When the death of a loved one happens suddenly and unexpectedly, it can crack your heart wide open. The shock and pain of the loss is numbing at first because […]
Bereavement
Tolerating the Intolerable: Beyond Numbing
Thursday, August 6, 2015
Death of a Child, Your Grief
Renaming the Stages of Grief
Tuesday, April 28, 2015
Chances are, you’ve heard of the stages of grief Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced in her 1969 book, “On Death and Dying.” The stages are: 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Bargaining […]
Death of a Child
The Terms of My Surrender
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
From the moment you came into my life, I hated you. I despised you. You came on the heels of my worst nightmare come true – the death of my […]
Death of a Child
God’s Plan in the Grocery Store
Tuesday, June 24, 2014
With my whole heart I can say that I am not afraid of anything in life now that I’ve watched my son die. Nothing can ever be harder than that […]
Death of a Child
‘How Are You?’: A Silent Signpost for the Newly Bereaved
Tuesday, November 19, 2013
“How are you?” It is such a seemingly simple, benign question. Often, those who ask the question are not doing so out of real concern, but just as a polite, […]
Other Losses, Your Grief
Poem: The Thief
Monday, July 8, 2013
The night was cold, the fire burning old And the shepherd couldn’t take his eyes off his flock His stare was dry, life the air of the night And his […]
Death of a Spouse, Special Topics, Your Grief
Father’s Day: Time to Discard Anger and Guilt
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
By Sandra Pesmen — If you want to celebrate any holiday, especially Father’s Day, you have to learn to deal with anger and guilt. Whether we widows admit it or […]
Other Losses, Your Grief
Even mass tragedy should be personal
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
In recent months I’ve watched tragedy unfold far away from me, in places like Norway and Japan, and very close to me in my home state of Alabama. As I […]
Death of a Spouse
Widowhood: The TV Reality Series
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Do you ever think that the networks are missing out on the ultimate reality series? What has more drama, sick humor, running mascara, and (sometimes) hair-pulling than widowhood? When I […]
Death of a Spouse
Maintaining Friendships After a Spouse-Loss
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships lately and how they change and I know that’s also on the minds of many of my widow(er) friends out there. I guess […]
