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  • Sheryl Sandberg Redefines Empathy in Eloquent Reflection on Grief

    June 20, 2015

    Sheryl Sandberg and Dave Goldberg Sheryl Sandberg’s recent Facebook post (bit.ly/sandbergempathy), written a month after her husband died, is a wise reflection on the rawness of grief — and a testament to the resiliency of those who grieve. Her heart-rending story gives us a hundred gifts, perhaps the greatest of which has not as much […]

  • The Relationship Continues, the Context has Changed

    June 17, 2015

    I spoke to Bridget, who nearly one year after her dad’s passing at the age of sixty-four was missing him terribly. She always had a close connection to her dad and was one of his caretakers while he was quite ill the year before he passed away. She believes in an afterlife and believes that […]

  • Running from Dad’s Death

    June 16, 2015

    “I need to see Dad,” I said to Mom. I stood in my parents’ bedroom. My mother’s clothes were strewn on the floor and the bed was unmade. “I’m in a hurry, Elaine. I have to get to the hospital.” “I know,” I said. “Take me with you. I want to see Dad. He’s MY […]

  • A Father ‘Hears From’ His Deceased Son on Father’s Day

    June 15, 2015

    Hi Dad, I have been thinking awhile of what I would write to you on Father’s Day, what I want to tell you, as well as what you need to hear.  For Father’s Day, a day that you have never embraced since the loss of your father so long ago, God has finally let me […]

  • The Death of My Father: Lingering Guilt

    June 13, 2015

    January 11, 2003, I sat on my father’s bed chatting with him at the Mercer Island Care Center. At age 80, he was attempting to recover from a bout of pneumonia. At around 9:30 pm, I kissed him good-bye, got up from the bed and said I’d see him tomorrow. I can still see him […]

  • Mitch Carmody: Proactive Grieving

    June 12, 2015

    Grieving shouldn’t just be a passive process—but many people need help being proactive about it. Dr. Gloria Horsley from the Open to Hope Foundation recently spoke with proactive grieving expert Mitch Carmody of Heartlight Studios about what it means to grieve in a proactive manner. Carmody brings his own experience to the table, having lost […]

  • Cori Bussolari: Grief Therapy What Families Need

    June 11, 2015

    With a background in pediatric psychology, Dr. Cori Bussolari now specializes in grief therapy within a private practice and also teaches at the University of San Francisco. She has extensive experience working with parents of dying children and parents of children who have already passed. Recently, she spoke with the Executive Director of the Open […]

  • My Fathers in Heaven

    June 11, 2015

    Both my fathers are in Heaven. For me, it has always been this way. If God watched me from the moon, Daddy rested on the brightest nearby star. I grew up dreaming of the time I would get to meet my Daddy, face to face. I sought out his footsteps, so I could somehow follow […]

  • As Life Ended, He Knew He Had Done the Best He Could

    June 11, 2015

    Developmental theorist Eric Erickson1 described our final developmental task as being the need to review our life to determine if the gods are pleased. In doing a life review, we sort through the various aspects of our life and conclude either with believing we have done the best we could, or determining there are things […]

  • Finding the Good Stuff on Father’s Day

    June 10, 2015

    I will always remember my Uncle Steve in his work clothing, coming home from a long day of repairing cars and trucks. His boots were worn, and his clothing stained with grease. He would be so tired that he would lie down on the carpet. Often, he would fall asleep there from sheer exhaustion. When […]

  • A Letter to My Daddy in Heaven

    June 10, 2015

    Dear Daddy, It’s been a long time since I’ve written to you. I miss doing that. We shared so many big and little things in our frequent emails and phone calls. Our conversations shrank the distance and connected us every day. Now that you’re gone from this earthly plane, I miss those exchanges dearly. Our […]

  • Gone Too Soon: A Father’s Day Remembrance

    June 8, 2015

    Fathers are so important in our lives. To those fathers who are still with us, Happy Father’s Day. To those fathers who preceded us in death, who are gone too soon, we remember you. A special shout-out to all of the single fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers, father figures, uncles, clergy, godfathers, neighbors, counselors, support group facilitators, […]

  • Sheryl Sandberg’s Public Grief a Gift to All

    June 3, 2015

    Facebook executive and author Sheryl Sandberg used her personal facebook account today to speak out about the pain of losing her young husband last month and to thank friends and fans for their support in the aftermath. In a poignant 1,700-word post, Ms. Sandberg also took the opportunity to provide a virtual checklist of lessons […]

  • Howard Winokuer: Having Hope

    June 3, 2015

    “It’s okay to see past some of the issues,” urges Dr. Howard Winokuer, the founder of The Winokuer Center for Counseling and Healing in Charlotte, North Carolina. Speaking with Dr. Heidi Horsley at the Association of Death Education and Counseling conference in 2015, he explains that, “It’s okay to have hope even if things don’t […]

  • Lyn Prashant: Body Work After Loss

    May 28, 2015

    As a bereaved spouse herself, Lyn Prashant specializes in “body work” after loss. She recently talked with Dr. Gloria Horsley from the Open to Hope Foundation about options for those in various stages of grieving when it comes to using the body as part of the healing process. “After my husband died, I found that […]

  • Be Aware of Anticipatory Grief

    May 27, 2015

    Sooner or later, we all experience anticipatory grief—a feeling of loss before a death or dreaded event occurs. Unfortunately, many people do not realize they are going through this process, and think something is wrong with them. You may be experiencing anticipatory grief now. Nothing is wrong with you; it is a normal response to […]

  • Trust Heals: Journeying With Faith, Hope and Patience

    May 18, 2015

    “With Open Hands” –  Free me, Lord, from the inner bondage and endless cycle of what I think needs to happen before I can be happy.  Free me, Lord, from my idea of the solution. Help me to wait with open ended, joyful expectation; and help me to experience your peace. Amen  (Charles W. Sidoti). […]

  • The Gifts of Promise and Hope in Grief

    May 17, 2015

    The Hidden Gifts in Catastrophe Following catastrophic loss or any life altering transition there may be teachings or unanticipated gifts that we discover in the process of transforming our worldviews.  Following the death of my 18-year-old daughter Jeannine, I discovered the gifts of “transient angels”, individuals who crossed my path for a short time. Their […]

  • Unleash the Silence: Compassion for Surviving Siblings

    May 11, 2015

    Losing my beloved sisters Jane and Margie impacted my life in ways I did not comprehend until years later. Their passing shaped the person I am today. With hard work, support, guidance, and the cheering of many, I re-discovered Judy after 30 years. The topic I choose to unleash, although extremely sensitive, needs to be […]

  • Mother’s Day Haikus

    May 9, 2015

    Editor’s note: We recently asked our contributing writers to create Haikus related to Mother’s Day. Here are some of the poems. Hard being a mother When your child is far away Hug them in your heart – Neal Raisman An angel you are A bright light among the stars And for you, I weep – […]

  • Renaming the Stages of Grief

    April 28, 2015

    Chances are, you’ve heard of the stages of grief Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced in her 1969 book, “On Death and Dying.” The stages are: 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Bargaining 4. Depression 5. Acceptance It is a very nice idea that you can break grief down into defined segments that have a clear beginning and […]

  • What is Mother’s Day after Mother is Gone?

    April 26, 2015

    What is Mother’s Day? A day to honor mothers. To me, it’s also the day that American University hosts its graduation. May 13, 2007, I sullenly watched David Gregory give a very witty speech about something I’m fairly certain was inspirational. My mother died the year before and I wasn’t in the mood for Mother’s […]

  • Kaleidoscope: Rearranging the Pieces After Loss

    April 17, 2015

    It’s been 80 months since I became a widow, 21 months since I said vows for the second time, and two months since my first child was born. Sometimes I need to pinch myself. As I tenderly rock my little girl in my arms, I can’t help but remember the reason I got this rocking […]

  • Pain is Inevitable; Suffering is Optional

    April 10, 2015

    “Does time heal all wounds?” If you are a griever, you have no doubt heard this cliché more than once. On April 16, 1993, our son, Chad, died as a result of suicide. Family and friends know that it doesn’t pay to ask, “Do you ever get over it?” Our response will always be the […]

  • Avoid the Grief Pitfall of Isolation

    April 8, 2015

    Once a loved one dies, the desire to isolate can be overwhelming. Spending time alone to rest, meditate, and remember is restorative, but grief experts tell us shunning others ultimately won’t bring peace. It’s important to find people who can help us work through the grieving process. Sometimes these people can be family members and […]

  • Mother’s Day: A Happy and Sad Occasion

    April 6, 2015

    One Mother’s Day after another passes by since I lost my daughter in September 2006. It does not get easier as years go by. How can this day not intensify my grief after losing one of my three children? Mother’s Day will never be the same ever! This day that used to bring me joy […]

  • Grief in Spring?

    March 23, 2015

    If Spring makes you feel better and to feel new hope, that is a good, positive and nurturing thing. But it may not be true for everyone, and no one should feel they have to hide their true feelings. It is perfectly normal to experience new heightened grief and/or grief-related anxiety in Spring, just as […]

  • Reaching Out, Sharing Grief

    March 22, 2015

    When our son, Timmy, died at age 20 from a skateboard accident, many of our friends, searching for words, said “I can’t imagine…” And of course they can’t. It is beyond our expectations, beyond our understanding of reality, that a vibrant, young person could be plucked from the world so suddenly. It was certainly beyond […]

  • When Grief Subsides….What’s Beyond?

    March 20, 2015

    Grief a major part of a widow/widower’s life. Although everyone works through grief in their own way, there are still some similarities. I’d guess the majority of widow/widowers go through various stages of shock, denial, guilt, anger, depression, and hopefully acceptance. But every journey will also be unique. Once we work through our stages of grief and accept our loss, the grief […]

  • Turning Tragedy into Hope

    March 17, 2015

    March 17th is normally for most people a day of celebration – St. Patrick’s Day. What a saint he was too, not only bringing a message of hope to the Irish, but also to the rest of the British Isles during his lifetime. March 17th, 2011, was a day that changed my life for all […]

Open to Hope Radio

  • Miriam Greenspan: The Wisdom of Grief

    June 18, 2015

    Psychotherapist and author Miriam Greenspan was born in a displaced-persons camp in southern Germany shortly after World War II. She is the mother of a child who died in infancy and has a daughter with multiple disabilities. Her most recent book is Healing through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair.

  • Christopher Jones: Mitchell’s Journey a Personal Story of Reflection and Discovery

    June 11, 2015

    Christopher Jones is the author of Mitchell’s Journey, a Facebook blog which has nearly 300,000 followers. Chris began the blog a few years prior to his son, Mitchell’s death from heart failure caused by Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy. He has along with his family and friends shared with the world his personal journey of reflection and […]

  • Wendy Resnick: Bereavement Groups: Can they help?

    June 4, 2015

    Wendy Resnick works as a Clinical Nurse Specialist in Psychiatric Nursing. She specializes in Group Leader Training and is a trainer and consultant for The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, The Compassionate Friends, and Cure. For over thirty years, Wendy has been assisting professionals and laypeople to develop and maintain effective support groups nationwide.

  • When Grief Won’t Heal: Phyllis Kosminsky

    May 28, 2015

    Phyllis Kosminsky, PhD is a clinical social worker in private practice and at the Center for Hope in Darien, Connecticut. Her work focuses on grief, loss and trauma. She is the author of Getting Back to Life When Grief Won’t Heal.

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    May 28, 2015

    Phyllis Kosminsky, PhD is a clinical social worker in private practice and at the Center for Hope in Darien, Connecticut. Her work focuses on grief, loss and trauma. She is the author of Getting Back to Life When Grief Won’t Heal.

  • Finding Joy Again After Loss: Beth Marshall

    May 21, 2015

    Beth Marshall is a contributing writer for the Open to Hope Foundation, and the author of two grief-related journals. Her newest book, Grief Survivor~ 28 Steps Toward Hope and Healing was designed to help people write and remember their loved one; and realize there really can be a joy-filled life after loss!

  • Finding Joy Again After Loss: Beth Marshall

    May 21, 2015

    Beth Marshall is a contributing writer for the Open to Hope Foundation, and the author of two grief-related journals. Her newest book, Grief Survivor~ 28 Steps Toward Hope and Healing was designed to help people write and remember their loved one; and realize there really can be a joy-filled life after loss!

  • Simple Tools for Managing Stress: Barbara Schmidt

    May 14, 2015

    Barbara Schmidt is founder of Peaceful Mind Peaceful World, a community outreach program through Florida Atlantic University promoting dialogue in the greater community on the topic of inner peace. She is the author of THE PRACTICE: Simple Tools for Managing Stress, Finding Inner Peace and Uncovering Happiness.

  • Culture and Grief: Ethel Gardner

    May 7, 2015

    Ethel Gardner is the President of the board of the Kennedy Austin foundation located in Pomona, California. In 1992 she lost her only son, Damon J. Jones, 17, in a traffic accident. As an African American she discusses the cultural aspects of bereavement and how they impact grief support. She has written several books; including; […]

  • Death of a Husband: Elaine Mansfield

    April 30, 2015

    Elaine Mansfield leads workshops and bereavement support groups and writes for Hospicare and Palliative Care of Tompkins County in Ithaca, NY Her writing reflects her forty years as a student of Jungian psychology, mythology, meditation, and nature. Since her husband’s death in 2008, her work has focused on a search for love, meaning, and healing […]

  • Alternative Healing After Loss: Karen Noe

    April 23, 2015

    Karen Noe is a renowned New Jersey-based psychic medium, spiritual counselor, and healer. She is the founder of the Angel Quest Center in Ramsey NJ, where she teaches classes, gives readings, and practices alternative healing. She hosts The Angel Quest radio show and is the author of a number of books including “Your Life After […]

  • Assisted Suicide and Grief: Dr. Robert Liner

    March 26, 2015

    Dr. Robert Liner is a graduate of Stanford University, Honors in Humanities, and the University of Rochester Medical School. He practiced and taught ob/gyn twenty years in San Francisco, was in private practice in the bay area, and served on the faculty of UCSF in their Prenatal Diagnostic Center. He is now retired and volunteers […]

  • Continuing Bonds After Death: Brittany Trauthwein

    March 19, 2015

    Brittany Trauthwein M.A. specializes in grief and loss and end of life matters. Her research was influenced by her own grief journey after the loss of family members. She studies how individuals continue bonds with loved ones who have passed away, particularly adult children remaining in relationship with deceased parents.

  • AIDS and Grief : Doneley Meris

    March 12, 2015

    Doneley Meris Grief Psychotherapist and Training Educator, is the founder and executive director of HIV Arts Network. He is adjunct faculty at New York University and the chair of the People Of Color/Multi-Cultural Committee of the Association for Death Education and Counseling.

Open to Hope TV

  • Episode 49: Trauma Treatments

    May 7, 2015

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss with Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk author of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma EMDR and Neurofeedback for repairing faulty connections and connectivity patterns. Dr. David Fajgenbaum joins the group to discuss how the death of […]

  • Episode 48: Trauma/Heal The Body

    May 7, 2015

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss with Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk author of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma how yoga and other physical activities help the bereaved. Bereaved spouse Dr. Lyn Prashant PhD, FT, joins the discussion of helping the […]

  • Episode 47: Healing Trauma/Creative Activities

    May 7, 2015

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss with Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk author of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma how creative activities can help promote our natural, innate healing mechanisms. They are joined by bereaved parent, Sharon Strouse, board certified Art […]

  • Episode 45: The Compassionate Friends: Groups Helping Parents, Siblings and Grandparents

    May 7, 2015

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Michele Muro and Babe-Anthony Muro, bereaved parent and stepparent of Lori who was killed in an automobile accident while serving in the U.S. Navy. Also on the show are Arnie and Varda Wendorf. Their daughter Lauren was also killed in an automobile accident. Michele […]

  • Episode 44: COPS; Supporting Cops and their Families

    May 7, 2015

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Dennis Jones the Executive Director of Concerns of Police Survivors (C.O.P.S). and Anthony (Babe) Muro a supporter and friend of the police community. They discuss how C.O.P.S. supports individuals and families after a fellow officer has fallen and offer suggestions on how the community […]

  • Episode 42: Saving At Risk Children

    May 7, 2015

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Tashel Bordere Ph.D., CT regarding her work in death, dying and bereavement with black families. A video clip is shown featuring Harlem Mother’s S.A.V.E. followed by an interview with founder Jackie Rowe-Adams bereaved mother of Anthony and Tyrone who lost their lives to gun […]