflicts, they have been on the front lines, putting their courage to work on our behalf. While we miss these loved ones, Memorial Day […]

  • Open to Hope Television Wins Prestigious WAVE Award

    March 21, 2017

    We are pleased to announce that our Open to Hope television show Returning to Work After Loss has won a 2017 Western Access Video Excellence (WAVE). Through Public Access and its dedicated team of volunteers, we have been able to produce shows that help people find hope after loss and give a voice to grief […]

  • 10th Anniversary: Tears at Home Depot

    February 14, 2017

    The 10th anniversary of my daughter’s death is a few days away. I thought I was prepared for this anniversary, but I wasn’t. Instead, I have burst into tears several times. My daughter, mother of my twin grandchildren, died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Six months later he twins’ father died […]

  • Healing Through Creativity

    January 7, 2017

    Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma, in episode 47 of The Open to Hope Foundation series. Additionally, they speak with Sharon Strouse, a bereaved parent who’s the author of Artful Grief: A Diary of Healing […]

  • At Thanksgiving, Say Their Names

    November 25, 2016

    This article was first published on Open to Hope in 2010. Thursday will be the 21st Thanksgiving I’ve lived through following the death of my 18-month-old daughter Erin in 1990.  The 12th since my wife Trici died in 1999 and the 6th since my 13-year-old son Rory died in 2005. One thing I know for […]

  • Grief’s Linking Objects: The Winnowing Process

    November 12, 2016

    Linking objects–things that belonged to a deceased loved one–are reminders of experiences and feelings. A bereaved son may wear his father’s watch, for example, and a bereaved daughter may use her mother’s dishes. At holiday time I put mother’s cut glass water decanter on the dinner table,  a reminder of her love, guidance, and all […]

  • Tina Barrett: Grief Center Serves Men and Boys

    September 27, 2016

    There are many types of grieving styles, and that’s the topic of discussion between Dr. Heidi Horsley and Tina Barrett during the National Alliance for Grieving Children conference. Barrett is with the Tamarack Grief Center, an organization revered by Dr. Horsley and the Open to Hope Foundation. Comparing how girls grieve vs. boys is a […]

  • Songwriting as Healing Art

    September 10, 2016

    I kissed your head Told you I loved you, ’cause I wanted You to know just how much that you impacted My life, so much more than I could ask for This is not good-bye, and yes, I will cry but that’s ’cause I miss your face This is not good-bye, I know I’ll see […]

  • Ode to an Urn Maker: Commemorative Urns of Eliza Thomas

    July 18, 2016

    Ceramic artist Eliza Thomas has a unique practice of creating commemorative urns and offering them to those grieving a loss. Hearing of this work, I was intrigued, and tried to track her down. When we finally meet at Caffe Borrone in Menlo Park, we are just a short walk from Stanford University. Next door neighbors […]

  • The Starriest Night: van Gogh’s Grief Illuminates Ours

    July 12, 2016

    As a psychology professor, I am fascinated by the works of great artists. These creative individuals can be those in visual arts, music, or literature. I believe that anxiety and depression, maybe all forms of human suffering, can be expressed through creative pursuits. Sigmund Freud used terms such as catharsis and sublimation to describe the […]

  • Go Ahead, Judge Me for My Tattoos: How Memorial Tattoos Help

    June 30, 2016

      “What an idiotic thing – to deface your own body,” an uncle said after I got my first tattoo. He wasn’t interested in the story behind it. Like many people, he’s one that goes through life without checking his assumptions and, as a result, often misses the opportunity to see beauty in unexpected places. […]

  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder in the Military

    May 31, 2016

    Dr. Heidi Horsley talks about military post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) with Dr. Ed Tick, an expert in the field. He’s the author of “War and the Soul” as well as four other books. He’s the director of Soldier’s Heart and has worked with military members and their families for several years. There’s a difference […]

  • Hope After the Loss of a Spouse

    May 27, 2016

    Artist, poet, and writer Laurel Diane Rund talks about finding hope once again after losing a spouse. Losing her husband took her on a journey to sorrow and personal transformation. According to a Chinese proverb, birds sing because they have a song—not an answer. Rund didn’t have any answers or know how to grieve. However, […]

  • Dorenzer Thomas: Roberta’s House, Faith, Music and Grief

    May 21, 2016

      Dr. Gloria Horsley connects with Dorenzer Thomas of to talk about how faith and music can be integral to the healing process. She’s the Youth Coordinator of Programming and works closely with children and families who are bereaved. Located in Baltimore, Roberta’s House is the only such grief center in the area. Thomas also […]

  • A Daughter Remembers Her Father’s Creative Legacy

    May 9, 2016

    My father, Geoff Relf, a longtime San Diego advertising and communications figure passed away July 28, 2015, at 85, after battling cancer, surviving his wife, Connie by five years. The couple met at the University of Washington and moved to San Diego in 1956, then to La Jolla in 1959, where they raised four children: […]

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  • Episode 107: Carol Kearns and Deborah Kennedy-Putting Death Into Perspective

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi interview Dr. Carol Kearns, bereaved mother of Kristen and author of Sugar Cookies and a Nightmare and expert in grief in the workplace and Deborah Kennedy bereaved daughter and author of Nature Speaks:  Art and Poetry For The Earth regarding death and renewal as part of […]

  • Episode 105: Remembering Them

    May 18, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview psychologist Dr. Mary Jane Gandour, author of Heart Work regarding her family coming together after the death of her daughter, Aimee to remember her through the creative arts.  Allison Gilbert author of Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive joins them to […]

  • Episode 103: TAPS-Supporting Military Families

    May 11, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Zaneta M. Gileno, LMSW, CT Director, Community Based Care and Professional Education and Emily Munoz, surviving spouse of Gil and director of the TAPs Inner Warrior Health and Wellness program regarding programs for those who have lost a loved one in the military.

  • Episode 101- Amy Cooper and Tom Tomasello: Will I Ever Sing Again?

    March 27, 2017

    Will I ever smile or sing again? On this show Drs’ Gloria and Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, explore with bereaved parents; Amy Cooper, singer, songwriter and musician Tom Tomasello the struggle to find their creative process after the deaths of their sons’, Jon and Rory.  Amy sings while […]

  • Episode 88: Male Grief: Sudden Traumatic Loss with Jim Giaccone, Franklin Cook and Eric Marcus

    November 7, 2016

    Have you or a male friend had a sudden or traumatic loss? Are you wondering how men cope? If so join Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley in a frank discussion of men and grief with Jim Giaccone, Franklin Cook and Eric Marcus. Jim’s brother Joe, died on 9/11 while Franklin and Eric suffered the […]

  • Episode 87: Dealing With Grief Through Art with Nancy Gershman and Debla E. Heredia-Brown

    October 23, 2016

    Are you looking for a unique way to memorialize or celebrate the life of your loved one? Then join Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley in an interview with memory artist Nancy Gershman and her client Debla Hargreaves for whom Nancy created a dream scape in memory of her father. Documentary film maker Kate Rolston […]

  • Episode 86: Spouse Loss with Dawn Jiosi, Sara and Caryl Fried Feldmann

    October 9, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interviewed Dawn Jiosi, creator of the New Dawn that was inspired by the shattering life events of her husband’s death eight years ago. Our second guests were Caryl Fried Feldmann and her daughter Sara Feldmann Sheehan, Executive Producer of Mortal, a film inspired by the […]

  • Episode 84: Military Loss with Jeanne Harris Weaver and Donn Weaver

    September 25, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interviewed artist Jeanne Harris Weaver and her husband, Donn Weaver, a retired Foreign Service Diplomat.  Their son, Todd, an Army Ranger, was killed while on deployment in Afghanistan.  In his memory, Jeanne created twenty-one pictures in the year following Todd’s death.  A tribute clip is […]

  • Episode 80: Organ Donation with Kayla Smith, Judy Armijo and Kevin Robinson

    July 27, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Kayla Smith, family services coordinator for Live On New York, regarding her work with organ donor families. Judy Armijo, bereaved mother of Alexandra, and organ recipient Kevin Robinson join the group to discuss the impact of Alexandra’s decision to become a registered organ donor.  Alexandra died […]

  • Episode 79: Spouse Loss, What About Dating?

    July 1, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview three bereaved spouses; Dr. Joanne Moore, physical therapist and author of After the Loss of a Spouse: What’s Next?, comedian Carol Scibelli author of Poor Widow Me and her partner Mickey Bayard.  They discuss among other issues coping with spouse loss and dating.  The show will […]

  • Episode 72: Coping After Child Loss

    May 9, 2016

    On this show Dr’s. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview bereaved parent and creator of the Grief Diaries brand of books, webinars, and film. The second guest is Barbara Hopkinson, bereaved parent and author of A Butterfly’s Journey To A New Normal. She is a certified Grief Recovery Specialist and a Compassionate Friends Chapter Leader. We […]

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  • For the Ones Left Behind: A Guide for Helping Loved Ones After a Death

    May 23, 2016

    A death can shatter the lives of those left behind. Now, there are so many things to do. Who do you call? Where do you start? How can you help? Managing to survive in the aftermath of a loved one’s death is a daunting task. For the Ones Left Behind, A Guide for Helping Loved […]