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  • Lynne Ann DeSpelder: Death Rituals

    June 25, 2016

    Lynne Ann DeSpelder talks with Dr. Heidi Horsley about death rituals during the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) conference. DeSpelder is a counselor, professor of psychology, and co-author of the book The Last Dance: Encountering Death and Dying, which is now in its eighth edition. A leader in the industry, DeSpelder got into […]

  • ‘Mort for Short:’ A Bereavement Tale

    June 24, 2016

    This is an excerpt from a book in progress about how play can help children communicate their thoughts and feelings, including grief. The action picks up in the therapist’s office. Nickie, at 8 ½, was not at all happy about seeing a “shrink.” “It was pathetic that they sent me here.”  She hated her life.  […]

  • Coping With Sibling Loss

    June 23, 2016

    Houston, Texas counselor Beryl Kaminsky shares tips for handling sibling loss during the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) conference. She wrote Mending the Broken Heart: After Your Child Dies, which is also an audiobook. Working through the loss of a sibling can be traumatizing. Growing up in the shadow of sibling loss can […]

  • Jon Reid: Becoming a Grief Counselor

    June 22, 2016

    Dr. Heidi Horsley talks with Dr. Jon Reid, a Professor of Psychology and Counseling at Southeastern Oklahoma State during the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) conference. He’s a certified fellow in thanatology from ADEC and shares his experience about becoming a grief counselor. There were a few key events that inspired Dr. Reid […]

  • Isabel Stenzel Byrnes: Facing Mortality

    June 21, 2016

    During the 2015 Association for Death Education and Counseling conference, Dr. Gloria Horsley connects with Isabel Stenzel Byrnes about finding hope and balance while living with an illness. Born with cystic fibrosis, Byrnes wasn’t given many years to live—but she has proven doctors wrong again and again. She attended CF-related camps as a child and […]

  • Shep Jeffreys: Helping Grieving People When Tears are Not Enough

    June 21, 2016

    Open to Hope Foundation’s Dr. Gloria Horsley interviews Shep Jeffreys for the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) organization. What happens when tears aren’t enough to help you grief? Jeffreys is an assistant professor of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University. He’s also a psychologist and grief counselor with a private practice. He’s also the […]

  • Jenny Wheeler: Reassuring Grieving Teens

    June 20, 2016

    Author Jenny Wheeler talks about losing her dad when she was a teenager. She wrote Weird is Normal When Teenagers Grieve to help other teenagers struggling with their own losses. She encourages teens and anyone who’s experienced a loss to connect with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC), which hosts an annual conference. […]

  • A Young Father’s Murder

    June 17, 2016

    I met Randall when he was just six years old, the youngest of three siblings, one brother Mickey, and older sister Nancy, who was to become a lifelong friend. But at thirteen, we rarely thought of the future. It was fun to go to her house. Since I was an only child, I thought her […]

  • Father’s Day: A Duel Between Happiness and Sadness

    June 17, 2016

    The first Father’s Day I remember was when I was 8 or 9, and my dad and I were on an “Indian Guides” camping weekend with our “Tribe.” “Indian Guides” was a father and son organization run by the YMCA, and that weekend lots of fathers and their boys went camping in cabins, roughing it, […]

  • Fathers of Faith

    June 15, 2016

    The hymn, Faith of Our Fathers, inspires the worshipper to be true to our forefathers’ Christian faith and to lead others to Christ through the example we set in our own lives.  As Father’s Day approaches, it is with gratitude to God that I remember those whom we have “loved and lost awhile” as well […]

  • Grief Tips for Those Who Lost Loved Ones in Orlando

    June 13, 2016

    The loss this weekend in Orlando is devastating to anyone that has heard about this senseless mass murder. However, for those that were directly impacted because they lost a child, friend, or loved one, the sense of loss is beyond words. It’s difficult to even know where to start in this type of grieving process, […]

  • Why Does it Hurt So Much?

    June 13, 2016

    Grieving people usually don’t ask directly: Why does it hurt so much? But I see that it hurts; I hurt like that. It hurts because you loved. You were connected to another human being heart to heart. It hurts. Death hurts a lot when we love like this. This hurt causes an incredible amount of […]

  • Tragedy in Orlando, Collective Grief and Aftershocks of Loss

    June 13, 2016

    If the tragic  events in Orlando yesterday were heavy for you and served as a painful reminder of the personal loss or losses you’ve endured, you are not alone in the sorrow you’re experiencing today.  Once again our entire nation finds itself immersed in collective grief. For many Americans the feelings of grief associated with […]

  • Valarie Molaison: Supporting Grieving Families for the Long Haul

    June 12, 2016

    Right after someone passes is often the most difficult period. Dr. Heidi Horsley interviews Dr. Valarie Molaison about how to handle this time, and what you can do to help support grieving families. Dr. Molaison is the clinical director at Supporting Kids in Delaware. Dr. Horsley points out that society gives people a lot of […]

  • Father’s Day After Your Father Has Died

    June 11, 2016

    It’s Father’s Day, and for more than 100 million Americans whose fathers have died, it will be a day of missing Dad. What can these fatherless Americans do to make the holiday meaningful? For my book, FatherLoss, I interviewed several hundred people about the death of their dads. And some were actually a little relieved […]

  • ‘Were You Two Close?’ Reflections on the Death of my Virtual Father

    June 7, 2016

    When I was in my mid-20s, my mother married a charismatic photographer named Tom. He was the owner of a photography studio and son of a LIFE magazine photographer, and he and I connected on the subject of art and entrepreneurship. I was an art history major, and had just started my own business as […]

  • Peter Hanlon: Bereavement Camp

    June 6, 2016

    During an Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) conference, Dr. Gloria Horsley interviews Peter Hanlon, a registered nurse and bereavement specialist at HSE who manages bereavement camps. Based in Ireland, the camps began in 1995 for children only, but over time it was found that a family camp was necessary. Groups of families are […]

  • Disenfranchised Grief

    May 30, 2016

    Disenfranchised grief is a type of grief that a majority of people stigmatize and/or don’t feel comfortable talking about. This can include suicide, pet loss, death from an overdose, and other losses that aren’t considered mainstream. Dr. Gloria Horsley interviewed Dr. Ken Doka at the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) conference to talk […]

  • Staying Open to Signs of Continued Love

    May 29, 2016

    Karla Wheeler and her daughter, Jenny Wheeler, share with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) their story of loss and healing. How can you stay connected with a loved one who has died? Jenny’s grandparents/Karla’s parents have both passed away. Additionally, Karla’s husband and Jenny’s father died a few years ago. The mother-daughter […]

  • Dianne Gray: When a Child is Diagnosed with a Life Limiting Illness

    May 28, 2016

    The president of Hospice and Healthcare Communications, Dianne Gray, speaks with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) about the process of having a child that’s diagnosed with a life-limiting illness. Her condolences come first. There was a time when Gray herself was the parent of such a child. “Get ready for the ride […]

  • Participants Needed for Study on Physician Behavior After a Loss

    May 27, 2016

    We are writing to invite you to participate in a study about your loss and the experiences you may have had in contacts with a physician following the loss. We are inviting people bereaved from all causes of death. At this point, we don’t know much about the experience that bereaved individuals have in their […]

  • You’ve Got a Friend: Spending Time with Fellow Grievers

    May 25, 2016

    As a psychologist, I have learned how important the human need to belong and feel appreciated is to mental health. But what happens when we lose an important relationship, especially during childhood? How does the death of a close loved one affect a little one, when personality and self-esteem are still in the formative stages? […]

  • Learning to Accept Life’s Multiple Truths

    May 25, 2016

    One of my duties as a hospital chaplain is to plan and conduct memorial services at the hospital when an employee dies.  This may happen several times a year.  I usually try to arrange for someone to sing a reflective song as part of the service. There are several employees that sing in church choirs, […]

  • Therese Wenner: Cranial Sacral

    May 24, 2016

    If you haven’t heard of cranial sacral work before, you’re not alone. Dr. Gloria Horsley interviews Therese Wenner at the National Alliance for Grieving Children conference, and discusses the benefits of this form of therapy. Based in Olympia, Washington, Wenner has a private practice that focuses on cranial sacral therapy. For those in grief, this […]

  • Love, Separation, and the ‘Dance Full of Mystery’

    May 23, 2016

    The author of How We Grieve: Relearning the World, Dr. Tom Attig, talks about love and separation with the Open to Hope Foundation. As a philosopher, Dr. Attig takes a unique approach to teaching and talking about grief. Loving someone is a dance full of mystery, he explains. With every dance partner, you can feel […]

  • Years of Love: Measuring a Life After a Loss

    May 22, 2016

    Years astound me. Forever etched in my mind a calculation of time, reminders, anniversaries, dates, and birthdays. I still find it hard to believe August 1, 2015, marked the 25th anniversary we lost my beloved sister Margie. To celebrate my 25th birthday in October 1981 marked the last time I saw my beloved sister Jane […]

  • Jamie Yetter: Families and Organ Donation

    May 20, 2016

    The family services coordinator with the Arkansas Regional Organ Recovery Agency (ARORA), Jamie Yetter, sat down with Dr. Gloria Horsley to discuss organ donation. Families and organ donation is a tricky subject. As a chaplain, Yetter gets referrals from hospitals about someone who potentially is an organ donor. Yetter goes on-site to see if the […]

  • Managing A Death Anniversary

    May 19, 2016

    After losing my husband to brain cancer last year, I was often warned about the one-year anniversary of losing a loved one. The Death Anniversary. I was no stranger to this feeling; I had lost my father when I was a kid and my mother passed away the year before last… except this time was […]

  • Mother’s Day Memories

    May 17, 2016

    Let me just start by saying it was a wonderful Mother’s Day surprise to see that the Open to Hope Foundation wanted me to write articles for them!  It made getting up at 4am today to catch my 5am bus all worth it. My Mother’s Day was not one of the best, and therefore I […]

  • Young Adults Coping with Grief

    May 16, 2016

    Counselor in Houston, and author of Mending the Broken Heart: After Your Child Dies Beryl Kaminsky, shares with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) how young adults can help heal themselves on a grief journey. She works with those dealing with loss and grief, and especially death and dying. Being in your late […]

  • Eternity is Real and Death is a Myth

    May 13, 2016

    “It is very beautiful over there.”  Thomas Edison, on his deathbed, describing a vision he was having. “Oh wow! Oh wow! Oh wow!”  Steve Jobs, on his deathbed, last words uttered. Yes, losing a child is a terrible thing.  Attending your own child’s funeral has to be the most devastating, surreal and painful event you […]

  • National Alliance for Grieving Children Helps Kids with Grief

    May 12, 2016

    Executive Director of the Dougy Center for Grieving Children, Dr. Donna Schuurman, talks with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) about resources for children facing a loss. She’s joined by Pamela Gabbay, part of the National Alliance for Grieving Children. The two work closely with children who have experienced loss through death. They […]

  • Spring—A Haunted Season

    May 11, 2016

    We are all haunted by the dead, and that reality, like so many others, is both challenge and comfort. Autumn with its Halloween, falling leaves, frosty air and increasingly bare branches is usually thought of as the season of haunting, but we grieving people know that spring has ghosts of its own. Mother’s Day, Father’s […]

  • A Letter to My Living Children for Mother’s Day

    May 3, 2016

    Dearest ones, Mother’s Day is quickly approaching. Each year, I’ve received beautiful hand drawn cards or beautiful crafts from you that I cherish and save. Your words of love and appreciation are an echo of the profound love and appreciation I feel for each of you. Not just on Mother’s Day, but every day. And […]

  • Loss Changes Everything

    May 2, 2016

    I had one of “those days” recently – the kind of day when I feel a subtle but pervasive discomfort, uneasiness, agitation. Trying to feel better, I searched through the whole forest of my brain to determine what was wrong. It could be any number of things. Did I forget to pay a bill, or […]

  • By Adversity Our Hearts Are Made Better: How Loss May Strengthen Us

    April 29, 2016

    It was so ironic that as I was flying home on a wonderful United Airlines flight at some 300 mph from the ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling) conference, I was reading David McCullough’s book, The Wright Brothers.  It is ironic because the conference had a lot to do about sharing the best of […]

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  • Episode 77: Proactive Grieving

    June 3, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Alan Petersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, interview Megan Carmody, bereaved sibling of Kelly and Gwen Oliver, bereaved daughter of Marlene, on finding hope after the death of a sibling/parent. Megan’s father Mitch, author of Letters To My Son, and is founder of Proactive Grieving®, joins the […]

  • Episode 75: Returning to Work After Loss

    June 3, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, talk with bereaved parents Terri O’Rourke and Tim Meadows about the challenges of returning to work after the deaths of their son’s, both name Christopher. A video clip is played regarding grief in the workplace produced by psychologist and bereaved […]

  • Episode 74: Grief Diaries

    May 10, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Lynda Cheldelin Fell, Linda Bateman Gomez , Carol Scibelli and Christine Duminiak. These four women have found hope after loss and have contributed to the Grief Diaries brand of books created by Lynda Fell. Lynda is also the executive president of the newly formed National Grief […]

  • Episode 73: Replacement Children

    May 9, 2016

    On this show Dr.’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Judy Mandel and Rita Battat Silverman regarding their books on children who become the replacement child for their deceased sibling. Rita is the co-author of Replacement Children: The Unconscious Script with a foreward by Katie Couric and Judy Mandel is the author of Replacement Child: a […]

  • Episode 72: Coping After Child Loss

    May 9, 2016

    On this show Dr’s. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview bereaved parent and creator of the Grief Diaries brand of books, webinars, and film. The second guest is Barbara Hopkinson, bereaved parent and author of A Butterfly’s Journey To A New Normal. She is a certified Grief Recovery Specialist and a Compassionate Friends Chapter Leader. We […]

  • Episode 71: Coping With Cancer Loss

    May 4, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Bill Goeren LCSW director of clinical services at CancerCare in Manhattan regarding services for those who are grieving the loss of a family member. The second guest is Nancy Cincotta psychosocial director of Camp Sunshine located in Maine providing support for children and their families who […]

  • Episode 70: Tuesday’s Children

    May 3, 2016

    On this show Dr’s, Gloria and Heidi Horsley discuss with Eileen Lynch MSW the loss of both her husband and brother-in-law on September 11, 2001 in the Twin Towers. The second guest is Sallie Lynch Development Consultant for Tuesday’s Children, Sallie discusses the lessons learned regarding community healing and resilience. A Tuesday’s Children video clip […]

  • Episode 69: Friends Helping Friends

    May 3, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley are joined by Dana Lerner bereaved mother of Cooper Stock. Jackie Kern and Matt Vidmar a teacher & coach at the Calhoun school discuss honoring and remembering Cooper. A video is shown of friends and teachers honoring Cooper. The show closes with Sam Horn and Jackson Lundy, […]

  • MINDFULNESS & GRIEF Coping With Grief & Loss Through Meditation, Yoga & Journaling

    May 27, 2016

    Coping with grief when your loved one has died may seem like an impossible task. Few words bring comfort, and there is no quick fix for a broken heart. In addition to overwhelming sadness, many of us feel stuck and unsure of how to proceed with life after loss. There is no right or wrong […]

  • For the Ones Left Behind: A Guide for Helping Loved Ones After a Death

    May 23, 2016

    A death can shatter the lives of those left behind. Now, there are so many things to do. Who do you call? Where do you start? How can you help? Managing to survive in the aftermath of a loved one’s death is a daunting task. For the Ones Left Behind, A Guide for Helping Loved […]