Special Topics, Your Grief

Anticipatory Grief and Holidays: 12 Survival Tips

Monday, November 26, 2007

Anticipatory grief – a feeling of loss before a death or dreaded event occurs – is a hard journey. Holidays make it even harder. At a time when you’re supposed to feel happy and joyful, you feel sad and anxious. You’re on pins and needles and wonder what will happen next. Remember, your grief stems from love, and you may find comfort in that. Holidays don’t erase your reasons for feeling sad and lonely, according to the National Mental Health Association, and “there is room for these feelings to be present.” So accept your feelings and, if you feel like […]

Special Topics, Your Grief

How to Be Kind to Yourself When Mourning

Sunday, November 25, 2007

Have you forgotten all about your physical needs since the death of your loved one? Perhaps you have lost all interest in life. Are you afraid to focus your attention on anything other than the deceased, because you believe to do so means you are being disrespectful? Forgetting the self and thinking that any form of enjoyment when grieving is wrong, causes millions of mourners unnecessary suffering. The beliefs that fuel these behaviors exist and are reinforced based on a lack of information about the nature of the grief process. Grieving is arduous mental and physical work; it affects every […]

Death of a Child, Special Topics

Poem: Can You Take Away My Endless Pain?

Monday, November 19, 2007

Can you take away my endless pain? Then, stop preaching! Your plea is in vain “It is good to do this or do that” you comment “To have closure and move on and stop your lament” These words make my heart ache Please, do not mention them for my sake I know your intention is to comfort me However, you are causing me pain, can’t you see? Time is the best healer everyone says It will get better and easier throughout the days You do not understand, it is a shame! Believe me I know it is out of love, […]

Death of a Child, Special Topics

Poem: A Year Has Passed

Monday, November 5, 2007

A broken heart, mine has become From a pain that is only known to some There is no pain like a mother’s pain Who is unable to see her daughter again A year has gone, my precious one When you said, “Mum, come watch the sun” Hours later, you were called to heaven above Leaving me astounded and all those you love No tears can wash away the grief in my heart Your death has ripped it to pieces apart The amazing woman you have grown Blessed with many things, let wit alone Has been chosen to leave early, by […]